Adoption journey

[LolaM]

Wow Loski- what a change in her eating now!!! I didn't realize you were night feeding- you must have been knackered!!!!

I definately have seen a change in my LO eating since dropping the pm bottle i.e. she is eating better! Tonight she even ate peas with her tea!( she hates veg!!) Maybe I will cut down on her other milk a bit, but she still loves it so much......

XX

tea? you feed a baby tea?

 

[Loski83]

Lola she means tea as in what we call dinner, not drinking tea. Think thats what your thinking anyway lol. How are you feeling about Wednesday and are you and your husband ok now hope you's are. Xx

 

[LolaM]

When you had your home inspection, did they check inside your refridgerator?

 

[Milty]

My home inspector did not but they did look in my pantry. A friend of mine did have them take a quick look but didn't really look if you know what I mean.

 

[Loski83]

They did in ours x

 

[zero7]

Wow Loski- what a change in her eating now!!! I didn't realize you were night feeding- you must have been knackered!!!!

I definately have seen a change in my LO eating since dropping the pm bottle i.e. she is eating better! Tonight she even ate peas with her tea!( she hates veg!!) Maybe I will cut down on her other milk a bit, but she still loves it so much......

XX

tea? you feed a baby tea?

Lola- I call it tea (as in teatime) because she eats at 5pm!

My home inspection was all about safety. I cannot see the point of looking in your pantries and fridges pre adoption - you could be the sort of people who eat out alot! Thats just being nosey IMO!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

I work with so many children whose parents give tea in a bottle, complete with 2 sugars Of course I know Zero is not one of them and tea is tea (ie, meat and 2 veg )

Wow, really, the fridge? Is that for cleanliness, eating habits or both?

Milty, how did your matching meeting go?

Lola, how did today go?

Loski and Zero, it's so lovely reading about LOs eating as it makes it all the more real, there really is a little person at the end of all this isn't there?!

We have our homework through for next week. There is a lot!!! It is all about the little boy whose CRP SW gave us (it is a fake one with google images in case you are wondering!) It adresses his behaviour and life events at different ages - 4 and newly placed, 7 and going to school, 11 and transition to secondary, 15 and teenage rebelion, 21 and leaving home, and 28 and girlfriend is pregnant. We then have to answer questions about what we feel he is thinking/experiencing at each stage, what we may put into place to support his current needs, what behaviours we may address etc. The 28 one is crazy to think about as I am only 27 now. How can I imagine parenting a child who is older that me Wish me luck with this one girls

 

[dreamofabean]

lolly how funny!!!
Well we start prep tomorrow very excited!!

 

[LolaM]

We didnt pass. Our fire extinguisher was too small, we have to have a COMMERCIAL sized extinguisher. Dont bother to call 911 im going to put this fire out MYSELF! and because we had didnt have the smoke detectors ON the wall, and he didnt seem to see the reason in us waiting to be sure we had them in the right place. We do have them though so its not a huge deal, we just have to have our SW come back to verify the corrections have been made. Our inspector is a "to the letter" guy and he had no sense of humor at all.

 

[Milty]

That's not really a fail. They usually find one or two things they can recommend. It's normal and nothing to worry about.

 

[LolaM]

That's not really a fail. They usually find one or two things they can recommend. It's normal and nothing to worry about.

ahhhh ok. Its all easy fixes. I just need to get to the store and get a new extinguisher.

 

[Loski83]

If that's all they found wrong Lola your doing great
I know people who had to move house cause they had too much that needed doing and they have their child placed with them now

 

[Loski83]

Lolly your homework sounds crazy we never had any like that, have fun with it lol. They checked our fridge I think cause it was a really old one we had borrowed as ours had blown up and we where waiting for a new one to be delivered. It was just a fridge as well with no freezer and only our first visit so we just explained to him the situation and all was fine.

 

[Lolly1985]

I don't think I can do the homework. I don't think I can do anything. On Thursday our baby boy, our kitty cat was killed on the road and we are just heartbroken. He was our baby when we couldn't have our own. I don't know whether to change my picture as it hurts to see his beautiful face, or whether to keep it as a tribute. He was more than a cat, and I am scared how much this is hurting us right now. I miss him. RIP my boy xxxxxxxx

 

[Loski83]

Lolly I am so sorry to hear that and just like losing a family member time does make it feel better, you won't forget but you will heal xxx
I would leave his picture up he's still yours and you will always have your memories.

 

[dreamofabean]

So sorry lolly

We started our training on Thursday. I shocked that we were the only couple out if six in our situation! Others were previous adopters and foster carers!!
Has been full on but interesting! Yesterday's session was cut short due to the terrible weather so we have reading to do and a bit of homework for next Wednesday. All in all though I'm very glad to be started!! X

 

[zero7]

Oh lolly! So very very sorry for you hon. As a mummy to three cats, I feel for you. Keep his picture up if you can. Such a beautiful boy. xxxxxxx

 

[ipen44]

Hi All,
I wanted to introduce myself as I am reading all your business

DH and I were TTC last year and have decided adoption is a better choice for us. We are in the U.S. so we have taken longer than the average bear getting things going. As we went through the whole paperwork process, we kept making adjustments that would better suit us to parenthood. So 50 lbs, a home-based job, and an 800 mile move later---we should "go live" next week. This means that we are all approved to adopt.

Next begins the process of "pick us pick us " Not sure how many are from the U.S. here, but it is largely up to the birth mother to select the adoptive parents.

I am going to circle back and see what I can learn about all of you and where you are in the journey. Good luck to you all.

Amy
P.S. The beautiful girls in my Avatar are my nieces. DH and I are still working to be 1st time parents.

 

[LolaM]

Hi All,
I wanted to introduce myself as I am reading all your business

DH and I were TTC last year and have decided adoption is a better choice for us. We are in the U.S. so we have taken longer than the average bear getting things going. As we went through the whole paperwork process, we kept making adjustments that would better suit us to parenthood. So 50 lbs, a home-based job, and an 800 mile move later---we should "go live" next week. This means that we are all approved to adopt.

Next begins the process of "pick us pick us " Not sure how many are from the U.S. here, but it is largely up to the birth mother to select the adoptive parents.

I am going to circle back and see what I can learn about all of you and where you are in the journey. Good luck to you all.

Amy
P.S. The beautiful girls in my Avatar are my nieces. DH and I are still working to be 1st time parents.

I am in the US and we are going state adoption/fostering. We just had our home inspection, we have to make a few adjustments but all that we have left is 3 or 4 classes, physicals and CPR.

 

[ipen44]

Hi Lola,
I had foster children many years back and when through that process. I am now going through a private agency. The paperwork for the private agency is WAY harder, but the physical requirements are WAY easier.

That is surprising to me. I was expecting a foster care style home study. What we had was a nice sit down and chat with a lady who was more helpful than anything. We had all of our smoke detectors, fire extinguishers, etc. in place and she barely looked. We did take a 1.5 day class and have to read 3 books, but no other course requirements (Yay).

Maybe the paperwork is more difficult than before because I was not planning to adopt and so there would really be no legal problem???

Either way--very glad to have all of the prep almost behind me. Sounds like you are almost there too. I know in the TTC forum, they spread baby dust on you for luck--I guess baby dust is as good for us so some to you