Adoption journey

[Loski83]

Zero that is lovely and the mobile looks beautiful all you need now is your little pickle and it won't be long xx

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi all,
Zero your Lo's room is beautiful
Lyns so sorry
We got our report from initial meeting today, were really happy with it. Very detailed!
Training still do far away but we've both been chatting and getting excited today!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Zero, what a gorgeous room, it is so lovely!! Like Loski says, just waiting on your Pickle now to complete the look

Dream That's great, they obviously got a great grasp of you both, your character, what makes you tick etc. A very positive start!

Loski, sounds a lovely day! She (and you!) will sleep tonight! Screams when you go shows the attachment she has already formed, bless her, she wants her mummy!

Lyns, thinking of you and sending my love.

Hi to everyone else!!

Had a great wkend so far! Suprise party for a friend last night, brekkie out today, went round to DFs mums and had puppy cuddles! Then out shopping with MIL and SIL, and SIL and BIL came round for tea. Tired now and early night me thinks (although DF has different plans... damn Fifa 13!!!)

to all xxxxxx

 

[zero7]

Awwww thanks ladies!

Loski - I dream of taking pickle on long walks!!! Feeding the ducks etc. XX

Dream - another tick in the box! Every step brings you closer to your LO. XX

Lolly - sounds like you had a great (busy) day! Especially liking the 'puppy cuddles' part!! XX

Lyns - still thinking of you too. Hope you are OK hon. XX

As for me - stroller on order! Should be here tomorrow! Gone for the Zeta Vooom (in hot choc) as it has great reviews and is a bargain price!!

November cannot come soon enough!!! X

 

[puppymom32]

Zero- So happy for you hun. So glad you will have your little pickle very soon. Such a long journey but so worth it. So glad to have been apart of your journey and cant wait to see pickle grow.

Lyns- So sorry hun that is just horrible of them to base it off of that. Big Hugs

Lolly-Not long till your next visit Wohoo

Loski- Sounds like you and the little one are doing great.

 

[Loski83]

Hi all we have had our first adoption review today and it went great. They are really happy with her progress and we don't see any social workers till the 13 th December now
We have got bath time sorted now no more screaming she loves the bath and playing with her toys in it. We also had a great bedtime last night she slept 7 till 5 then 5:10 till 7:30 which is great.

 

[zero7]

Glad everything is going well loski! Can you outline what happens at the review meeting please hon? Xxxx

 

[Loski83]

It is in your home with child's sw, your sw, independent review officer and health visitor for little ones. Our health visitor didn't turn up though. They then just observed us together for a bit asked a few questions on how we are finding things and how lo has settled in. Anything new that's happened etc. lasts about an hour very informal although they take notes on it all. At the second review we fill in the court papers to get the adoption order done. So excited to have it all legal xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi everyone!!

Loski, that is lovely, glad all went well. Sounds like your little one is settling so nicely!

Zero, how are you? Counting down the days i'm sure!!

Hi Puppy, Lynds, DOB, BF and everyone else!

Sooooo..... great visit SW was lovely as ever and very happy to invited us to apply. She said she will put the application in the post tomorrow. We are to sign and return and then she is going to start the clock on 24th October (the day before prep). That starts the 8 month time period in which we need to get to panel by! So looking like June time!!

So next steps prep in 3 weeks. Then we start home study on 8th November, with another session booked in for 22nd. SW is emailing us medical and CRB forms, and some of the homework worksheets to start looking at and collating information for.

So very happy, and equally nervous as after so many years waiting this is finally happening. It is a surreal feeling!!

 

[dreamofabean]

wonderful news lolly!!! X

 

[Loski83]

That's great lolly sounds like things are really happening for you now. Not long till prep group you will enjoy prep it is really interesting and full of information.
Our little girl is poorly she is full of cold well we all are.
Hope everyone is ok and looking forward to the weekend.

 

[Lyns]

Sat (nervously) waiting for our social worker to visit. We have refused to go back into linking without this issue being sorted and our complaint being responded to....as I can't take it coming up and being a problem again. I've lost too many babies already....

I still don't get why really.....I can't see how they can see us being self employed as a problem. We've told them we'll take as long as we need off work, but we thought it silly to set a fixed timescale. Why set a year if we only need 6 months.....or what if we need 18 months?? We have the flexibility for that....and the financial security, so I really want to get it covered. It really seems like semantics on the part of one individual who seems to have something against anything other than the 'normal' 9-5 employed job. We'll see.....

Hoping by the end of the day we will be back on track. If not....then I guess I may look at changing our agency. Does anyone know if you can do that mid-process??

 

[Loski83]

Lyns personally I would stick with your agency cause if you change you have to start all over again. I am self employed and I told them I was taking 9 months off, however once you do court order you. Can do what you want regarding work just agree on a timescale with them and change it once you have your child tucked up at home.

 

[zero7]

Lyns, ^^^^^ What Loski said!! ^^^^^

 

[Lyns]

Thanks ladies.....thats just what hubby said as well. "Sod it...if thats the way they insist it should be, we'll tell them what they want to hear and then we'll judge what is best for our child" he said!

Meeting went ok....she's agreed to including an additional section in our PAR on our work/life balance and use that tp put across the good things about the flexibility we have. She says she's got other links already for us, when we are ready to go again, so once I've seen this new stuff (she said she'll do it by Monday) we could be back into linking and matching.

OK, me thinks it's wine o'clock.......have a lovely weekend ladies xx

 

[Loski83]

Lyns do you get children who wait?
I am still receiving it as I paid for a year and don't need it if you want them let me know I can send them to you there's loads of children in them.
The offer is open to anyone if lyns doesn't need them xx

 

[zero7]

Lyns - I always remember the words of my CMO (chief medical officer)

'Keep smiling, nod and play the game'. He and his wife adopted many years ago. When I told him, about two years ago, that we were hoping to adopt, he said those words to me. He told me how they (SS) expect you to be the perfect parents even if they say they don't. How they expect you to jump through hoop after hoop and fit in with the 'perfect' scenario as prospective adopters.

So, smile, nod and play the game!! After you have your child, you can go back to the real world!!!

Lou Lou XXX

PS - I'm Police, thats why I have a CMO! XX

 

[Lolly1985]

Good luck Lynds! Hope that this tweak stops any misunderstanding and heartache going forward. Praying for a smooth match for you now

Hope you are all ok. Had a horrible weekend here as our little kitty went missing. Hence the change in picture as I was too heartbroken to see his little face. It was almost like he heard that a child was coming and thought sod it... We were so upset, he is our baby since my body denied us one. Anyway, day 3 today and we had lost hope but were putting up posters when we saw this old run down house in a cul-de-sac with an old cat flap... Me and MIL alked round the garden and house and looked up and there he was, miowing at the window! I legged it down the street to DF screaming 'I can see him!!!!' Anyway that was start of new set of probs...! According to neighbours the owner has lived abroad for last 15 years and old widower who went in each week died last month. We called police who said to try RSPCA, so we did and they wouldn't come out until 5pm tomorrow as they have to take that he has only been stuck since the time we found him, and respond in 24hours if still there. I argued the point til I was blue in the face but no good. By the time I was off the phone neighbours were reaching through cat flap and pushing the door! We went in (bad I know but he had not eaten/drunk in 3 days and was stressed as he could hear our voices) and went up and he had shut himself in the room. He was so light and scared when I picked him up but is home now and sleeping at my feet I have lost 3lb in 2 days! Such highs and lows over the last few days

Hugs and love to all xxx

 

[Milty]

Oh my thank goodness you found him in time

 

[Butterfly67]

oh Lolly I am so glad there is a happy ending to your story