Adoption journey

[dreamofabean]

have never felt more like Annie than I do right now Karen! Ha ha!
Lolly you make me smile! Do I look like a mum? D'oh! Only the best mummy ever you're all doing amazingly Hun
Hope everyone else is ok!
I'm a nervous mess, just want tomorrow done now! We need to know, regardless of the outcome! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Oh dream, we are all rooting for you, more than you even know xxx HUGS xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks chick, I'm on countdown big time! Ha ha

 

[karenh]

Agreed!

 

[dreamofabean]

Bad news ladies
Once again we have the crappy end of the stick
Case has been adjourned until 25th November as apparently the judge has now decided that some paperwork hasn't been received. I'm livid and devastated. Sobbed on the phone to our sw. She will call us on Monday to fill us in properly.
So now we have the decision of whether we wait again and risk this happening all over again, or walk away
It's a real head vs heart matter. I know logically we should walk as it's possible it could happen again or he could not get a placement order. But then we have made a strong connection with this little one, we've spent 3 months imagining he will be ours.,,
I dunno, need to speak to dh but he is at work til late tonight

 

[karenh]

Oh no! That completely sucks! I am so so sorry! Doesn't the judge know this affects peoples lives?!? I can't even imagine what I would do. I also can't believe you have to wait all weekend to talk with your social worker! Ugh! I am so mad for you!

 

[Lolly1985]

I was thinking earlier Dream and it really is head and heart and they will say very different things I expect. I will say that any other profile you get now you will think 'but it's not ***' and every child will be compared to him. I think it's disgusting this had happened, and I also think things should never be scheduled for Friday. This happened before and then you are left alone over the weekend with questions and no professional support. Once again I am so so sorry :'( But those words feel empty, it's not enough, I want to do more xxxxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks girls x we will be fine, just need to sort our heads out x

 

[Lolly1985]

Take all the time you need hunny. You know where we are xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

Take all the time you need hunny. You know where we are xxx

 

[puppymom32]

I am so sorry dream. It makes me so mad that all the legal mumbo jumbo gets in the way and the one suffering is the LO as he just needs his forever home. I know Nov seems like ages away and there is no guarantee but I know you will make the right decision for you and your DH. I know what is meant to be will be I just wish I had a magic 8 ball that we could see into the future and know what is going to happen. We waited 12 years to get our little one and a year and a half for our adoption to be finalized because we could not find his BM and through all the legal hoops we went thru a year and half seems so short in comparison to the 12 years we waited for him. I believe everything that happened was for a reason and pre determined even the long legal battle just so I would love my little one that much more. It hurts and when it was happening I thought I was going to give up but in the end I am so glad that I didnt. You are in my prayers hun. Stay strong we are here if you need anything.

 

[Lolly1985]

Lovely post Puppymom, your little one was meant to be.xxx

 

[Loski83]

Sorry to hear that dream hopefully it works out and you give it one more chance. Lolly you sound super organised wish I was.
It's been our lo's second birthday and we've had a big peppa pig halloween birthday party pleased it over though I'm exhausted. Hope everyone is ok.

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi guys, just spoke to Our sw. Her manager gone mad at the situation n said that based on evidence, they should def get placement order. So we go ahead with November panel, court is the week after it so all being well we get order and meet him 2nd dec as previously planned! Roller coaster or what!

 

[karenh]

Hi guys, just spoke to Our sw. Her manager gone mad at the situation n said that based on evidence, they should def get placement order. So we go ahead with November panel, court is the week after it so all being well we get order and meet him 2nd dec as previously planned! Roller coaster or what!

Wow! I am so glad they are so confidant and going to go ahead with the plan. Little will be home before Christmas!

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks Karen
I honestly feel like it's all just a big whirlwind, you couldn't make it up could you?! We are lucky to have such a lovely sw who fights for us! X

 

[karenh]

You definetly coudn't make all this up. I am so glad your SW is behind you and fighting for what's right. That makes such a big differance.

 

[Lolly1985]

Dream you know you made me tear up with this news. It's the best outcome given the circumstances and I'm so happy your social worker and manager are fully supporting you guys in all this. As are all your B and B buddies!! Lots of love hunny xxx

 

[Loski83]

Congrats dream pleased it's going ahead as planned.

 

[LolaM]

so...i have to tell you what happened friday at the baby boy team meeting...the mother asked to hold him and as soon as daddy gave him over, the fit hit the shan...he screamed and whailed like someone was beating him and held his arms out for dada to take him baaaack! and eeeeveryone saw it! the mother is allergic to pork, "grampa" is allergic to pork, lil sis is allergic to pork, so then baby MUST be allergic, right? Wrong--I give it to him all the time...morons...baby boys supposed birth father just died in February. If he is truly the dad, why not just admit to it and not make the kids have a DNA test??? he died in afghanistan, so wouldnt they be entitled to his death benefits? This is like a really bad Jerry Springer




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