Adoption journey

[aimze]

Oh my goodness rainy you've got your boys home! Hiw was their and your first night? You'll be way too busy to update! Sending some sunshine so you can get to parks etc x

 

[Lolly1985]

Just as I read that Aimze the sun came out

 

[Rainy123]

The first night etc was fine but today little one (who is nearly 3) is having a bit of a wobble. He cried all morning over ridiculous things and every time I say anything he says 'xxx would' referring to foster carer. Even silly things like telling me it wouldn't be summer holidays at xxx's house.

Bought a blackout blind today so expecting more sleep time for all of us!

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh bless him rainy! It's such a huge transition for you all. I remember thinking how happy LO was when he first came home. Looking back now on the photos he looks blank! He was obv just showing it very subtly and we didn't know him well enough to know
They will adjust though, it just takes time and love x

 

[aimze]

Dream you're so right about the photos...we thought he was so settled an happy an lookin at the photos now he's actually happy...like the first few weeks he had a fake happy face..

Well my works confirmed my leave entitlement, can't say a lot on here but let's say I'm happy with the outcome! Was getting paranoid that we couldn't afford to live! X

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[dreamofabean]

Ah that's fab Aimze!!
It's strange isn't it?! How quickly you get used to the subtle changes in their expressions

 

[Rainy123]

How are things going for everyone? So quiet here nowadays!

 

[aimze]

Things great here rainy...we've met the baby sibling! He's so tiny an cute we need him home!

Rainy how was your first week with your lovely boys?

My LO has decided to not go to sleep at his usual time an it's taking hours to settle him but he's the big bad back teeth coming through!!!

How's everyone? X

 

[dreamofabean]

All good here thanks rainy
Hope your boys are settling well Hun and you're managing to rest up a bit too!
Awww Aimze is he beautiful?! How exciting!! Our LO is just starting to change his sleep routine, think they do as they get a bit older! I know we adapted it when he came home and now he's going to one nap per day! Still trying to time it right so he gets a decent length sleep and he seems to be coping ok! Guess time will tell!!
Only 2 weeks of summer hols left and then it's back to work oh well, I suppose it's needed... Until LO number 2!

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi everyone

Love all the updates! Everyone sounds busy but happy! We are good here too. Little pink's foster carers came round yesterday. They clearly still adore her and were amazed at all she could now do and say! I was strangely smug when she clung to me, silly really but for a long while she felt more theirs than mine. Anyway, they stayed for a couple hours and met baby blue. It was lovely to catch up with them though, so glad we kept in contact Has everyone else? Anyway, today I ventured out alone for the first time with both of them! Well, with the double buggy, going out in the car to a friends doesn't count! We walked to the sensory room, met a friend and went to the library. Little pink has been snoring ever since. Better go and wake her. Love and hugs

 

[aimze]

Awww lolly sounds a good first start out the house! What double buggy did you go for? I did the oyster max!

Girls I'm so annoyed, spoke to SW today after I asked for some dates for baby an she's the impression this could take months an months when I've been told should only be 3 months! I just feel like we're back to where we were with pre LO and on tenterhooks. We're so happy with LO but things like booking a holiday an future plans, returning to work etc I need to know more dates...grrrrrr

X

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh no Aimze surely it won't take the full 26 weeks seeing as the placement order for your LO wasn't too long ago?! Grrr, so frustrating for you Hun! Can imagine it's tough not to have it on your mind cobstabtly! X

 

[Rainy123]

All going ok here really. Did have one night where I cried constantly but it' slide they've always been here now. Touch wood, there also haven't been any huge issues so far either.
Biggest one is eating - big blue is so limited in what he will eat and it is very difficult to get a healthy balanced diet. Whereas little blue wants to eat constantly and is always asking for food.

