Adoption journey

[Lyns]

Well, guys......it seems all good things do come to those who wait!! We were matched with a gorgeous little 2 year old boy yesterday! We have matching panel etc to get through, but we're now hoping it's just a case of when, not if....and all will go smoothly.

I'm so excited......I'm going to be a Mama again xxxx

 

[Loski83]

So happy for you lyns you really deserve this. I purposely didn't send mags cause didn't want to jinx anything for you. When doyoustart intros with your son?

 

[Loski83]

Hi lolam of course you can join, I'm in uk so can't help with question sorry xx

 

[Lyns]

Won't be until new year now.....his story is a bit sad as he did suffer some neglect as a young baby (before age 1).

He's a bright, happy, cheeky and rather mischeivous little spark by all accounts, but he can be a bit demanding, which they link back to the neglect (they think this can be resolved if handled properly), and as such they want us to undertake some additional work on attachment to children who have suffered, before we start intro's and as I say we need the rubber stamp from panel anyway, which is likely to be Dec.

But I'm just happy we've found our son, and he's going to come home

 

[Nicki123]

Lyns that is such wonderful news! So much good news on this thread over the last few days, so heart warming.

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah Lyns that is fab news!! I agree, it's a rather lovely place to be in here at the moment!!!

 

[zero7]

Lyns!!! So happy for you hon!

Good luck with your panel - let us know when you have a date so we can wish you well nearer the time flower!...


XXXXX

 

[zero7]

Hi lolam!!

 

[LolaM]

Hi lolam of course you can join, I'm in uk so can't help with question sorry xx

Thanks! Thats ok. In the US, we have state adoptions and private adoptions. Private adoptions and international adoptions are very spendy and there is alot of red tape to go through, so we decided to stay local on this one.

 

[Milty]

I'm also in the states and doing a state adoption. One reason is I have a son who is 9 now and would like a child in the 2 to 4 range to do there is not such a large age gap.

We are in the process of matching a second time. It's been a much longer wait this time around mostly because we are having to switch SW.

Our first match we originally were very thrilled with happened in Jan. with 3 girls who's mom had stage 3 cancer and no family. However, it soon became stressful and a bit strange waiting for someone to die. Of course you don't want that and it was so awfully weird we pulled out of that match.

We then had red tape issues with my finger prints that really should have been found before. That was settled in Aug. In September we missed our matching appointment because I was in the hospital. In Oct. our SW decided to transfer departments so now we have been assigned a new one.

I did hear from her last week and we should have a matching meeting in the next two weeks. Finally!!

I guess I said all that because sometimes there is a lot of red tape and issues come up but just push through them it will be do worth it. Just ask Lyns!

Lyns congrats by the way.

 

[LolaM]

I'm also in the states and doing a state adoption. One reason is I have a son who is 9 now and would like a child in the 2 to 4 range to do there is not such a large age gap.

We are in the process of matching a second timeU. It's been a much longer wait this time around mostly because we are having to switch SW.

Our first match we originally were very thrilled with happened in Jan. with 3 girls who's mom had stage 3 cancer and no family. However, it soon became stressful and a bit strange waiting for someone to die. Of course you don't want that and it was so awfully weird we pulled out of that match.

We then had red tape issues with my finger prints that really should have been found before. That was settled in Aug. In September we missed our matching appointment because I was in the hospital. In Oct. our SW decided to transfer departments so now we have been assigned a new one.

I did hear from her last week and we should have a matching meeting in the next two weeks. Finally!!

I guess I said all that because sometimes there is a lot of red tape and issues come up but just push through them it will be do worth it. Just ask Lyns!

Lyns congrats by the way.

Oh those poor girls. How awkward! I can't even imagine. Is your son adopted? How long have you been waiting to adopt?

 

[Lolly1985]

Congratulations Lyns, that is brilliant news to come on and read! Very happy for you and your family. Your LO sounds a star!

Hi Lola! Nice to have you join, and glad Milty is giving you some good advice. Best wishes in your journey. What are your next steps?

Milty, so glad you have a meeting coming up (finally!) What sad circumstances for those little girls, I can understand your reasons as to why you didn't proceed and respect them fully. It must have been very hard for you

Zero, how are you feeling? Do you have lots to do or are you all ready to go? So exciting and to be home before christmas is a dream!

Hi DOB, how are you doing? Any more purchases?

Hi Puppmom, hope your little lad is doing well

Enjoy your week with DH Loski, hope that you enjoy some family days out getting wrapped up warm and enjoying some sunny weather (hopefully!)

