Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Hi all

I am away visiting family at the moment and internet is shocking I have just about managed facebook but anything else has been a no go! So OMG at all the news

Ipen, you are a mummy Congratulations, it seems to have been a complete whirlwind but oh so right. Very happy for you and DH

Dream WOW, big news!!! What a lot to think about, I cannot even begin to imagine the part of matching even though we are potentially so close too. We go through a process, and now finally it really feels real! Can you get more information at this stage if you are interested or have you their full CPRs? Lots of talking to do I imagine, thinking of you and hoping you come to a decision that feels right. Exciting times

How is everyone else doing?

SW is contacting final referee by phone on Monday. When she rang I was with her having lunch... now considering she is normally 400 miles away that would have surely confused SW Also our family referee has received their written report to sign. She was naughty and read it to DF down the phone, he said it sounded really good SW missed called DF Friday but no message and she was unavailable when he returned the call. It'll be something of nothing so why am I worried

I am home Tuesday, have missed DF and my furbaby but having a lovely catch up with family and friends. The sun is shining too, bliss!

Love to everyone, Lolly xxxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah hope you're having a great time Lolly
I have the full CPRs. Dh Is having doubts but I'm really very drawn to them! It's only the fact it's 2 babies not one that is scary. Their backgrounds are absolutely great, much simpler than we would have imagined! I like the idea of 2 but dh is scared that it'll be too much. I just wonder if well ever be offered much appealing children again? Even if it was a singleton?! So confusing!
Those of you who have your babies, did you know immediately just from reading their details? We've yet to see a photo but I'm glad as I don't want it to sway my view!

 

[Lolly1985]

Wow Dream, the reality has kind of hit me in reading this, how extremely difficult. I always just thought we would know, but why should we? How can you? So much to consider, they are very close in age and it'll be like going from 0-100 miles an hour in an instant, yet 'simple' histories, you are drawn already, they are obviously a good match or SW wouldn't show you... Oh goodness, how very hard. Keep talking to DH, do a list, pro's/cons... I know that sounds terrible, they are children, but it may help paint a black and white picture without they emotions taking over. How long can you keep thinking, do they give you a deadline or anything? Ahhhhh, this is all happening very quickly, they must have had you in mind for a while. BIG and also Congratulations, even if you don't proceed at this stage they wanted you, that is wonderful

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks lolly I hadn't even thought about it like that in all my panic!
We've both said there are so many positives, the only negative is that it'll be crazy hard work and scary to think about! Ha ha
I don't know if photos would help, but I don't wanna risk falling for their pics if they're not right?!
I dunno!!
I always thought I'd know instantly too.. But in this case I don't, so does that mean its not right?!

 

[Lolly1985]

I wouldn't say that at all. I would say that this is of course a life changing decision. This is the outcome that you have been waiting for for years, the one that all the treatments never gave us. This is massive and you are thinking everything through. If you see it that way it is perfectly logical to be cautious, it would be crazy to just say 'yes' I guess Its forever after all! BUT, if you can only think of one negative then maybe its just about as right as it an be.... it'll be super hard work but if they are the right children....

 

[dreamofabean]

I know... That's kind of how I feel. Dh on the other hand is still hiding in the cupboard (metaphorically )

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh good... thanks for the clarity.... I was getting worried Reckon it might be time to try and pull him out

Had an email from SW today with a few questions. Working on our PAR on a sunday afternoon, i'm either impressed she is so committed to get us to panel next month or worried she is so behind she is having to work weekends

 

[LolaM]

I know... That's kind of how I feel. Dh on the other hand is still hiding in the cupboard (metaphorically )

It would be hard, AT FIRST, but then you would settle into a routine. Did they tell you the children are developmentally on task or are there delays? Do they ahve special needs?

 

[dreamofabean]

Lolly I'm sure all is on track
Lola they are developmentally where they should be x

 

[Lolly1985]

SW rang DF today. She said she has a week to get PAR finished, get it sent to us by email, signed and submitted. She thinks she can do it though.... DF said if it has to be June we understand but she said for the sake of a couple of days she really wants to make the deadline. She emailed some more bits to complete which I have just done and sent. So we are on a week countdown, if all is good and in by next Monday May 16th it is..... living on the edge!!!!! xxxxxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Eeek!!! So exciting may panel would be amazing!! fxed your Sw gets it sorted! X

 

[Lolly1985]

But Dream, May panel is 3 weeks on Thursday..... Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[dreamofabean]

we might get our babies around the same time!!!

 

[Loski83]

Wow lolly so close now, I'm excited for you. We had a couple of hours to read our par, sign it and get it back to make it in time for may panel so I think it's just meant to be. It's funny now thinking how stressed I was in your position and you will be thinking the same thing when it's all done.
Dream that would be great if you got your little ones that quick, good luck.

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh wow Dream, you never know!!! I honestly still can't begin to contemplate it all!! SW has asked DF for some bits to be sent back to her tonight as she is working on it now! He is currently playing fifa and I can't even nag him to do it NOW as I am still away until tomorrow But can't really argue as he has worked 12 hours today and said he needed one game for some down time!

Really Loski, am I you a year ago? That is crazy to think isn't it! I remember you saying how stressed you were and it really is! I feel all churned up inside

 

[Loski83]

Just been reading all of this thread from beginning and wow what journeys we have all had, I was crying in some bits lol. Lolly I was at panel June 14th got my dates wrong sorry. Took so long to read it all cause lo kept shouting mammy and kissing me which just put it all into perspective.
Lyns and zero I hope you's are doing great with your little ones and that it's nearly all legal for you's as well. To everyone that has popped on to stalk or congratulate people thankyou so much for your words of encouragement to me and others on here it really does mean a lot. To everyone still going through the process I hope it goes smoothly and that the wait doesn't see too long. Thinking of you all loski.
Meanwhile igot my first letter with little one name on yesterday was so nice to officially see her with our surname. Only 12 days till we get her christened and I'm so excited, it's a day I never thought I'd be having christening my baby. Seems so surreal now to see how far we've come and remember the way I used to think. Now I just don't think always have mammy brain lol.

 

[Nicki123]

Aw Loski what a lovely message, I have really enjoyed stalking this thread. So many happy endings, and more to come soon by the sound of it! X

 

[Aimee4311]

Agreed! I get so excited when I see there's a new post, I'm always hoping its good news!

 

[Lolly1985]

Loski that is a lovely post! Made me well up and is so true. Look how far we've all come

Ummmm girls.... check out my ticker

 

[Aimee4311]

Yay Lolly! I'll bet the nerves are going to be crazy as it gets closer!