Adoption journey

[aimze]

Perfect, thank you all so much!

I chose an agency I really like the look of a year ago so will go there but will contact others too...there are about 5 agencies and 2 councils so lots of open evenings yay!

Xx

 

[dreamofabean]

Spoke to Our sw. We can have little man's info and also the other child's. she was going to post it but I said id collect it. We gotta wait for other child's family finder to be in work to get the CPR so Sw will call us when it's all together and we can collect in next couple of days hopefully
Fingers crossed hey!! Hope everyone's well x

 

[Loski83]

Dream sounds like its all coming together for you, hopefully one of these will be your child look forward to hearing what happens next x

 

[Lolly1985]

Brilliant Dream, a real positive, fingers crossed you feel a big connection towards one. We had two at once too and we worried we would fall for both!!!

Brilliant aimze, you'll have a fab time I have no doubt. Get ringing round girl!!

Love to all xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks girls x

 

[karenh]

Lolly: Yay! I am excited for your life appreciation day! It will be here soon!

Dreamofabean: That is so hard to try and decide if that little boy is supposed to be yours. I know whatever you choose will be the right decision and what will be best for both you and that boy. Hopefully you will get the info for both of them soon.

Loski: Sounds like life is good. I can’t believe you have had your little one for almost a year. I love your attitude and your support. Thank you!

Bluebumble: Congratulations! You little girl will be here so soon!

Aimze: Welcome, and good luck. Choosing an agency was really hard for me. I am in the US so it is a little different, but once I was able to settle on an agency it was like a burden was lifted and now we are on our way. Good luck as you attempt to make this decision.

AFM: I had a great time at our family reunion this weekend. Now I am back to the real world and wish I wasn’t. However, I am excited to get back to working on our adoption paperwork. We are waiting to hear back on our Bishop’s recommendation. Once we hear about that we can move forward. It has been a week, so I am going to try and call him today to make sure he got the form.

 

[aimze]

I just love hearing all your stories...they all sound so positive an I'm so excited for ladies who are so close to getting their lo's...

I called around and have a few packs on their way to me, random question..(another one! Sorry!) so contraception...

Once we start this process I am 100% into adoption, the chances of me conceiving naturally are 1% per month which is pretty slim but could obviously happen. So what do you do about contraception? I'm not wanting to take anything as I love being natural but what if you get a match then the month after a highly un likely natura bfp? do you start being a little more careful once well into the process?l

 

[karenh]

I just love hearing all your stories...they all sound so positive an I'm so excited for ladies who are so close to getting their lo's...

I called around and have a few packs on their way to me, random question..(another one! Sorry!) so contraception...

Once we start this process I am 100% into adoption, the chances of me conceiving naturally are 1% per month which is pretty slim but could obviously happen. So what do you do about contraception? I'm not wanting to take anything as I love being natural but what if you get a match then the month after a highly un likely natura bfp? do you start being a little more careful once well into the process?l

I have been thinking the same thing. There is practicly no chance that I will ever get pregnant, esspecially on my own. I hate taking birth control and only have when the doctors said I had to for medical reasons. I keep going back and forth on what I should do now that we have moved past ttc and onto adoption.

 

[dreamofabean]

I think generally (in the uk) you are advised to use contraception once you start the adoption process just incase that kind of thing happens x

 

[Lolly1985]

Agree with dream. The local authority we enquired with said contraceptive pill and nothing else would do!! The agency we went with said they would expect us to use contraception but we could choose and didn't need to evidence it, ie, a prescription. In the end I went on the pill because my endo flared up and I was spotting constantly. But didn't tell social worker that reason!! She added it to our par stating it showed we were evidencing we were fully committed to adoption!

 

[dreamofabean]

We were told contraception and I was quite vocal that I wouldn't go back on the pill but it was accepted that as long as we use contraception It was fine x

 

[karenh]

The agency I am working with only works with people that are infertal, so I don't know if they require contraception or not, they haven't said anything. I am thinking I may make an appointment with my ob/gyn and talk about option. I am really bad at taking pills everyday, so maybe a more long term solution would be better.

 

[aimze]

Thanks guys...yea I won't be going on the pill...I was a bitch on the pill...talk about mood swings lol!

To be fair I've learnt my body well enough now to know to avoid which days etc..I'll tell them we use Durex lol...

Dream I've just seen your quote on your Siggy....how funny...I literally changed mine just before I saw yours! X

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh yeah! I hadn't noticed Aimze! Ha ha! Great minds hey?!

 

[karenh]

I love the song by Hillary Weeks called Dancing in the Rain. I think it goes perfectly.

 

[karenh]

Also, her song Beautiful Heartbreak is exactly how I feel about my infertility journey and how I feel about adoption being the outcome.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cygtEw6lKm4

 

[LolaM]

I went state foster/adopt so they don't ask. I'm not taking the pill or using contraceptive since I have almost no chance on my own but then I'm not worried either way

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh what a lovely song Karen x

 

[LolaM]

They asked if we wanted to adopted baby boys 2 siblings. I told them hubs and I have to discuss it but I think we r gonna have to decline.

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Okay...so I just wrote this HUGE LONG rant about how my weeks been going...but I deleted it because I don't wanna be the one who complains when I should be overjoyed. I feel so defeated today though its been a rough week....

We didn't have to have contraception but they asked if we were actively trying...I admitted at the time I was on fertility pills and injections but how we had slim to no chance of actually conceiving ....I feel the pain and its HORRID for anyone dealing with infertility.

Now that I've adopted two special needs children....I'm overwhelmed some days I ask myself and hubby why don't they separate siblings when there are two of them with huge special needs.....sometimes I wonder if we stepped in over our heads Today has just been one of those bad days where it seems if anything could go wrong its EVERYTHING....

I hope everyone is doing well I'm praying for all of you to have your bundles of joys soon I try to keep up but I stay soooooo overly busy with kids, school, laundry, cooking, cleaning....I just can hardly have a time of the day to myself....its rough...but I'm gonna do this and I know God wouldn't put more on us than we can bare! Its hard to believe but I have to trust it for now!!