Adoption journey

[aimze]

Competitive matching doesn't sound much fun

Yep trying to not get my hopes up, it's so easy isn't it!!!

X

 

[Lolly1985]

Many profiles were put forward for little pink but they selected us from our PAR being on the consortium database and her profile was forwarded to us. They wanted to meet us and only us so even though they had reviewed other people's profiles it wasn't considered a competitive match. They headhunted us, we saw her profile and cpr and expressed interest and a linking meeting was arranged and we were linked all within 2 weeks xx

 

[aimze]

Awww lolly so good to hear that....I really don't want to keep seeing profiles....we're on about profile 9 now...2 expressed interest in, 1 seen CPR an hopefully will progress! I thnk this might be the worst stage :-/ x

 

[Rainy123]

See my agency only shows me profiles when I'm the chosen adopter. So I have only seen 1 profile but saw CPR a few days later and would be matched if it hadn't been for another drama.

Quite glad because I'm not sure I would cope with seeing all the profiles I would take them all!

 

[Lolly1985]

It is really hard. We saw 13 profiles and before we saw little pinks we did express interest in others. Two our social worker vetted and felt they weren't appropriate after reading cpr and she never heard back about a couple of others. Thankfully it was all meant to be, our pink is perfect for us and hopefully we are for her. When it happens ladies it does all suddenly make sense. Love to all xxx

 

[Rainy123]

I am at a loss today...

SW said that pre linking was last night so she would ring me today and let me know. I got a couple of emails from her at lunch time inviting me to family finding events...I can only assume that is a giant hint!?! I texted her and heard nothing, just rung and her phone is off.

Fed up maybe I should just find a donor and try another route

 

[dreamofabean]

You never know rainy, perhaps there has been a delay? Naughty not letting you know though!!
We had our sw out today, well, I did, dh was at work! Little man was hysterical again! He really doesn't like her! Ha ha! All went fine, we now have our copy of his placement order and cheque so at next review she will give us the adoption order paperwork whoop!!
We were also given cards that birth family had sent for Xmas and a card off bps for his birthday. We had agreed this but I think it's upset dh. Strangely it hasn't eith me. I read them and was amazed that there was not a hint of emotion in them at all. All were written by the same person too, despite them being signed from nannies etc. I found that sad, there is obviously no real family support for the bps, and they need it more than ever now.
Our sw said that little mans sw hasn't been able to make contact with them since they missed their appt. it kind of worries me that they may have gone 'underground' so to speak because she's pregnant? I hope I'm wrong, not for our sake but for them
Anyways! Onwards and upwards hey? Little man took a sidewards set whilst holding onto the sofa today! Eek!! A big achievement for him it made me giggle as he stepped onto his other foot ha ha! Such a cutey

 

[aimze]

Dream it's odd getting cards etc isnt it? Guess they're to go in a safe place till older!!

Yay to getting your cheque ready!!! Woooop

So our PAR is now with bubbas profile...really hope we hear tomorrow!

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[aimze]

Rainy I really really hope you hear soon from your SW and it's good news! It's so awful being kept waiting!

Xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh Rainy that's not fair. Keep chasing (although you shouldn't have to!) because you don't want this hanging over you at the weekend. Maybe she simply hasn't heard herself yet? Thinking of you lovely.

Oh Dream, yay to little man!! What a clever bubba! Another proud mummy moment. I hope also you're wrong about birth parents, you know I've been there too. I hope DH is ok with the cards, just add to the memory box for when he is older. We got two Christmas presents for little pink that'll be going in the loft. Lots of love to you all!

Yay Aimze, everything firmly crossed, I'll be checking in for updates!

All ok here. Little pink is now wearing her first pair of big girl shoes (my goodness, how expensive is Clarks?!! Haha!) and is strutting her stuff, loving the clip clop noise she can now make. We've been swimming today and had tea out. Busy times. We have a social worker visit next week and another the week after. Hopefully they'll be happy because we certainly are xxx

 

[LolaM]

Checks? Do you pay to adopt?

 

[Lolly1985]

£170 to lodge your adoption order application with the courts. We paid upfront and got reimbursed by little pinks placing authority once they received all the paperwork xx

 

[aimze]

Awww lolly how exciting she's in big girl shoes!! I can remember hating the foot measure thing in Clarks!!

I'm hoping today brings good news, or next week at least...Feb has been a shit month for us so I'd like to turn it around...it would be our little ones 1st birthday 9th Feb and our second would be due 19th Feb...panel is the 19th so it's quite spooky really!

X

 

[Lolly1985]

That is very strange Aimze, but I think it's nice to believe it's all meant to be to help heal broken hearts xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

I totally agree. We had a lot of court dates etc with little man that fell on family birthdays etc! It was very strange! X

 

[aimze]

Any joy rainy? X

 

[Rainy123]

Got a quick email from SW to say that it was a no for the little one and she would ring me later. Thus far, no call...

 

[aimze]

Awwww rainy xx

 

[dreamofabean]

so sorry Hun xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Sorry Rainy, big hugs xxx