Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Yay!! Life appreciation type day confirmed for 13th August! Can't wait to learn more about our baby girl from all who know her. Just so excited, 19 sleeps and counting..

Any news dream?

Hope everyone is well and little ones are even better xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Ooh yay so exciting Hun!!
Yeah had an email last night saying its very unclear as to the extent of his health issues. There are a few minor bits but also he has presented as having cold and mottled feet which can be an indicator of poor circulation. That with the fact he has a heart issue is a bit worrying. She also said they have identified a child from their la too so do we want details?
She's on leave til Monday so need to have a good think. I love that little chappy but we have to be practical and I don't want a child we could lose

 

[Loski83]

Dream I would look at the other profiles still and be open to getting a different child if you don't feel his health issues are something you can deal with. You definetly need to let your head rule over your heart during this part of adoption even though its very hard.best of luck to you.
Congratulations lolly you will have an amazing day and ask all your questions no matter how silly you think they may be. You will find out so much about little one. We met lo for the first time same day as la day. When are you starting intros?

 

[Lolly1985]

That sounds difficult dream. And damn her being on holiday!! Is this what she has told you or have you read the full cpr? There is also no reason why you can't see other little ones profile. Sometimes we were looking at 5 at once, although that isn't really manageable. But as awful as it sounds sometimes comparisons make decisions clearer. How difficult, you sound like you have fallen for him, especially hard as you have met him. You know where I am lovely xxx

Thanks loski!! We are really excited. Unfortunately after this meeting we still have a whole month until matching panel, and then another week until we meet our baby girl (provisionally 20th September) How is your lovely lady doing?

Love to all xxx

 

[Loski83]

The time will fly over lolly, our little lady is amazing. She has a hand full of splinters and back teeth coming through so we've had fun. I still pinch myself at times and I feel so much love for her and can't believe it's nearly a year since she came home. I wouldn't change a thing about her not even her being adopted. She is our amazing, beautiful, inquisitive, cheeky and sometimes naughty little monkey lol

 

[Lolly1985]

Ahh Loski that is such a lovely post, I'm so glad you are so so happy. She sounds amazing and your love for her shines through. Adoption is her story, it makes her her and brought her into your family, happy you wouldn't change a thing xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Such a lovely post loski you have what we all dream about
Thanks for your posts girls. Yeah I know we should keep options open. We have been daft to fall in love with little chappy without knowing the full info but its so easy when he's so scrumptious!!
We have yet to see his CPR. Our Sw has spoken in depth with his family finder about him and then shared info with us. On Monday ill call Sw and ask if we can have both boys cprs. They may say no as normally only give you one at a time, but well see!

 

[Lolly1985]

I think that is a sensible approach dream, I hope they agree. You are living the toughest stage now lovely. It'll all be so so worth it though xxx

 

[bluebumble]

Hi everyone

Lolly - yey exciting!!!

Dream - remember this is forever and dont rush into something if a nagging doubt is there about health. Its easy to fall in love with a picture but reality is soooo much different

hello to everyone else

Just a quick update on us - we got a unanimous yes at matching panel for a 4 year old little pink one and start intros on the 14th august!! soooo excited and cant wait to meet our daughter and complete our little family. Making the most of the peace before chaos starts

will update when I can

 

[dreamofabean]

Ooh how exciting Hun! Time will fly til 14th! Eek!! X

 

[Loski83]

Congrats bluebumble can't wait to hear all about your pink one. Will be thinking of you and lolly in August lots of special moments.

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh BB that is so exciting! Not long at all now!! So will she be starting school this time? Do you delay it so that you are home together to begin with to aid bonding and attachment?

Thinking of you dream and hoping you get some more information tomorrow

Love to everyone, hope you have all had lovely weekends! We had a family wedding and shared with people (hopefully not prematurely but so fed up of the 'it'll be you two next' comments!) Everyone was lovely, really really lovely, and so excited for us. Another cousin is getting married in August next year at Bristol Zoo and they were so happy that after the ceremony we could take our little pink to see the animals! So sweet

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks lolly ill give Sw a call tomorrow n see what she says
Aww how lovely you shared your fab news with friends so exciting as its just getting closer! Eek! Can't wait to hear when she's home and how things are going! I know, now I'm getting premature! Lol! X

 

[Lolly1985]

And as I am telling you you'll be thinking 'oh my god, that's going to be me!!' xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Hee hee! Gosh I hope so!

 

[aimze]

Hi ladies...

I've loved stalking this forum over the last year!

Quick question for uk...what are the differences approaching an agency to local council?

Thanks in advance

X

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi Aimze and welcome!
I can't answer that I'm afraid bit I know that lolly will be able to advise you x

 

[Loski83]

They work differently Aimee, we contacted both local authority didn't want to work with us as my husband already has 2 sons. They told us we should be happy with what we already have. We tried a few and none of them where right for us. I was about togive up when I got told about our private voluntarily run agency and they where fantastic. I think you need to approach both and arrange to do an open evening with them and find out which one works best for you. Good luck and just ask any questions you have one of us will hopefully have an answer, all of us will support you. Good luck x

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi aimze!

To be honest there was very little difference for us. We live in an area with a large adoption consortium so whatever route we had taken we would have been placed on the consortium's register and considered for the same children. We chose our agency as the timescales offered were quicker, the post adoption support is amazing and we simply got a much more positive vibe from them. Traditionally people think agencies find families for the harder to place children. This used to be the case but I think now they simply help local authorities find children forever families as sadly there are so many little ones in care and not enough adopters. I think meet with agency and authority and your choice will become clearer. We deliberated and met with both and couldn't be happier with our decision!

Loski also went with a VA so may be able to add some more info.

It's tricky deciding but you will make the right decision for you xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh, Loski already added info while I was typing, haha!!