Adoption journey

[Lolly1985]

Thank you Karen, what a lovely thing so say, really brightened up my day Also have been reading your blog and wanted to say what amazing friends you have, keep going Karen, you'll get there sweetie xxx

 

[karenh]

Thanks. I really do have pretty amazing friends, whom I would have never met if not for this infertility journey.

 

[Rainy123]

Karen - I also enjoy reading your blog so don't stop

Shopping was a big fail, just wasn't in the mood. Glad I went though as I bumped into a couple that were on my prep course and met their 2 children. Went for a coffee and a catch up and it was lovely to see the happy ending - so glad I'm on this journey and can't wait to start my family

 

[karenh]

Thank you! I am glad you follow it! I updated again today. I don't know what else to blag about while I wait though.

I am sorry your shoping trip didn't go as well as you planned, but how lovely to see the outcome that you are waiting for and how it is possible.

 

[AndreaFlorida]

Lolly I still have that fear at times.....our girls being disabled sometimes don't really know who mom or dad is we had my sil and bil over and we asked Myra who was mom and she pointed at her "aunt"....broke my heart...that was about 2 months ago so we'd had them almost 5 months at that point....she hasn't done it again since thankfully

Also I'm sorry to hear of her fall in the tub poor baby...she will forget it in a few days an it won't bother her anymore! Lots of hugs and I agree you're a great mummy!! You're doing an awesome job! I know some of my friends walk away from the tub when they have their young children in there and it makes me angry...I could never leave the bathroom when my babes are in the tub...lol unless its my 10 year old (he will be 10 on the 17th LOL...I'm trying to get used to having a child in the double digits)....ehhh time flies!! But again I'm glad pink is okay she has a great mummy!!

 

[karenh]

How is everyone doing? It feels like we are all in holding patterns, other than those whom have gotten your sweet littles.

I feel as though I may be coming down with a cold. I blame my annoying coworker who has pneumonia and still was coming to work and she used my pen and note pad! Without asking! Ugh!

On a better note, if everything goes smoothly and we don't have anything we need to work on, we may be approved the end of this month or the beginning of next month! Fingers crossed!

 

[Monkey78]

That is great news Karen, bet you are so excited. How long do you have to wait after approval in the US?

We are busy with our home visits, a bit draining at times, but are plodding on, until our panel date on 19 Dec, so not much to report from me.

Lolly hope all is going well, sorry to hear your little one had a tumble. aah.

Aimzee - how was your last workshop? You are not far behind me I dont think. We are having a total of 10 home visits over 3 months, and are pretty much every week/or fortnightly.

Rainy - congratulations on your approval, any news on matching?

Everhopeful - Hello and welcome, these girls are a lovely bunch, they have been a real help to me

To everyone else - HELLLOO, hope all is going good, and wishing you all a lovely weekend ahead
xxx

 

[karenh]

Monkey I am glad things are coming along. Your panel will be here so soon! Just 2 months away and it will fly with all our homework and Christmas preperations.

In the US there isn't really timeframes. My experiance has been that the approval mostly depends on how quickly you get your paperwork and training done and then however long your caseworker takes to write up your home study. Our orientation interview was July 19th so hopefully we will be approved in just under 4 months. Of cource things could come along and make it take longer. I have a ver dear friend who is also adopting. She started the process probably about a month before we did and they finished thier traning last week, and still have their home inspection and interviews and then waiting for the home study to be written. Then after we are approved there is still no timeline, we just have to wait until we are chosen. I have a coworker who is adopting and his wife and he have bee approved since March and haven't been chosen yet. So who knows how long all of this will take.

 

[Loski83]

Hi all, Karen sounds like it's all going good your end pleased to hear that. Hope everyone else is ok. Been busy this end lo has been poorly with flu so lots of twisting being done.

 

[karenh]

No fun having her sick.

I think I am coming down with something as well. : (

 

[aimze]

Hey monkey, yes we're a bit behind...last workshop was really interesting...did about contact, grief and legal issues...interview Friday coming then a decision! I think they might defer us because I'm having investigations into miscarriages...I'm not grieving my losses anymore so I don't see it as an issue but hey...

We also enrolled a few weeks ago in cubs an rainbows so been to about 4 as a volunteer an loving it! X

 

[Rainy123]

Monkey - no news on a match. I am slowly calming down and have stopped checking my phone every five minutes! Still hoping though.

