Adoption journey

[zero7]

Lolly- another amazing day for you and your df! I am there with you, reliving my experience of those first few days with pickle! Such cherished times!

Dream - happy 7 months to your little man

Aimze - congrats on the new job!

Karen - I think you should go with whatever feels right. We women are usually spot on with our gut feelings!!!

Xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[AndreaFlorida]

I'm so excited for you Lolly!!! I love hearing the stories so far!! Keep em' coming She sounds like such a sweetheart

 

[puppymom32]

Awww that sounds like a feb day lolly my little one has dimples when he smiles big too I love them.
Lola sounds like your little man will be off and running in no time.
Karen yay for almost having your homestudy/write up completed.
Wohooo dream not much longer to go!!!
Congrats Aimze!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Thanks lovely ladies So here is today's update....

Today has been been tiring but lovely!! It started with Mummy giving breakfast and bottle, all was going perfectly until mouthful 8 or so when the response being the oh so familiar 'no no no' and that was breakfast done. Next was a morning bath (so we could see and get prepared for giving her hers tomorrow). Little pink was super helpful and rubbed bubbles on her tummy and arms! Can I just say that naked babies are uber cute!! Then nappy and play time! Little pink came to both Mummy and Daddy and was a very happy smiley girl Next was nap time. While she slept we looked at baby pictures and pictures from contact with BM, BF and BGrandma. It was nice to see but very sad. They look so in love with her, they just can't parent for various reasons, but i'm so glad she was so loved and wanted.

When little pink woke up we tried her in her carseat.... she loved sitting in it but as feared it's MASSIVE We bought it before we were linked as it was on a fab offer, but despite being 9+ months it won't be suitable for at least another 4-6 months in my opinion. The top of her head just reaches where her neck is supposed to be, my dinky little girl! So a trip to Argos tomorrow : Anyway, after all that we headed to Asda. Little pink sat in her seat and was a happy girl bopping to the music being played over the tannoy ;D When we got back it was lunch time... this was much better and lots was eaten followed by two yogurts and juice. After she was happy for Mummy to do nappy time and then we watched Balamory which she LOVES! She sang along to the tune 'buh buh buh buh' in a recognisable tune! She then claps hands and looks at you to make sure you are applauding her efforts too! After some more play and giggles at Daddy pulling silly faces it was nap time, our cue to leave. She had kisses on the cheek today but was too tired and grizzly for too many cuddles.

She is gorgeous, simply gorgeous and has an amazing happy temperament but doesn't feel like 'ours' at all yet. Intros are very strange for everyone and I am very conscious her little world is about to come all undone and we need to build it back up again and make it a safe, secure and happy one.

 

[drudai]

just marvellous.

How long are intros and when do you take her home?

 

[Lolly1985]

They are Friday-Friday, so all being well at the review meeting Tuesday they will confirm she is home forever on 27th

 

[dreamofabean]

Just fab honey, you are all doing such a great job!

 

[Loski83]

Nicki I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
Lola your little man sounds like he's doing so well.
Dream happy 7 months to your little man and it won't be long now till his hearing.
Zero I know exactly what you mean about reliving intros with lolly it's strange but lovely hearing all about it.
Lolly your little lady sounds like such a little cutie, we had the same problem with car seat as she was tiny and still in 3-6 month clothes she's caught up now though once she was off all the milk. Sounds like your having a wonderful time and that the fcs are very helpful.
Hi to everyone else hope your all ok and have had a good weekend.
Tomorrow me and little lady are off to Cornwall for 5 days so she can meet her great Aunty and great grandma for the first time as well as other family. I'm so excited to show my baby off to them all like a very proud mammy.

 

[Lolly1985]

Have a fantastic time Loski!!! I think a girl from work has a maxi cosy I can borrow some we'll save so money there, hooray! 2-8 tomorrow, bring it on xxx

 

[karenh]

Prayerful: Thanks for telling me about getting your nursery ready early. It helps me feel better. I don’t think we will before we are approved (hopefully we are close) but I do think we will paint soon. I am hoping to maybe get the crib for Christmas from my family. We will see.

Aimze: Congrats on your promotion! That is amazing!

Lolly: It sounds like your days with your little girl are amazing, how wonderful! You get to bring her home this week! It sounds as though she already loves you. You have a great mind frame. I know her whole world changing will be difficult, but it will be so good and worth it.

Dream: Only one month to go! That is so close! Hang in there, it will be here before you know it.

Nicki: I am sorry for your loss. If/when you decide to adopt, we are all here for you. Before that even.

Lola: It is wonderful that he loves you and being home at your house so much. Hopefully social worker and judge will see that.

Zero: Thanks for the advice! How are you doing?

Puppymom: How are you doing? What adoption route did you take?

Andrea: How are your little girls doing?

Loski: Enjoy your trip with little! It will be so nice for her to meet your family.

AFM: We have our personal interviews on Thursday and then all we have left it waiting for our caseworker to write up our home study and get us approved! Crazy! I am super nervous, but I know it will be ok.

