Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

So so sorry to read this. It is just horrific and he must pay for what he's done. Although nothing will bring back your nephew I pray some justice is done. So sorry sweetie

Thrilled to hear about little niece though, she sounds to be thriving

Big hugs xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Morning all!
Drudai I am so sorry, that is just heartbreaking
Lolly are you still on cloud 9 Hun?! Bet you can't stop smiling!! Friday will come around so quickly and then you will have your precious girl in your arms

 

[Rainy123]

OMG just received a letter to confirm that I'm booked in for the next panel date. Can't quite believe it and now very very scared that they will say no. How were all your experiences of panel?

 

[dreamofabean]

Rainy that's fab news!!
Our experience of panel was really positive they changed the format that day so it wasn't how we expected it but was fine! We went in with our sw and were asked about 10 questions, all the usual stuff such as why we wanted to adopt, how would our lives change? How would we encourage our child to be proud of where they came from etc. then we went out, they decided and called us back in within a couple of mins. We had given them our family book though so that's what took the time, they were busy having a nose! Lol
It was a really positive experience and over with very quickly!
You will be fine Hun, your sw wouldn't be taking you to panel if they thought you would be turned down!!!
So what date is panel?? Xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Brilliant rainy!! Our experience was also positive, but to be honest, after all the build up we were thinking after, was that it?!! Haha! We were asked 4 questions, like what had been learnt, what did we enjoy, why did we choose our agency and what childcare arrangements did we think we may have in place after I return to work. In and out in about 5 mins, whole panel done in about 20!! You'll be brilliant hun! xxx

Hi Dream, still getting our heads round it all to be honest! But keep looking at her pictures and thinking wow, that is our daughter!! xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

I bet it feels very surreal!!
I am babysitting step sisters foster child at moment she is 4 weeks old and such a tiny tot!! Poor little mite has tummy ache so is currently attached to my shoulder as that's the only way she will sleep!!

 

[LolaM]

I swear! Baby has visits with his siblings, i send him with a full tummy, he has a sensative stomach and hes also eating solids so we have to watch for reactions--they decided to FEED HIM anyways--good thing he didnt have a reaction! Who knows what they gave hime-MORONS!!! No wonder he was fussy all night long--ugh, why do we bother???

 

[karenh]

Lolly: you are so sweet. I am grateful that I was able to read about your journey and that you have been so supportive of mine. Thank you! Less than a week now until you meet your precious daughter!

Drudai: I am so sorry for you loss and all you have been through. How horrible to have to witness.

Rainy: Congratulations on getting a confirmation of your panel date! You will do great!

Dream: Isn’t it the best feeling to have a baby cling to you and need you. Enjoy it! They grow up way to fast. My nephews are spending the night tonight and I can’t believe they are 4 and 2 already.

 

[karenh]

I swear! Baby has visits with his siblings, i send him with a full tummy, he has a sensative stomach and hes also eating solids so we have to watch for reactions--they decided to FEED HIM anyways--good thing he didnt have a reaction! Who knows what they gave hime-MORONS!!! No wonder he was fussy all night long--ugh, why do we bother???

Ugh! That is so frustrating! I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Maybe next time send something incase they want to give him a snack?

 

[Loski83]

Hi all, drudai so sorry to hear about your nephew and hope and justice is done. Pleased to hear your niece is improving and happier.
Rainy congrats on panel date and its simple but I found it very emotional and cried like a softy lol. They only ask a couple of questions though very quick.
Dream hope you enjoy your baby cuddles x
Lolly enjoy looking at your photos of little pink won't be long till she's in your arms and your looking down at her face.
Hi to everyone else I'm just waiting for X factor to start hope it's good cause I'm so bored tonight.

 

[Loski83]

Lola hope little one is ok after they have fed him.

 

[LolaM]

well, i found out they gave him apples and those give him diarrhea, which is EXACTLY why i didnt want them to feed him! Its not his feeding time and he doesnt need snacks so i dont know why they insist on feeding him.

 

[karenh]

Who were the adults that were at the visit?

 

[AndreaFlorida]

drudai I'm so sorry to hear of your loss My condolences

Karen and Lolly Thank you both We do our best and I will definitely probably hop back on and read the progress that they are making. Ya know I just thought about it, and it really doesn't sound like much. But when we first got the girls Myra would just say back to you what you said. Say I tell her "How are you today?" She would say "How are you today?" as an answer. Now you can ask her that and she tells us "GOOD!!!" Its honestly amazing how much potential we see in that little princess! For a while I kept saying NOTHING is getting better I felt we were going backward but looking back there have been a few small steps in the right direction lately!

I just looked at poor Haley's grades and maybe just maybe the school will FINALLY see what we've been telling them. She has 2 F's and the one is in reading which they won't promote her if she doesn't bring it up. I hope they don't honestly because that will help our fight with the school board to get her in special needs school....I feel so bad for her. I'm sure the kids pick on her about her speech problem and her "delays" that are very noticeable but there isn't much I can do about them....and I'm sure Haley wouldn't even know they were picking on her b/c she doesn't understand .....Myra I have high hopes for...and Haley will need a LOT of coaching in life to get it right But she can do well....I know she can! Just takes a little encouragement and FAITH

 

[LolaM]

Who were the adults that were at the visit?

they have people that supervise, the drivers and the CASA worker. My husband is calling our caseworker on Monday. They seem to respond better to him, i cant even get a phone call returned

 

[Rainy123]

Thanks for all your replies and lovely messages. Less scared now and more just looking forward to knowing (one way or another) and then moving on to the next stage

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Rainy--- I'll be saying prayers, we worked ourselves up as well (we don't have really a panel here in the US not where I am located....but we are asked some very personal questions and lots of them...) But it wasn't as bad as we thought it would be the words came out exactly as we wanted them to



Lola I would keep calling and call the caseworker as well Keep fighting for what you know is needed lots of your way to!!!!!!!!

 

[Monkey78]

Hi everyone,
I havent had much time to log in and post lately, but have been reading everyone's news, and still think you are all amazing strong ladies. Its such a rough road, but reading all the outcomes it definitely does make it all worth it.

Lolly - what amazing news, congratulations, I cant imagine how you are feeling this week, I am so please for you, as I too have been following your story now for a good while, and it does give us all hope.

Dream - a month til you meet your darling little boy, congratulations.

Drudai - I am so sorry to hear your sad news, I really hope the courts make the right decision and put him away for a very long time. It sickens me to the core when i read things like this.

Rainy - what date are you going to Panel?

Loski - 1 year anniversary, how quickly has that gone. I hope your little girl is doing ok now after her fall.

Well a quick update with me, we have our 3rd home visit tomorrow, all going well. We have our panel date for 19th December So excited. So we are just busy preparing our house.. I am just dying to get out and start buying baby bits, but have to control myself at the moment !!

Not much else to report at this stage, so living my life through you girls
xxx

 

[PDubs10612]

Hi hoping I can join in...me and DH have just started the adoption process with our local Children's Aid Society and I am handing in our first set of paperwork today. Anyone here adopt within Canada?

 

[karenh]

Lola: I agree. Have him call the caseworker. They should be listening to you. You know what is best for him, you are the one that is taking care of and loving him.

PDubs10612: Welcome! I don’t know of anyone here that has adopted from Canada, but you are more than welcome to join us. Even if the processes aren’t the same the feelings are and we all support eachother.