Adoption journey

[aimze]

Amazin update dream!! Can't wait till today's!!

No one here has gone through the new process yet have they? They do family finding 10weeks before panel but what if you fall in love? Can they link you that early? X

 

[dreamofabean]

It really does lolly
Aimze we weren't, however we were shown children before we were approved and told if we wanted them we could have approval and match panel on the same day, so I guess they can link that early!! Eek!!
I'm shattered so no long winded post today!
We got there at 7am and little man was babbling away in his cot! We got big smiles off him and took him downstairs for a play!
We took him out today with fcs and used his pram, he looks like a dot in it!!
He is coping amazingly! He fell asleep on me earlier which made me cry as he is obvs relaxed with us he is all smiles for daddy and daddy is really confident with him!
Tomorrow we are taking him out on our own yay!!
He is just wonderful and we are so so happy!! We bought some of his things home tonight! Eek! X

 

[puppymom32]

That is so awesome dream when will he be coming home with you?

 

[dreamofabean]

Hopefully Monday! I can't see it being out back unless he gets poorly, but he does have a cough at moment, so fingers crossed it doesn't worsen! X

 

[aimze]

Amazing update dream!!! Loving reading them!!! I can't wait to share mine!!!

Hmmm ill know more Thurs but found a lil person for us maybe!! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Beautiful update again Dream, his trust in you is already developing if he's allowed himself to fall asleep on you. What a little star he is. Have another wonderful day sweetie xxx

Oh wow Aimze, that's exciting. With the old system we were told that our profile would be able to be seen 6 weeks before approval panel. We also saw some profiles before approval to get a feel for the type of children awaiting adoption at that time. But our social worker said if we were interested she could always enquire. I know of a girl informally linked before approval. They had had a meeting and while nothing could be properly agreed at that stage, the child's social worker did agree not to see any other couples, and that she would wait for them. Once approved they had the formal linking meeting and he has now been home over a year. Good luck!

 

[aimze]

Eeeeck thanks lolly I'm all excited now...I'm another 10 weeks till panel so we shall see x

 

[Lolly1985]

Beautiful update again Dream, his trust in you is already developing if he's allowed himself to fall asleep on you. What a little star he is. Have another wonderful day sweetie xxx

Oh wow Aimze, that's exciting. With the old system we were told that our profile would be able to be seen 6 weeks before approval panel. We also saw some profiles before approval authored to get a feel for the type of children awaiting adoption at that time. But our social worker said if we were interested she could always enquire. I know of a girl informally linked before approval. They had had a meeting and while nothing could be properly agreed at that stage, the child's social worker did agree not to see any other couples, and that she would wait for them. Once approved they had the formal linking meeting and he has now been home over a year. Good luck!

 

[karenh]

Sorry I have been MIA, my uncle died and I have been out of town for his funeral. I am going to try and catch up, I am so sorry if I miss anyone.

Rainy: I am sorry that you have reached this predicament with little one and a sibling on the way. I know making the right decision can be so hard. I hope that your little one shows up soon.

Dream: Happy 30th birthday! What a magical day you had! My sister turned 21 on the 29th! How sweet of them to send you a text and pic of your little one! Your first day meeting you little boy sounds perfect! You have a great foster family! It sounds like he is really taken with you! How wonderful!

Lolly: Sounds like you had a good time at the party. How fun it must have been to see how far you have all come!

Loski: I am so glad that the guy who hit your husband is caught! Hopefully now you can get some compensation.

Aimze: That is so exciting that you might have found your little one! I hope it works out. I know 10 weeks seems so far away, but hopefully you can fill the time and it will go quickly.

AFM: No news. I am so excited for all you guys to be finding your children, but also, I am sad because there is no prospect in sight for us. I am trying to keep up hope. I know someday it will happen.

 

[aimze]

Thanks Karen, I hope you and family are coping as well as can be with your recent loss xx

 

[Lolly1985]

Thank you Karen. Have been thinking of you and hoping all was as well as it could be. I understand not knowing when is hard. You have moved from thinking if this happens to when this happens. I suppose you must cling to the fact it is now going to happen, but limbo land must be incredibly hard. I so hope you get your amazing news soon xxx

 

[karenh]

Thanks guys. We are hanging in there. It is really hard that limbo land will probably be close to 2 years, and I just really have NO patience.

 

[puppymom32]

I know its hard Karen but just keep hope and keep telling friends and family that you are looking there is always a chance that someone will know someone that is already pregnant and considering adoption. It can change so fast. Sorry for your loss.

 

[karenh]

I am trying to tell everyone I know. Everyone seems to know a 16 year old who is keeping her baby, but no one that is thinking of placing. I am going to keep praying and talking to people and trying to stay hopeful and positive. Thank you guys for your support.

 

[aimze]

Aww Karen I really hope it happens soon...do they have an average time it takes?

Dream I can't wait for an update on today!

So I can't stop thinking about the prospect of this lil one, I dream about him an read his profile 10+ times a day!! I really hope SW brings us news that their SW thinks we could be ideal! Eeeeeeck!!

Has everyone finished their Xmas shoppin? My heart feels like I can't celebrate this year because my lil person is spending Xmas without us x

 

[karenh]

aimze: Our caseworker said the average is 2 years but it could be 2 weeks or 4-5 years. 2 weeks is passed now praying we don't have to wait 4-5 years. Really praying we don't have to wait one year. I really hope this little one works out for you! How exciting! I have not finished my Christmas shopping yet. It is hard trying to prepare.

dream: I really can't wait to hear your update either! I am checking every half hour!

 

[aimze]

Hmmmm Karen I really hope it isn't 2 years!! I guess for you someone could contact you tomorrow!

We've done about 90% of shopping!!! Few more bits to top up x

 

[karenh]

I would LOVE if someone contacted us tomorrow! Not holding my breath though.

I have parent's and inlaws to go and that is pretty much it. All nieces and newphiews and brothers and sisters done.

 

[LolaM]

shopping? what is this shopping you speak of? I have done nothing--not bought a single gift! I am giong ou weekend, hope to get verything i nnnneeeed

 

[Lolly1985]

Haha Lola! Online shopping is the way forward!! Although when the postman rings the doorbell and wakes the baby up I could easily change my mind!

Dream, hope yesterday was another amazing day and little man enjoyed his trip out with mummy and daddy. You must be getting tired now hun. Hope you slept well and have lots of smiles and cuddles waiting for you this morning!