Nice to see you are still lurking Nikki and enjoying the positive vibes

Bluebumble, are you there?! What is the latest?

Hi to you to Butterfly!!!

WOW, we have a good little group here now! Its lovely to see! Not much to report. Just getting on with our CRBs (digging out all relevent paperwork) Decided to start on our chronologies too. Roll on 22nd I say!

Hope all of you have enjoyed the weekend. Went to see James Bond (Danial Craig, fffwooor! If you get my drift...!) MIL asked if she could tell her sisters and parents. DF said yes, but now i'm not so sure... too late I guess, just hope they don't blab to the world Oh well, they are family so HOPE they respect our wishes for privacy.

Love to you all xxx

 

[zero7]

You're right Lolly- it is a nice little group here! It would be great if we could continue (time permitting) post adoption to support each other through highs and lows!

We are ready to go! Hubby put up the black out blind in pickles room today, which was the last job on the list! I have been nesting this last week and everything is done! I've even cleaned out the car. Oh yeah, we also fitted the car seat

Its my last week at work next week - whoop!!!! Can't believe we have got here at last!!!

XXX

 

[Loski83]

Aww zero I feel so happy for you, the blackout blind is a must lol. I hope your little one gives you more sleep than ours does lol but I wouldn't change her for the world not even for a birth child. Definitely agree with us all keeping in touch and supporting each other and any newbies just starting.

 

[LolaM]

You're right Lolly- it is a nice little group here! It would be great if we could continue (time permitting) post adoption to support each other through highs and lows!

We are ready to go! Hubby put up the black out blind in pickles room today, which was the last job on the list! I have been nesting this last week and everything is done! I've even cleaned out the car. Oh yeah, we also fitted the car seat

Its my last week at work next week - whoop!!!! Can't believe we have got here at last!!!

XXX

Im so so excited for you! How long will you be out of work or are you going to be a stay at home mom?

Im at the begining of the journey. I am starting classses and getting into the background checks and what not. Im a bit nervous because they are asking about family history and I really dont know what to tell them. I, myself, was a foster child. I know nothing of "the father" nor does he, since HE was adopted...its a sordid history. I hope that doesnt eliminate us from adopting!

 

[zero7]

Lola- I am taking 6 months, then returning part time.
The way I see it, is that your life experiences are positives - you will have an insight into the care system first hand, so you will be able to relate these experiences to your future adopted child's start in life.

Loski- thanks hon. We are so excited, we feel we might burst!!!! Hope you can catch up on some sleep soon......XXX

 

[Milty]

My son I had and we had thought we would have some more then adopt ...well needless to say we haven't had anymore yet so we moved adoption up a bit in the schedule while we keep trying.

 

[LolaM]

My son I had and we had thought we would have some more then adopt ...well needless to say we haven't had anymore yet so we moved adoption up a bit in the schedule while we keep trying.

Thats kinda how its working out for us. We have no children and so far, we arent having any success. We are nearing the end of our TTC journey and decided to get the adoption process started sooner rather than later.

 

[bluebumble]

Hi all

I am still here

We are having a bit of a rough time at the moment and some big probs with the adoption We are now not going to panel in december through no fault of our own but it has knocked our confidence a bit.

Hoping to know more by the end of the week. Fingers crossed

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh Bluebumble, i'm really sorry to hear that I hoope it is something that can be sorted easily and quickly. As if it isn't all hard enough

Lola, I agree with Zero. If you have first hand experience of the care system then you can relate to a child going through ultimately similar things that maybe you did. That can lend to empathy and knowledge that others simply don't and can't have. It has to be a positive!

Eeeek Zero, so happy for you! You sound ready to combust

Milty, is that your son in the pic? What a gorgeous photo! It is very interesting reading about the differences between UK and US. Many of the girls get told they must evidence that they are on birth control pills to avoid a pregnancy before being able to go through the adoption process. I was asked by my local authority (the agency we didn't proceed with) My VA have not asked me but it is a given we must not be trying during this process. There also had to be a 6 month gap between last ICSI and starting the process.

Hope you are enjoying the week Loski

Hi to everyone else

So I have heard on the grapevine that my references have gotten their questionnaires today! 10 questions apparently. I didn't think it would be so soon! Keep grinning about it all What I am NOT grinning about is the pain I am in after my first zumba session! Hardcore (not the capital 'H'!!)

Love from an aching Lolly xxxx