 

[puppymom32]

We were a relative adoption but one relative to distant to not have to go through all the homestudy/background check process. We got our son when he was 4 weeks old and then started paperwork for the adoption process. So we did all of our training home visits with him. Still took about almost a year and half to be finalized from the time we brought him home and the whole time I was scared to death that my niece was going to change her mind or some random father would show up or paternal family. Thank God that did not happen. We were about to start saving for IVF when my niece called us to come and get him. So it was like it was meant to be. My last loss (which resulted in me losing my final tube) my due date would have be Jan 31st and my son was born Dec 9th so if that pg had lasted there would have been no way or a really tough decision to take him knowing I was having another newborn in a month. So all in all I think it worked out amazing and how it was ment to be. We had no time to plan for anything and as sucky as the waiting game is I kinda liked it better that way. We had to scramble to get everything together for him. I should also mention the adoption took longer because my son was born in Texas and we are in Ohio so we had to deal with the whole interstate adoption laws and regulations. It was also nice that when we did our interviews and homestudy LO was with us so it def helped the social worker see how adjusted he was and how we were at being parents. But I was SOOOOOO relieved when everything was finalized and done. My niece has had not contact with me other than 2 weeks after we took him home to sign away her rights and that has been it. She has two older girls that stay with other family as she is homeless and a drug addict. A sad situation all the way around but I will always be greatful for her giving me the most amazing gift anyone can ever ask for.

 

[karenh]

That is an amazing story. I am so glad it worked out so perfectly. He is precious.

 

[aimze]

Nicki sorry to hear about your loss. Even if adoption is something you may consider its worth attending an open evening to find out more...

Our recent loss was only July but because we contacted them in Jan 2012 they understood we knew adoption wasn't a rash step so allowed us to proceed.

Big hugs an hope you're feeling ok x

 

[Monkey78]

WOW.. I really do have to link in and read your updates on a daily basis, I have so much catching up to do on all your news, its lovely to hear that things are moving on for all of you.

Lolly - i too am in tears every time I read your updates, I am so excited for you and your darling little girl. I cannot believe Friday you will be a mommy at last I have been following your journey and its so lovely to see you are finally there. Well done you really must be on cloud 9

Aimzee - Congrats on the job, well done. I am in similar situation where I am no interviewing for jobs, but not saying anything at this stage. Its so hard, as we go to Panel in December but we dont know how long it will be until we finally have our child, so i am advised to not say anything at this stage. Would everyone agree on this?

Karen - I was wondering the same, am desperate to start buying, but havent yet. We are just decorating our house, and working our way up to the nursery and hope to have it all done by Christmas. Good luck !

Loski - Fabulous you are introducing your little girl to the rest of the family, enjoy being the proud mum you so deserve.

Nicki - Really sorry for your loss, many of us have been through losses in so many ways. When you are strong you know it will be right. I know for sure I did. Big hugs

Look forward to hearing more updates. And hi to everyone else on this journey, its lovely reading your news xxxxx

 

[karenh]

I would say hold off for a while on telling people esspecially at work about your adoption. Even if they don't mean to, people might not promote you because they may think you won't be available soon. EVERYONE I talk to I tell about our adoption, but that is because we need to find the baby and the more people keeping their ears open the better.

Decorating your house and moving to the nursery sounds like a great plan! I am kind of doing the same thing. My sister is coming over this weekend, hopfully, to help me start decorating my living room. I do think I might stop by the hardware store on the way home from work today though and pick up some paint charts for the nursery. I am thinking a pale grey with a tiny ihnt of color like blue, green, or purple. I don't know. We will see. It is so fun to start thinking about it though! Paint is about as far as I am going to let my self go I thinkg. Then maybe window treatments. I am thinking about asking for the crib or dresser for christmas!

 

[Nicki123]

Nicki sorry to hear about your loss. Even if adoption is something you may consider its worth attending an open evening to find out more...

Our recent loss was only July but because we contacted them in Jan 2012 they understood we knew adoption wasn't a rash step so allowed us to proceed.

Big hugs an hope you're feeling ok x

Thank you for your kind words everyone. I really do love this thread.

Aimze, that's a really good point and so definitely something I will look into. Thank you. X

 

[Lolly1985]

Thank you EVERYONE for being so wonderful and supportive

So, day 4....

I must say I've had the best day, and I am confident in saying DF has too!! We arrived to massive gummy grins and she crawled to us for cuddles! We headed out with FCs to the shops and split up once there, this meant a whole hour and half with our baby girl, and proper family of 3 Little pink rode in her new purple pushchair and charmed the world! Daddy kept anting to push, he was so proud and as much as I wanted to I let him as the image just melted my heart We took little pink to see the rabbits and fish in pets at home. I took her out of her pushchair for a closer look and she followed the fish round the tank!! She did well out of the trip and was treated to a new toy and two pairs of shoes!! We had the pushchair facing Mummy and Daddy and chatted with her and she babbled back. Super adorable!! She seemed relaxed with us and didn't look for FCs once, although admittedly was delighted to see them when we returned to the car, but totally understandable and normal.

When we got home Daddy changed his first nappy, but was a little slow meaning you wiggled all over the mat!! Mummy had to sing to distract you and Daddy succeeded in the end Next was bubbles! So much giggling and passing the bubble pot back to Daddy to request more! Mummy then fed you dinner and you ate up well! The 3 of us snuggled and watched in the night garden before bath, bottle and bed. I am falling so in love with my little pink!

Our SW rang on the way back (after collecting a maxi cosy from a very generous friend!) She is delighted with our accounts of how it's all going, but had to ask us if we wanted to proceed (as it's the review meeting tomorrow!!) Had to ask twice what she had said..... ummmmm YES So tomorrow is review at 10 o'clock and then a trip to your new home! can't wait until the morning

 

[drudai]

 

[aimze]

Amazing update lolly!! Love it

Xx

 

[karenh]

What a great day Lolly! Thanks for the update!

What do you guys think of these colors for the nursery? The light for the walls and the darker for the trim?