Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Thanks for all the reassurance girls, was a bit over emotional earlier but ok again now. Sure this process must replicate pregnancy hormones!!!

Dream, a really hard decision but so glad it's one you have made together and both agree on. He will find his family and you will find yours. Hope you are ok as even though you have made the decision it is still upsetting

Loski, yay for the passport!! Bet you are so so excited for your first holiday as a family of five!!

Aimze, I'm so sorry, that must be very hard after all that has happened. Hope tomorrow will be a great and positive distraction. Stupid bodies huh! Hope you're ok

We got little lady's chest of drawers. Other half needs to get flatpacking me thinks!!

 

[karenh]

Dream: Lolly took the words right out of my mouth.

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks girls it's sad but I know that he will find a family as he's beautiful. However i also think he needs a mummy who doesn't have to work and unfortunately that's not possible for us x

 

[aimze]

dream so sorry little man has more than one thing...they shouldn't have missed that out to start with. i hope the process with lil chap is quick!

lolly Woop for flat pack! i find i put things together quicker than hub & defo with less stress ha...gd luck x

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Aimze I'm sorry you're having issues

...and sorry about the CPR issues that has gotta be rough dream

Prayers to everyone!!!!!!

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Lolly thanks for your advise as well...we have been doing visual cues as well...sometimes they get it...other times we have to walk them to what we want them to do because they are "air headed" lol...if that makes sense....I feel so sad at times. We watched our niece who is the same age the other day as the oldest daughter....and she asked me and my husband what was wrong with Haley Broke our hearts....but knowing we are doing our best is our coping mechanism.....I just hope we get answers soon. I am thinking they have to be mentally challenged...although from what we were told at first from case works/everyone else was that they were just "behind"....they aren't behind they are "slow learners"...extremely slow DH and I totally didn't know what we walked into but honestly God has blessed us in so many ways from this adoption. He's shown us things we hadn't seen before...much more love, compassion, and patience....It has definitely been a challenge but we are trying to take each day at a time and slow baby steps with trying to get the girls back on the right track and the right healthcare they haven't been shown before...the right tactics...the right moves...and the right direction because we care...and apparently those before us didn't care enough because they would have already been receiving this simple extra help....it wasn't that hard it breaks our heart they haven't had the help they've needed. I'm glad we have a chance to change it all for them

You ladies inspire me as well You always have the sweetest things to say and I can't say thank you enough to each and everyone of you I pray for you ladies daily you guys are my "sunshine" in the rain right now THANK YOU!!!

 

[LolaM]

Andrea, it sounds like your girls face many difficulties and your frustrations show how much you care. You want support in place to allow them to reach their full potential, you are a wonderful mum! With the comprehension difficulties have you thought of adding visual support, so gesture, signs or pictures? Objects of reference can help them transition, for example you add a representing object to the language, maybe a bag to symbolise school or a sponge to symbolise bath time? Children who don't understand expressive language need lots of visual clues to get by. Plus keep what you are saying really simple (1 or 2 words) It's easy to say, 'go and put your shoes on, they're by the table', but less is easier to process, 'shoes on' and show the shoes. Repeat many times. You are probably doing lots of this, just some thoughts (got my work head on now!!) I really hope answers and support come your way soon xxxxx

agreed! As a teacher, this is what we do. Use symbols, maybe learn some basic sign language also.

 

[aimze]

Ladies the open evening was great! I could have cried throughout the presentation with all the LO looking for a family...

They have our details and will decide if they wish to proceed with us...I don't think they will yet as MC so close but we shall see!

X

 

[Lolly1985]

Glad it was so good aimze!! Was it a local authority session? So what now? Will they ring or write? Waiting is the worst, but all sounding positive xxx

 

[aimze]

It was a local voluntary agency but they had a guy from the local council there too as they work very closely matching children...

Waiting for a phone call to offer us a phone interview, I would imagine we would hear pretty soon about that really? Maybe early next week.

The new process sounds intense...all to be done within 6 months...2 4 hour courses followed by 4 8 hour courses and then 8weeks weekly SW visits...

Then to panel an matching!

Agency seem lovely! So scary to think we could end up with a child so soon! Obviously still need to wait to be matched with the right child.

I couldn't bring myself to look through their local paper with children in incase I was drawn to one already!

X

 

[karenh]

It sounds like it was amazing! I am so happy for you that it went well. I hope they call soon and say you can get started. I can't believe it will only take 6 months. That is wonderful!

 

[karenh]

Ugh! My caseworker got back from vacation yesterday so I was supposed to find out if we were recommended to continue the adoption process or not. I hadn't heard by 10 am, and when I start work at 6 am that is forever, so I called him. He was with a client so I asked when would be a good time to call back and was told 11:30. I called at 11:34 and he answered. He couldn't find the email from my Bishop with the recommendation form! I emailed him to make sure he sent it and that it went to the right address. He checked and it did, but he said he would try and send it again. I called our caseworker back and he said he still didn't find the email, but he did get the second one. However, there wasn't and attachment with the form! My caseworker said he would take over the communication with my bishop and try and get it worked out. I called back at 4 pm because I still hadn't heard anything and he said that they tried it again and it still didn't have the attachment. He told my Bishop he could fax it, but hasn't received a fax either. I know this is silly, but this is so stressful. All I want is a simple yes he recommended you and now you can move on, or a no he didn't recommended you, sorry and enjoy your childless life. Is that so hard? Sorry for the rant. I will call them in fourish hours if I don't hear back that they got it.

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh Karen, I understand how stressful being caught in the middle is. And until you know it's limbo land, which without a doubt is the hardest place to be. I really really hope you hear soon and the news is positive. Big hugs xxx

 

[karenh]

Oh Karen, I understand how stressful being caught in the middle is. And until you know it's limbo land, which without a doubt is the hardest place to be. I really really hope you hear soon and the news is positive. Big hugs xxx

Thank you! I just called and CW is out at the coast today with and emergancy visit. His assistant is looking into it, but I am guessing I will be stressing about it all weekend. I need to try and have more faith.

How are things going for you? Do you have a count down going?!?

 

[dreamofabean]

How frustrating Karen
Well I am very emotional here. I think we may have found our son!

 

[puppymom32]

How exciting dream!!!! Tell us more.

 

[karenh]

How frustrating Karen
Well I am very emotional here. I think we may have found our son!

REALLY?!? Details! Yay!

 

[dreamofabean]

He is 5 1/2 months old, is blonde with blue eyes and very cute! X

 

[Lolly1985]

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! I am so so so excited Dream!!! He sounds divine

 

[karenh]

I agree! How heavenly! No medical issues?