Adoption journey

[karenh]

Yikes! 4 months of weekly visits? I have a hard time with how little contact I have with my caseworker but that is a lot! Good luck! I hope everything works out ok with your loss and good luck at your 3 hour interview!

 

[aimze]

Thanks Karen, yes weekly visits is crazy!!! Thats a lot of visits isnt it...I think that might be worse case scenario but we'll see...The UK changed its process in July so we'll be amongst the first group with weekly visits, so they'll pretty much see how it goes an it might be the Adopter needs every other week but the process is extended!

 

[Rainy123]

Aimze - can't believe how many visits you will have. I think I only had 3 or 4 altogether! I think I missed the new system but my SW did use the new par for me.

Karen - I can't wait to chill out with other mummys. Already got Fridays sorted with some colleagues!

Lolly - so lovely to read it all. I imagine you must be hugely tired but not regretting it for a second. Can't wait to be in your shoes.

Heard from SW today, my approval has been ratified. Woo hoo. Another step in the long journey. She has passed on my details regarding a little boy but trying not to focus on that as the child' social worker might not be interested (but secretly keeping fingers crossed)

 

[karenh]

Rainy that is awesome! So glad that your approval is ratified and how exciting that they are talking about a little boy. I know this is the begining but it won't be long now. That is what amazed me about your process over there. Once you are approved it doesn't take long to be matched. I think my approval time will be shorter but it will take forever to be picked.

 

[zero7]

Just a very quick post!

Lolly - Nelsons teething granules are amazingly good and can be used along side with calpol as they are homeopathic. Dont know how they work they just do!!!!!

Love to everyone! X

 

[Loski83]

I used the Nelson's teething granules as well they are amazing. I also use ambesol oil as well which is really good.

 

[LolaM]

Waves bye-bye and cereal puffs...I just love his soft skin...

 

[karenh]

cute!

 

[Rainy123]

Got an official letter to confirm my approval yesterday. How exciting. It said congratulations a thousand times which I loved.

What is everyone up to this weekend?

I am up early so I can go shopping - need to get my niece a present for her first birthday and then maybe buy myself some clothes too.

 

[Loski83]

Lola he sounds cute.
Rainy a massive congratulations coming your way
Shouldn't be long now till yobs buying presents for your own little boy or girl now x

 

[Lolly1985]

Excellent news Rainy!! Celebrate in style with shopping until you drop!! xx

 

[karenh]

Congratz Rainy! That is awesome!

My weekend is filled with church.

 

[everhopeful]

Hi all I'm hoping it ok to join you here.

We've just sent in our very first interest form for adoption.

We have a 4 year old son and have tried IVF but are excited by this next step.

Xx

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi and welcome ever hopeful!
Hi girls sorry I've been AWOL, been trying to keep myself busy as the wait is driving me crackers!
Rainy a big congrats how exciting that there could also be a little one on the horizon already!
Lolly you know how super happy I am for you Hun! Keep the updates coming! Little pink is just the cutest!!
We meet little mans sw in 9 days, then 21st oct is the match meeting and 22bd us his court date. I am praying super hard that all goes ok! I honestly dread to think how well feel if all falls through
Trying to stay positive though!
I am trying to be organised about christmas as if all goes well little man should be home by mid December so we will have no time to shop etc. I have bought a few bits for our nieces and nephews so far and I'm really impressed with myself! I never, ever start Xmas shopping until December! Lol
Hope you're all well xx

 

[Loski83]

Hi ever hopeful and welcome.
Dream the waiting is definetly the hardest part.
Hi to everyone else hope your all ok. I have a stress fracture in my foot so struggling a bit at the moment.

 

[aimze]

Hi ladies

Ever hopeful whereabouts are you in the process?

We're just waiting our interview into stage 2...how awful is this...the agency emailed me a different persons acceptance! I got excited till I read the name lol c

 

[Loski83]

Aw Aimze that's an awful thing for them to do.

 

[karenh]

Everhopful: Welcome to our group! I hope you find the support you are looking for. Good luck on your adoption journey and I look forward to sharing it with you.

Dream: the 21st will get here before you know it. I can’t believe it is this month! Good job getting started on Christmas. I need to do that. Can you believe my little sister put her tree up yesterday?!? She is going to put candy corn on it.

Loski: Oh no! I have broken my foot before, it is not fun. I hope you heal quickly.

Aimze: UGH! That would be really frustrating. So sorry. Hopefully your letter is following soon after that one.

AFM: Still waiting to hear if CW talked to the last two people he felt he needed to in order cover his bases before writing our home study. I am going to email him today to see if he made contact.

 

[Lolly1985]

Good luck with the email Karen, I have my fingers firmly crossed

Aimze That's really awful and so disappointing for you too I hope you contacted them and I hope they were really embarrassed and apologetic

Dream, I am counting down the days for you lovely Patience in a situation like this is HORRIBLE, but so close know hunny

Welcome Everhopeful I hope that you hear back from your agency soon to arrange your first interview and home visit... keep us posted!!

Loski, owwww! What happened lovely? Rest up (as much as you can with a kiddiewink on the go!! )

Massive to everyone else, Rainy, Zero, Andrea, Puppymom, and anyone else reading!

We are settling into the swing of things this end and little pink amazes us each day! Yesterday I said to her 'little pink, shake shake', and she reached for her maraca from her treasure basket and started shaking!! She had a look on her face like 'yep, I know i'm smart...' We had a bit of drama last night when she over reached for a toy in the bath and slipped under the water I was right there but it happened too quickly Anyway I scopped her out and got soaking wet with a naked flailing baby on me Poor thing was so scared and I felt AWFUL! Tonight all was going fine until a put some water on the back of her head and it triggered the memory and she screamed so badly all over again I soothed her and sang and she did calm a little... I'm really upset, hoping it will pass as I have told everyone just how much she loves bath time...

We have started introducing family more but silly me got really jealous of SIL with her this weekend I have been fine with grandparents and her cousin as they are not 'threats' if you will... I don't want her to get confused as to who her Mummy is.... am I mental?!! That said, the adult company was lovely One giant contradiction me Our SW is coming to see us Thursday, will be nice for her to see us with a child after this whole journey. Anyway, tomorrow is soft play and then shopping for a waterproof suit so she can crawl on the garden come rain or shine!!

Love to all Lolly xxx

 

[karenh]

Poor pink with her fall. Hopefully more bath times without a fall and she will be able to recover. You did the right thing. Kids fall under water all the time. It is part of life. You were there to pick her up and comfort her. You are such a good mommy. Also, don't be worried about your feelings with SIL. It is normal to be protective about your bond. Little pink know who you are though, and she know you are her mom. It will be that way forever now.