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah glad things are going well rainy! It's so exhausting when your LO comes home, I don't know how id have managed with 2 with such different needs! You're doing a great job Hun
As for the food it's a nightmare isn't it?! My boy is generally good with good but when teething he drives me round the bend so you have my sympathies! The over eating is almost just as hard isn't it?! Our boy was like that for the first 2/3 weeks at home. Like he didn't have an off switch! Then he relaxed n stopped stuffing himself! Interestingly he did the same on our first weekend away! Must just be a security thing until they totally trust food will always been available! I've also heard that children who were exposed to drug use during pregnancy are more likely to be over eaters, they have that kind of addictive predisposition. My boy wasn't but my step sister had a foster child who was and she would eat and eat constantly! Don't know your boy's histories but may be worth bearing in mind? X

 

[Monkey78]

Hello everyone!
i love reading all your updates on how your LOs are developing, its beautiful

Rainy, sounds like you are doing fabulous with your two boys, must ne exhausting for you ��

congratulations Lolly and Dream on your celebration hearings, a long journey for you both is now finally complete. It does seem such a long time ago that i started reading this thread and now moat of you have your LOs and Lolly you now have 2 amazing babies. And aimze you will be next, it will come around so quickly for you.

we met our FPs on Wednesday, and i cannot tell you how amazing it was, they were such lovely people, with tons of experience, and they have dobe such a wonderful job caring for our little pink, we couldn't be more happier with the outcome. Matching panel on 18 sep and intros w/c 29 sep.

am trying to figure out when to leave work, i want 1 week off to get everything ready, including myself LOL! What did you girls do? And dif you start your adopt leave straight away?

xxx

 

[Monkey78]

Ps sorry for the typos im sitting on the train doing this from my phone lol!

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh monkey how exciting!!! You'll be with your girl before you know it
I left work on the Friday when intros started the following Monday. However if you remember ours was a rushed case, we only had match panel on the Wednesday I'd def recommend a few days to yourself if you can though Hun! Xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Brilliant monkey!! So happy for you! It's all finally coming together for us all! I finished work on the Tuesday and intros started on the Friday. I used annual leave until placement day when adoption leave started. I wanted a couple of days to get straight but not too many so time dragged. I managed to clean the house and get up to date with all the washing, but in hindsight would have liked an extra day to batch cook meals. We lived off chips during intros, not good!! Yuk!

Aimze sorry it's all up in the air. So upsetting to once again be in limbo land watching for emails etc. Sure little man is keeping you occupied though! We only went for a cheap side by side double mamas and papas buggy from argos! I have a caboo carrier sling which I plan on putting baby in and keeping little pink in her pram, which I love, as much as I can! Double buggy for park trips and walks to grandma's and children's centre. Don't want to be going to the shops etc with it though.

Rainy food issues are really hard. I hope you can find some healthy things he likes. Pizzas are a good one, traditionally unhealthy (so kids are more likely to eat it!) but you can make your own together and add healthy veg and do on wholemeal pitta breads etc. Hope you have good support around you in these early days and the boys are settling ok.

to yummy mummy Dream hope all is good with your munchy man hun!

How is everyone? We are doing pretty well this end. Baby blue has his hernia surgery next week :'( but then we're off on our first family holiday to South Wales, can't wait!

 

[Loski83]

Hi everyone, sounds like everyone is pretty much busy with lo's now. To everyone still waiting don't forget we're all still here to support you's as well.
Life is crazy here lo has been unsettled and is having so crazy behaviour problems at the moment so time out is being used to try and settle her down. I started working again and will be starting my social work degree on the 11 sept so she will be going to family/childcare till she starts nursery in November. Worried about how this will affect her, and it's going to be a struggle for a few months then a lot easier once in nursery and we can sort a proper routine again any tips are welcome. We did another first together last week we went to the cinemas for the first time she did really well, four toilet trips sat lovely apart from a bit chatty at times lol.
Hope your all having a good week so far x

 

[LolaM]

our 3 y/o is having some control issues, she wants to be in control and she isn't, so she does some interesting things...happy for a long weekend, let me tell ya!! taking 3 MONTH old to get her 3 mo photos on Monday, we will see how that goes