Work is hectic at the moment so hoping for a quiet weekend. My niece's first birthday is soon so need to wrap presents and going to focus on that (and a holiday to visit her) to distract from the not being matched.

 

[Lolly1985]

Hi everyone

It's morning nap time so I thought I would have a quick catch up!!

Andrea, thanks so much lovely, you are always full of great advice. How are your boys and girls doing? I hope you have fully recovered from your horrible cold now. Hugs to you!

Karen how are you feeling? It seems germs are doing the rounds as I have been a bit run down too. Hope all is good your end and the rubbish waiting game is not taking its toll too much

Dream, two sleeps until your meeting!! Nearly here hunny

Loski how is the ankle? Hope little lady is doing well lovely!

Rainy did you find the perfect gift for little niece? You'll soon be giving her a wonderful present, and new cousin!!

Monkey, not long till approval at all now hun, it seems to have gone so fast. Does it feel that way or dragged for you? You'll have an amazing Christmas this year and even more so next year!!

Aimze I hope things go well for you and you get the outcome you want, everything crossed for you!

Hi to puppymom and zero too!!

So little pink is getting there at bath time. She is still totally rigid going into the water but with lots of distraction she is once again having a lovely splashy time! DF is back at work tomorrow and I'm quite nervous how I'll manage everything on my own. I guess we'll find our way, think routine and forward planning will be key here. First formal review on Wednesday, hoping all goes well. Our social worker came on Thursday and said some lovely things so sure all will be fine. We gave her flowers and a card and little pink blew her kisses, very cute!! Haha!

Right better go and fold the washing before she wakes up. Think we are going out for dinner today as a last treat! Have a great day everyone xxx

 

[Loski83]

Lolly it's so funny how much being a full time mammy changes your messages, it's fun squeezing as much as possible in to nap time isn't it.
Rainy it will happen just your child may no be ready yet
Hi and good luck to everyone else hope everyone is ok.

 

[karenh]

Lolly sounds like you are settling in nicely. I know you will do great even when DF is back at work.

I am still sick with a chest cold. I am hoping I start to feel better soon. Something is going on for sure; a lot of people at my work have been sick, as well as my family. The waiting game isn't taking too much of a toll yet. Our caseworker said if everything goes well we could be approved by the end of this month or the beginning of next month! It is a little scary, but also so hard to wait for. I am worried that once we are approved it will get really hard waiting and wondering why no one has picked us yet. My friends here that have gone on this infertility journey with me all thing it will happen quickly. It is really cute. The ones that are now pregnant are all talking about as they are making things for their little ones that are on the way they are thinking of making me the same in gender neutral because they all think I won't have any notice when baby comes and they want to show up with more stuff than I will ever need. It is so sweet. I can't believe that so much good can come out of something so hard and heartbreaking. I know it will be even better once baby is here.

Dream is your hearing for little one tomorrow?!?

How is everyone else doing? Lola?

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi all,
Sorry I've been AWOL a bit, trying to keep busy and no agonise too much!
Karen we meet little man's sw today, court is next Tuesday, so getting there slowly!
Sounds like you are making great progress! I will keep everything crossed that you are chosen very quickly Hun! X

 

[karenh]

How did the meeting go? Did the SW sound optimistic?

Thank you for your prayers. I really hope it doesn't take too long either. At the same time I am a little worried about maternity leave. I don't technicly get one as I am a contractor. If DH was working it wouldn't been a big deal, but he got layed off so now he is going to school. I know we will figure it out but I am really worried about it, esspecial because I want to try and breastfeed.

 

[dreamofabean]

It went great thanks Karen
She was very optimistic and told us a bit more info that has made us feel more confident.
We got to see a DVD of little man which was adorable! He was playing with his play gym gurgling, giggling and squealing 😍 he was very cute and I had to try and keep it together as I just wanted to cry!! We weren't allowed to keep the DVD but have been given another photo it was taken the same day as the last one so is very similar but were happy
So now we wait for court! We may or may not get ah answer on Tuesday, she warned it could run over to the half day they've booked next fri pm! X

 

[karenh]

I am so glad it went to well! It will be hard if you don't get an answer Tuesday, but at least it will be next week right? I pray that everything will go quickly and smoothly for you!

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks Hun x