Adoption journey

[Rainy123]

No letter confirming panel so will give my SW a ring on Monday and see what the situ is. To console myself I went and spent a fortune on baby stuff today - I convinced myself it was just to make the bedroom look nice in photographs for the family book...

Great news on the court date, dream - not long to go!

 

[Lolly1985]

Dream, nearly there now, roll on next week and then everything crossed you'll soon be starting the next part of your journey. Hope the days pass quickly!

Rainy, I hope you get a date and time on Monday. We only had ours confirmed 6 days before panel so they are always last minute. Let us know won't you!

Loski, I hope you had an amazing holiday, how has baby girl been away from home?

Oh no aimze, gutted for you. It's so naughty isn't it? Frowny face for you this end!

How is everyone else? Karen I hope you get some more things ticked off your list this weekend

As for us we are still away. Back Tuesday evening and social worker visiting Wednesday. Means we have to get our talking album done this weekend. Going to do it tomorrow when we look at church fresher as it was my best friends wedding yesterday!! 11 sleeps til panel ladies!! Eeek!!

 

[Loski83]

Hi all I had a great holiday little one was unsettled the first few days, then she loved it. We just getting sorted out and back into routine at home again now. Hope everyone has had a good weekend x

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks lolly days are just dragging now! Back to work tomorrow though so at least ill be busy!
Loski I'm glad you had a good hol bless little one, I remember a lady at our prep group who had previously adopted saying that her LO was very unsettled on their first family hol x

 

[Lolly1985]

Evening all!!

Glad little one settled ok after a couple of days Loski. It must be daunting for them. She's done well bless her.

Mixed feelings I guess dream, boo to work, hooray to each day closer to little man and next steps. Hope tomorrow isn't too painful! Last term though hun, we are having positive thinking all the way.

Well we have just made our talking album. I had an emotional breakdown. I think it's all starting to hit me and I flipped out and went to sob alone in the garden. My poor dad didn't know what to do!! I'm ok now though, oh dear...!

Me and DF just heading for a walk along the coastpath before family dinner. Starting to head north and home tomorrow. Ready for my own bed now!!

Lots of love to all xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah bless you! It must be the day for it today! We put bunting up in little man's room and I then sobbed for an hour! Lol.
I feel an emotional wreck today! So close to knowing but as it gets closer I get more scared that the court will rule in favour of the parents! Oh I dunno... Just gotta wait!
Hopefully this will indeed my last half term! Eek!
I ordered a tomy album on Friday, I think we will be the same as you lolly, I cry whenever I think about what I'd say!
We need signs around our necks to warn people: 'emotional wreck: proceed with caution'

 

[Lolly1985]

Hahaha!! You are certainly not wrong there Dream!! I'm glad I'm not the only totally irrational jibbering wreck!! I can only imagine how anxious you are but in my heart and head I believe you'll get the outcome everyone wants and expects. Must be a very difficult though lovely, so many many hugs coming your way xxxxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks sweetie! Had such an emotional day, it's ridiculous! I think when I get stressed is when I miss my nan the most as she would have been the first person I'd talk to about it all! Oh well, onwards and upwards!! Think I need to keep me occupied

 

[Lolly1985]

Course hun, you must feel the loss even more at these times. So sorry But do you know what, so far she's holding up her end of the bargain and she's sent this precious baby boy your way

 

[dreamofabean]

thank you lovely xxx

 

[Monkey78]

Aah Dream I am with Lolly on that one. Your nan is with you every step of the way. i too lost my dad and sister two years ago, and I know they are with us every day of our journey. Its all such an emotional time. Thinking of you,not long til court day.

Lolly your talking album sounds wonderful, I bet it did bring a tear to your eye. All these emotions going around...

Loski great to hear you had a lovely first holiday with your little darling, and I bet your family cant wait to meet her.

Aimze, that sucks £179. We paid £76 each for ours which I thought was enough!!

i was on the phone most of Friday to my LA, I received my DBS form back, but my partner hadnt received his, apparently it was sent back to the LA with a query on the NI number, and nobody knew. Ive told them to fast track it on Monday, as not prepared to wait 10 weeks for it come through. Our SW cancelled our 2nd home visit on Friday because she wanted to wait for the DBS form to arrive, so now Im stressing that she wont come back now until this is sorted. meaning it will all be delayed by weeks if thats the case. So Im back on the phone tomorrow to put a bit of pressure on..... So much waiting, and yet we havent even started properly yet !

xx

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Hey ladies I'm still trying to get on here more....I just started school back so I'm super busy with four kiddos and going to school. I'll try to get on here more and catch up but for now I'm going to get on here and get my math homework done :\

 

[aimze]

Ah I missed so much yesterday...

