Karen---
Honestly we wouldn't have. I knew I already had my hands full with my (almost 10 year old) son and that I couldn't handle another special needs child. We even told the adoptions people that we just couldn't do it. They agreed with us and said that they would keep us open to only "normal healthy children."
Then my acquaintance from middle school called me one day as she knew through fb that we were looking into the possibility of adoption. We were already going to our adoption classes at that time. She told us that her and her husband couldn't handle her nieces anymore because the state kept claiming her and her husband were being abusive to the children. (It was unfounded but the girls don't have enough vocabulary to tell someone what is happening and I believe they were coerced into telling a false story...the only reason I say this is because of what Haley just said out of the blue one night....Haley was super tired...and her eyes get kinda dark when shes tired..ya know dark circles under her eyes. The story from DCF was that she had fallen out of bed....and got two black eyes.....thats what Haley had said to them....but honestly her "bed" was just a mattress on the floor...and very padded carpeting....I don't know how this was UNFOUNDED.... But she then proceeded to tell me when I asked what was wrong with her eyes...she said verbatim...Linda did it, she punched me in my eye...okay for one she didn't have the ability to make up the story she has no imagination and would never say something unless it TRULY did happen...so YES I believe they were abused.)
Anyways I talked to their Aunt and found out that they were "behind" and that is all she told us. She never told us anything more than they were just a little behind from their childhood and needed to be caught up. She had 4 boys of her own plus the two girls so I don't think she really had time to pay attention to the needs of H and M. She always was too busy. Heck I'm busy with FOUR kiddos I couldn't imagine SIX of them!
Anyways again DH and I had talked and decided that since they were able to be caught back up we would give it a go. They were VERY delayed when we got them and were in therapy for that...and the therapists at that time were very positive (which the speech therapists are still, but no improvement is being made as they are trying to tell us there is).
We took them in believing they were normal just behind because of all the stuff they were going through as children. Being removed from mother and father, being moved to the aunts and uncles home for 2 years, then her deciding they couldn't do it anymore....to then going to a foster home while we were getting all of our stuff taken care of for classes etc. and home studies. They were in foster home for 9 months.
Anyways all in all we would have said NO had we known then what we do now.
But now that I have them....I could NEVER give them away or give up on them. They are truly fighters and will do the best they can with what they have. I will never give up hope, I will fight until there is no fight left! I love them and am so honestly BLESSED God allowed HIS WILL to work in our lives....otherwise there is no telling where these girls could have possibly ended up. Its a blessing in disguise! I'm glad we didn't know...but in a way I wish we would have so that we could have helped more...but again if we knew that we wouldn't have adopted in the first place if that makes sense?
I hope this isn't too long of a post. But I hope it gives you better understanding (in shortened form) of how we wouldn't have, but are glad we did? LOL
Thanks ladies for always being here....I love watching all of the stories unfold its amazing
I can't wait to see all of your babies/children
grow up!! This is just heartwarming
in here and I love how we all help eachother out during stressful times. Thank you ladies for ALL of you being there for me!
you TRULY don't know what it means to me
we had a similar one whilst looking at word with the 'un' sound in... A girl innocently provided us with c*#t. I'll let you work out what kind of family she came from!!
Think my dad had a bit too much fun being cameraman for the day!
I had a discussion with baby and told him that this was hte last time we would do this, he would go to bed tonight and all his teeth would be in when he woke up in the morning, he had a giggle over that! 
Sounds perfect!
I cried, little pinks SW cried, the FC cried, DF sneezed (poor poorly DF 
) and our SW gave me a massive hug and said we had cleared the final hurdle and she was so proud of us! We meet our baby girl in 8 sleeps, I can't believe it 
We were asked 4 questions, my voice cracked at one point when we were asked what we were most looking forward too. When we were told everyone had hugs (well except DF, everyone avoided him and his lurgey!! 
) The FC took our pictures and talking album, she will have seen and heard us by now, so surreal 
We were told that she is now cruising around the furniture and that the health visitor aged her developmentally at 14 months, she is only just 10 
lolly how exciting, I bet you don't sleep much tonight. 
