Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Sorry rainy such a shame but you're exactly right in what you say. It will be perfect and you will then breeze through panel. Still a big disappointment though, big hugs!

Andrea, lovely post you are also right, things all happen for a reason and timings for fall into place. Thank you xxx

Ladies I'm feeling very overwhelmed. DFs family came round earlier. We now have a walker, mobile, musical toys, a pushchair toy, loads of bath toys, books, and full Johnsons baby bath set, and winter coat, little body warmer, 3 dresses, 3 pairs of trousers, tights, lots of sleepsuits and vests and 10 beautiful top and legging sets. Our little girl is so loved and spoilt already!!

 

[karenh]

Lolly: How wonderful! I am so glad that little girl is loved so much already, and you will be more than ready when it is time for her to come home.

Rainy: So sorry about the delay. That is so frustrating. I hope it can all ve straightened out quickly.

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh wow lolly that's amazing!! How wonderful it's so lovely that everyone is so excited!!

 

[LolaM]

I.feel.like.crap! we have met the siblings and decided that as lovely as they are,, we can not possibly give them the care that they need, they need alot of attention, and while im sure it would be amusing watching us care for an infant, a toddler and a kindergartener it isnt going to go well for any of us.

 

[aimze]

Lolly what an amazing evening you had fab update!!!

Lola it must be really hard work going from the two of you to five, I can understand how much of a challenge that would be!!

Big hugs x

 

[Lolly1985]

Eeek Aimze, have a great day!!

Still in bed feeling rough, SW coming at 1.30 so better attempt to move. Was going to reschedule but as panel is a week tomorrow I don't think anyone will have time to rearrange Will be sure to sit far away, I know from doing home visits the dread you feel when you enter the germ house! May just make my excuses and leave DF to it!!!

 

[karenh]

Lola: That is so rough. I am so sorry. It really sucks to be in a position like that. Do you know what is going to happen now? Are they still adamant about little boy staying with his siblings?

Lolly: So sorry you still aren’t feeling well. Good luck with the SW today.

 

[Loski83]

Lolly sounds like your little girl isn't going to want for anything. Hope you managed to feel a bit better for your meeting.
Lola hope you manage to sort it all out.
Rainy sorry to hear your having delays and sorry to say it happens a lot in this process
Hope everyone else is ok.
Our lo is teething again, we have been told she is very intelligent for her age which makes us even prouder parents. Hopefully it continues and she goes far in life. Not much else happening here just getting back into routines.

 

[Rainy123]

I know all about the waiting as my home study was actually finished at the beginning of April with an expected panel date of late may. I think I've done well to not go insane before now but there's nothing I can do about it. Just hope the linking goes quickly.

Back at work this week anyway so that's suitably distracting

 

[Lolly1985]

Rainy it's such a hard situation to be in. You want to keep SW on side but equally the wait you have had is not acceptable. Poor thing, you must be going stir crazy Has she offered reasons why it has taken so long?

Loski that's lovely that your little girl is doing so well, clever thing, you must all be so proud of her Sorry she is teething again, hope it passes quite quickly, must be horrible seeing them in pain. Hope you are all ok

Meeting went well thanks guys, and thanks to some lemsips I found in the cupboard i'm feeling a little better. We just discussed panel and what to expect, had a chat about any concerns we may have (mainly the FCs attachment to baby girl ) and then she had a look through the Tomy album. All good 8 sleeps Oh, and just ordered pushchair wooohooo!!!

 

[dreamofabean]

Whoop whoop!!! that's fab lolly
Rainy I agree you have been super patient! It's really naughty that you are still waiting

 

[LolaM]

We are hoping enough people are on our side and we get to keep baby. The judge makes the final decision

 

[karenh]

We are hoping enough people are on our side and we get to keep baby. The judge makes the final decision

I really hope so too! I am praying for you. When is the court date?

 

[dreamofabean]

What a horrid situation Lola. I hope that you get answers soon, whatever they may be so that you can move forward. In the uk they rarely split sibling groups, but I don't know how things work in the US. Thinking of you Hun.
Our little man's court date is tomorrow, his sw is due in court at 9am so we just have to wait. Bet you know how much sleep I'll get tonight! fingers crossed firmly and lots of prayers going up!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Dream, you know how much I'll be thinking of you both tomorrow. This will be your good news day, but until then I will hope, pray and keep everything crossed. Have faith lovely!

Lola, how difficult for you. I agree with dream and hope you get some answers and clarity soon

How is everyone

Baby girl has more toys! A lovely colleague had left two bags of toys on my desk today! So kind!

 

[AndreaFlorida]

They wouldn't split our girls up in Florida.....We sadly tried because we told them we only wanted ONE more child....but they refused so we had to take them both...which now I'm glad we did because we realize the special bond they share and they are all they have ever known to be "constant" in their lives. They only had eachother so its a blessing really that they keep the kids together....I think it promotes their mental health especially with going through so many changes. I feel sorry for the kiddos they have all been through a lot!

 

[Lolly1985]

That's the view they take in the UK too Andrea, unless of course it isn't appropriate to keep them together due to possible trauma bonds.

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks lolly trying to keep calm but anxiety is making itself known it's crazy as I never used to suffer physically with anxiety but the past year has seen it manifest itself. All through the Ivf I was fine! Bizarre! Keep getting pains in chest and having to breathe through it! Grr!
I'm going to try and remain positive til we hear something! Hopefully should by end of lunchtime as its morning session in court! Eek!

 

[LolaM]

The sibs have no bond to baby. They dnt even know who he is. Court is today. Waiting for them to call us

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh dream, poor thing :'( I understand though, at one point I was popping the kalms like smarties!! Big hugs xxx

In that case Lola it all seems a bit odd. Good luck and let us know.