Dream she's definitely looking down on you an will be throwing you a guardian angel for your LO I'm sure...

Lolly I think a good cry at times is the best way to get it all out!! I always feel better after one your poor dad though bless him, mine wouldn't know what's going on in the female world of hormones!!

Loski welcome back from your holiday!!!

Rainy I hope you get your confirmation soon!!

Hope all other ladies had a good weekend

Well hubs & I are off work this week...final fertility consultation today (don't actually know what it is but got a letter an will find out...I'm sure it's to try an sell Ivf which were not interested in) I've been having weird pains like on egg retrieval day so if nothin else can mention that...

We're also decorating our spare room...it's looked like a dump since we moved here so a social workers visit has prompted nice white walls, new bedding an blinds ready!! Also have first prep class Wednesday, excited an nervous @ the same time!!

Xx

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks ladies xx

 

[karenh]

Sounds like everyone has eventful weekends. I hope you are all OK.

Lola, how are things coming with your little guy? Have you met his siblings yet?

Not much new on the adoption front here. Life has been crazy buisy with my two jobs, dealing with DH getting layed off and all that comes with that. Also, trips to urgent care and emergency room because he busted his lip open. We haven't heard from SW in weeks. I wish he was more hands on. He should have called to see how we are doing at the very least.

 

[Lolly1985]

Sorry to hear about hubby Karen, both job wise and injury wise. How is he holding up? And you sound run off your feet. Don't get ill from it all. It's horrible waiting for news, I don't think social workers realise the anxiety in it all. Hope you hear soon.

Monkey, you are making good progress now. Lovely to hear your updates but very annoying about your forms. Have you managed to sort things? I'm sure you won't have to wait all over again.

Aimze have a great first day of prep tomorrow. Looking forward to hearing all about it. Don't be nervous, reckon you'll enjoy it!

Hope everyone is well

We have gotten back from our holidays and are just on our way to get our little kitten from the cattery, I'm actually so excited! Then tonight MIL, Step FIL, BIL, SIL and niece are coming over with presents for little lady! Really excited but full of sneezes and feel pretty rough which is a shame. I'll keep popping the pills!!

 

[aimze]

Lolly hope you feel better...soooo excited you're so close!!
X

 

[karenh]

Lolly: Sorry you are feeling so down. I hope you feel better and are up for visitors tonight. How sweet that they are bring presents for your little girl! MIL was here all last week and FIL, SMIL and SIL get here this Friday. Life really has been crazy.

 

[Rainy123]

Well no panel confirmation for me. Instead my social worker phoned to say there were some issues with my report so it got returned and we're now hoping for the next panel date. Boo

Bit down about it but trying to stay positive (this is my new academic year resolution) so suppose it's better than going to panel next week and getting deferred because of missing details.

Karen, sounds like you've been really busy. Sometimes it's nice to have things to distract you from the crazy adoption world.

Aimze - hope the prep course goes well. Enjoy it!

Hope everyone else is having a good day

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Ladies please don't get discouraged!! It will happen....sometimes some of these crazy life things happen and we go on because its where our heart really leads us. I am praying for each and everyone of you!!! Keep holding onto hope/faith...that is what we always did!! After 4 years of struggling to conceive I never thought we'd ever get to where we are today. Keep fighting for what you truly desire in life and great things will come to those who wait I know its hard to fathom...but its true. Our adoption process took over a year to complete it was very very frustrating and that is really a SHORT time to wait. But now that we have gotten where we are today I'd NEVER go back and change the way it happened. DH and I were able to save up a little more money for the girls and had plenty to buy the absolutes that we had to have when we got them. Another thing to remember is most of these children come to you with a small bag of clothing. Our girls had a small duffle bag between them both and had nothing...what they did have none of it fit...they were 2 sizes too small they had jeans that came to their knees....so sad ....so its nice to know to be prepared for that. We had to buy them everything from underpants to toys because they had never had anything to their names before It is so sad.....but I know you will all get to where you want to be keep on having the faith and know that things happen for reasons out of our control! I'll keep you all in our prayers!! to you all!!