Adoption journey

[dreamofabean]

Oh I totally agree! Little mans fc already says she can see us more in him already in the pics I've sent her!
Little man has done the cutest new thing today! We constantly munch him and for a few weeks he's been slapping his lips together as if he's blowing kisses! Today he started sucking his cheeks in and blowing proper kisses! We went shopping and he did it all the way round the shops so clever!! When we say 'clever boy' he claps himself! Lol x

 

[Rainy123]

I watched the adoption programme on Wednesday - cried a lot and now want to adopt all children over 5! It did make me realise that I would never cope with an activity day though - I barely coped with watching it on tv. It has made me realise that not having a very young baby wouldn't be the end of the world though.

Lolly - I am glad things went as well as they did. I think it is always bound to be an emotional time for birth parents so to go that well is amazing.

 

[Lolly1985]

Love it!!!! How gorgeous is he?!! They are so funny, when we say 'good girl' she looks and us, smiles, nods her head and says 'yeah'! Total agreement, like I would be anything but mummy!! Funny babies xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

Thanks Rainy, crossed posts! I am glad that you are feeling positive and maybe a little more open to varying matches because of the programme. It really was lovely and I've seen on adoption UK a lot of interest in the boys and contact details, so I think they'll find their forever family soon xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah that's lovely, I really hope they find their forever families soon!!!
Whilst it's very emotional, I actually didn't feel as emotional on the day as I did when I saw that programme! Very strange really! X

 

[aimze]

I saw on adoption UK people where asking about them so hopefully they get their forever families soon!!

You're both so right, those little kids for us needed a full time at home mummy an financially I can't do that, also for a first child we have a lot of learning, let alone with a child whose health issues would include not liking change which is a massive thing in adoption. Poor little ones an I really hope someone who is an experianced parent can take on.

Feel quite sad we don't have any profiles to look at really want our family complete!

X

 

[dreamofabean]

Your little one will find you when the time is right honey! We were so disappointed when we were approved and there were no children in our authority that matched our 'criteria' as such. Thank god there wasn't though, because then we wouldn't have our perfect boy! He was soooo worth the wait! Just prepare all that you can now and make the most of shopping when you please and seeing your friends etc!
People always said to me (when we were ttc) that your baby will come when it's ready, not when you are. That's also very true in adoption!! X

 

[karenh]

Lollly: It sounds like your meeting with the birthparents went well! Awesome that birth dad showed up. I am a nanny for a family with 4 children. 2 of them are adopted. Let me tell you, they are absolutely taking on the mannerisms and such of their family. It is really cool to see how they all are similar because of that.

Dream: It is so fun seeing children learn new things. Sounds like your little guy is doing great!

Aimze: I am sorry it is so hard trying to find the child that belongs with you. I feel the same way. Hopefully it won't be too much longer.

AFM: Still looking for a permanent job, and still no real prospects about a child.

 

[Rainy123]

Well the baby i was being considered for is not for me. A couple were chosen instead. I feel pretty level headed about it. While I would've loved to have a baby (and I'm glad I tried for one), I think being chosen above couples will always be incredibly difficult and I am now ready to consider more toddler age.

My social worker has been approached by someone who is interested in me for a girl who is coming up to 2. Now waiting to hear how that pans out.

 

[Loski83]

Rainy good luck with the little girl she will be at such an amazing stage. Hi everyone and hope your all ok.

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi everyone!

Thanks for sharing your story about the little ones Karen. How lovely to see them developing similar mannerisms. I often wonder about little pinks accent. I'm from the south but DF is pretty northern and we live in the north. Yet she's my little shadow. I think she'll have an interesting mixture!!

Rainy that sounds a positive post. I'm sorry about the baby but lovely you are thinking so practically and as Loski says this little lady will be at a lovely age and stage. Keep us posted, rooting for you xxx

Well things here are good but bad. Good because little pink is doing so well but bad because daddy has had an operation on his foot and on his second week of complete bed rest. I'm just so exhausted. The weather is rubbish and it's times like this you really need your support network. Sadly my parents are 400 miles away, DFs dad and wife are away on a holiday, DFs mum is busy caring for her mum every day and I can't get hold of SIL. Feel a bit lonely at the moment :'( Sorry, just realised this has turned into a pity post when it was just meant to be checking in!

Dream, Aimze, Monkey, Loski, how is everyone doing? xxx

 

[Rainy123]

Oh lolly, sorry to hear things are tough. If I were near, you'd have my support!

I am really interested to hear how everyone is getting on, things are very quiet lately. I'm sure I vaguely recall aimze was going to panel in January, but forgive me if I'm wrong.

I am very excited about the prospect of a toddler now - I know I will love whatever age I get so just want it to hurry up and happen!

 

[Lolly1985]

Thanks Rainy, that's really lovely of you! You'll have so much fun with a toddler, although your hands will be full!! Heehee! I'm of course not wishing time away but it's lovely to see how they develop their understanding and language, how play starts emerging and I'm looking forward to splashing in puddles and running around the park (when she is more stable!) But a toddler is still young enough to solely need you. Lovely

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi all,
Rainy I'm sorry to hear that but you have such a great attitude towards it all
Lolly I'm sorry to hear things are so stressful at the moment, I wish we lived closer!!!
Things are all good here little man is just wonderful and keeps us on our toes more by the day! He has started to crawl around after me so if I leave him a room I know it's not for long! He's crawling super fast now he is starting to pull himself up onto his knees so I think he will be standing soon! He loves to stand supported and locks his knees out so you can't sit him down
I am also oober tired but just so happy, he really has completed us
Hope everyone is well xx

 

[aimze]

Hey ladies!!!

Things have been super hectic around here! Last course now completed an PaR written!!!

Panel in 3 weeks, omg!!!!

SW been approcached about a 10month for us, read the first CPR an very interested!! Others people interested too but apparently because little ones SW contacted us we have a good chance!!! He's so so gorgeous, feel such a connection!

Rainy I hope things work out with little lady!! Yay

Lolly hope DF is up an about soon!

We are now just so excited for our coming family, the nursery is ready an we keep buying clothes which is very naughty but they're only sale clothes so not expensive!

Big hugs to you all, I've said it before but you've been so amazing!!

X

 

[dreamofabean]

Eek Aimze! That is so so exciting!! Such a lovely age too! I'm pretty sure that's what happened with lolly!

 

[Lolly1985]

Indeed it is and because we were approached they wouldn't consider anyone else until they had met with us. Luckily we were linked there and then, you do stand a very good chance! Very exciting times!!

Thanks for all the lovely support girls, what would I do without you all?! xxx

 

[aimze]

Omg lolly really?!? That makes me super excited!

 

[aimze]

Once they review and want to meet you, how soon do they come to your house?

 

[Rainy123]

Fingers crossed aimze but always make sure you don't get too excited until things are confirmed. I did that with the first and it wasn't much fun. Different agencies do things differently too - do you know if yours do competitive matching?

I have had social workers approach my social worker about children but then a team leader or manager will decide on someone else. Still have my fingers crossed for you though.

With my agency, my social worker rang once I was chosen for linking with a baby. She called as soon as the decision was made and came out to see me the following week so all moved pretty quickly.