Adoption journey

[dreamofabean]

Thanks girls
Aww rainy, big what a tough situation to be in. I guess you just need to know for definite and then decide what is right for you.
Do you remember that little boy we were considering with all the health issues? It devastated us to say no but then look what happened, we got little mans details the very next day! I believe it all happened for a reason, although it was super hard at the time xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Massive hugs to you Rainy, so sorry, what a predicament. Have you got a meeting with your social worker to discuss everything? Thinking of you lots lovely xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

What an emotional day!! My 30th birthday and my last day at work!
I have been spoilt rotten both by family, friends and work friends!
My day started off amazingly as I looked at fb and my cousin had posted a scan pic. My cousin who is 43 and has tried for 12 years and had lots of Ivf! I sobbed!! Just amazing news!!
Work was lovely and I was spoilt! I kept crying all day!
The day has been topped off about an hr ago by a text message of all things!
It said:
Happy birthday my mummy. Lots of hugs and kisses. (Little man) xxx and a photo of him
I sobbed!!
I just feel so happy! There is a twang of sadness that my beautiful nanny isn't here to see it all but I know this is all down to her! She has found me the most beautiful son in the world and I am the luckiest mama ever!! Xxx

 

[Lolly1985]

When will you give up on making me cry Dream?!! So very happy for you Your Nanny has done amazingly in bringing little man to you and she would be so proud

 

[aimze]

Amazing dream! Yay I can't tell you how excited I am to hear about Monday!

 

[LolaM]

Great news dream - so so happy for you. You've waited long enough and now your time is finally here

Need some help with my situation - just had a call from SW to say that they've just found out BM is 22 weeks pregnant. They have only just found out so not sure whether the baby will be removed etc but basically they think baby will be removed and they'll want them placed together. SW isn't convinced that this is the right thing for me - essentially 2 babies with barely a year between them. Tough decision to make and I'm just devastated that it looks like it's all over once again

that is a tough situation, and you're a new parents so you have lots to figure out with one, let alone 2 and a newborn???? Its not over, there is a chld out there for you...you just havent found each other yet!

 

[Rainy123]

Thanks all for your lovely words. I have said that I can't take on 2 such young babies. I really want to but it will be very tough and I wouldn't want to end up regretting my decision. SW wants me to wait a couple of weeks before pulling out officially to see if there are any developments. It isn't certain that they will want to place them together but I'm not sure I want to wait around for months just for it all to fall through then!

So happy for you though dream - can't wait to read all your updates!

 

[dreamofabean]

rainy xxx

Yesterday we went out for my birthday but first I was beautified with a friend at the vintage salon! I had real 40s style hair and make up, lots of swirls and curls in my hair loved it!
About 30 of us (friends and family) went out for tapas and drinks, it was lovely! Dh was super cute! He got me 2 cakes,both photo ones. One of me and shane lynch and one of little man
There was a live band in the restaurant who sang happy birthday to me and made me want the ground to swallow me up!! Lol. That was followed by A Greg request so they sang a Ronan song I almost blubbed, but I managed to keep a check on it! My mum however did not
It was a lovely night but I feel a bit worse for wear today!!
I'm currently cleaning the house and have put all the foam mats into the conservatory to create little mans play room. It amazed me how emotional I got! Had a good old cry
I think it's finally starting to sink in that we meet our son tomorrow!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

Awww Dream!!! It sounds just perfect. What a wonderful day and what a lovely hubby and family you have. Oh wow, it's tomorrow, I am literally buzzing with excitement for you!!! I hope you manage at least a couple of hours sleep night

Rainy, you poor thing. I'm really sorry, but you have been true to yourself and your capacities and in the long run its what will be best all round. Doesn't mean it won't hurt like hell now though so have millions of hugs and pull your support network close xxx

Love to everyone!!

We have just got back from our adoption agency's Christmas party! It was fab, food bags for the children, and entertainer who had instruments, bubbles and flashing lights! Father Christmas came with presents and little pink tried to pull his beard off!! Nearly ruined Christmas for a village hall full of children!! Oops! We saw our friends from prep and their little lad, and met up with another couple who we hadn't seen since training and their two little boys. Lovely to catch up! Little pink was the youngest there and after a while wanted to go off and explore. Trouble was all the others were charging about and I was worried she would get trampled!! It's events like that that reassure me about our aattachment. She stayed close to mummy and daddy for first half an hour and would return to me and lay her head on my lap (with cheeky grin!) when people spoke to her. She did recognise our social worker though and waved across the room to her! It's injection day tomorrow, oh boo :'(

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah bless her she is such a cutey!! Boo to injections is it the mmr? X

 

[Lolly1985]

Yeah, big bad booster! Swiftly followed by a visit from our social worker. What a fun afternoon for little pink

 

[LolaM]

Thanks all for your lovely words. I have said that I can't take on 2 such young babies. I really want to but it will be very tough and I wouldn't want to end up regretting my decision. SW wants me to wait a couple of weeks before pulling out officially to see if there are any developments. It isn't certain that they will want to place them together but I'm not sure I want to wait around for months just for it all to fall through then!

So happy for you though dream - can't wait to read all your updates!

I dont know how things work where you are, but i gotta just say...that is going to be a difficult placement for ANYONE, after all who can care for 2 very young children? So dont give up just yet!

 

[Loski83]

Dream you've had me in tears I'm so happy for you, good luck for tomorrow meeting your son not that you need it.
Rainy I would wait and see what happens they may decide to best to place them separately so they both get the love and care they need. Good luck to everyone else.
My news is my lo is doing great we are at our adoption office Xmas party soon looking forward to that. The driver that hit my husband has handed himself in after trying to scrap his car. His aunty told the police his name and the scrap yard phoned the police. So he basically had no choice.

 

[dreamofabean]

I hope she isn't too phased by her jab lolly!
Thanks loski, I'm super excited now!! No idea why but I'm worrying about what I'll wear! :Haha: like a 9 month old cares!!
Loski I'm glad they know who the driver is now! Good on his Aunty!!
I have just collected my pram from my mum's house it's starting to feel a bit more real now!!!

 

[Lolly1985]

It is real Dream because it's happening TODAY!!! xxx

That's positive news Loski, I hope justice will be done and your husband is recovering well xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Omg so the day is finally here! Today we meet our beautiful son for the first time! It is slowly sinking in and I keep crying!! Lol.

 

[puppymom32]

Enjoy meeting your little one today dream cherish this moment as there will be many more memories to come!!!

 

[aimze]

Really looking forward to your day update dream! X

 

[dreamofabean]

Hi all!!
Today was amazing! We were naughty and stayed for 4 hours instead of 2! Ha ha
When we arrived the foster dad had little man in his arms at the window and immediately I thought how small he looked!! He's smaller than he looks in pics!
We went inside and we sat on the floor by him and he rolled over to us and looked at us very intently like he recognised the faces! We played with his toys and he slowly came closer and closer and was very smiley! the sw left after about 45 mins and the fc said to pick him up
I sat him on my lap and he enjoyed pulling mommy's hair! He giggled his little head off and babbled lots!!
We blew bubbles with him, he played with the ball we had taken him and enjoyed munching on the strap of my handbag
We had lunch and he enjoyed his sandwiches and tried some of daddy's cucumber but didn't seem too impressed! Lol
He had a little nap and then daddy went to get him and got big smiles
We really didn't want to leave him but didn't want to wear him out too much!
All in all the day was fab! We are back at 7am tomorrow til 12.30 then leave and return at 3 until bedtime. We are going out with the fcs to get his car seat our pram is loaded in the boot and I'm super excited!! Xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Lovely Dream, it sounds like your first day with your son couldn't have gone better. What a beautiful bubba!! You'll be on your way now so have an amazing day, I bet you are greeted to big smiles this morning Enjoy shopping too. Ahh, bet it feels like Christmas has come early xxx