Adoption journey

[aimze]

Rainy I wonder if this will be in your LA?

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/educati...tion-register-opened-to-would-be-parents.html

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[dreamofabean]

Ooh that's very interesting Aimze! X

 

[Lolly1985]

Thanks for sharing that link Aimze. And hooray for lots of toys! Makes it more real and exciting! You'll be out of storage space before you know it!!

Dream your little man is just excelling now! I'm so proud for you, Heehee!

Well little pink has had a busy day. We've been out with our friends for the day. One adopted her little boy 3 months before we bought little pink home. He is 3 months older but so tall and she is such a dink! They like to hold hands but she just falls down as he takes about 3 steps to her 1!! Our other friend has been matched to two beautiful girls and is waiting on matching panel. Sadly it looks like they may be facing a delay, something not uncommon in adoption land and it just upsets me so much. Anyway, little pink slept on the way home at 4 so not overly optimistic about bedtime!! Also we now have the tips of 4 back teeth through, hooray!

Love to all xxx

 

[Rainy123]

That is very interesting aimze, I will mention it next time i speak to SW
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[aimze]

Looks like they're trying to make it quicker but then things don't seem that way...

Lolly I hope your freinds panel hurrys up, it must just be so awful..

I'm completely hoping that we have a smooth ride between now and panel an intros...makes me so anxious thinking about it all!

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[Lolly1985]

I'm sure you will, one of my friends little one's is slightly older so they have to be careful that the transition is done correctly. Also it's a long distance placement so adds an extra difficulty with such a big move. I'm sure all will be ok but it is hard when you are just wishing time away. We had a straightforward time with a straightforward baby and were very lucky. I'm sure you will be too xxx

 

[aimze]

Yep lolly I guess with age comes delays if at school/nursery etc...

I think we're honestly ready, if someone said "I've a <12 month can you have him in 10 minutes?" The house is ready! Minus nappies ;-) ill buy them next week when I know what size he is!!

Rainy no news on the two babies?

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[Rainy123]

No news at all from me. Haven't heard from SW and she said she would let me know when the meeting took place either way. So just more waiting for now. It has been a hectic few days at work though so a good distraction!

 

[aimze]

Oh rainy!! your social worker sounds hard work! X

 

[dreamofabean]

Hope you hear soon rainy!!
Hope everyone is well someone seems to have the stolen the sun here today, it's all misty and miserable this morning!!
Things our end are good, we have baby sensory at lunchtime and then little mans sw is visiting at 4.30... Right at dinner time for him, oh well! Lol
I've just been downloading the cutest songs for littlie! A while ago I found a version of twinkle twinkle that I loved by the Gigglebellies on YouTube, it's super cute! I popped them into iTunes today and found loads more so I've downloaded their version of ' you are my sunshine' as I sing that all the time there's also a cute goodnight song! Dh will laugh at me but they make me well up, so lovely!

 

[Lolly1985]

Aww Dream we sing that at the beginning of sensory group 'as the sun rises' (a large yellow piece of fabric with gold sequins!) Yesterday little pink sat right in the middle while all the mummies rippled it and she giggled with total delight! Would have been a lovely photo! Hope you have a lovely session and great visit

Directions hearing day, oh my god!! We aren't expecting to hear anything today though as it'll all need processing by the clerks. Hope it won't be too long until we have some dates though. Off to the park and to feed the ducks this morning. Sorry Dream but we have sun!! Heehee xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Eek to directions hearing!! Really hope you get your date soon Hun and then it'll all be official whoop!
So it was you who stole the sun?! Lol, glad someone had sun!
Dh is off work so I've taken full advantage and left him holding baby as I tidy the spare room frantically! It looked like a baby bomb exploded! Lol. How can one baby take over every room in a house?!

 

[Lolly1985]

I've learnt that the smallest of people make the biggest mess!! Glad you have the chance to get straight, daddy time is good for these babies (and for our sanity too!)

Had a call from our agency. Our social worker is still off sick So her colleague is visiting again next week. I think we'll have to tell her about the pregnancy which is a shame as we have the relationship with our SW but can't wait until she's back now really. She did say if we haven't heard from little pink's social worker or the courts by then she'll ring on our behalf within the session which is good. Little pink screamed the entire phonecall!! Not upset screaming but a 'I know you're on the phone and won't want me to do this' scream! She had a massive grin on her face the entire time, so embarrassing!! xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

little monkey! How funny! Our boy does that too! It's an ' I will get your attention if it kills me!' Scream lol

 

[Lolly1985]

She's done it all the way through a Skype with my parents too, Ahhhh!! *slaps forehead!* Hope your visit goes well Dream xxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Visit went ok thanks lolly..,,, but threw up a few issues that have left me puzzled and cross!
Just in conversation his sw mentioned that bps had been in touch, saying they are no longer moving properties as they have sorted out the bedroom tax. Neither work, so how? Is she pregnant again?! Bm then said that she wanted back any baby clothes that we had that no longer fit our boy that she'd bought him!! Wtf?! I'm livid! We were only given about 3 items from the fc that bps had bought him that we have stored away for when he's older, and now they want them?! I think the sw saw how cross I was and said that she'd be telling them no, they are His for when he is older. I just think how dare they? Our boy has so little things from when he was small already!
Apparently after this they then asked as a side thought how his birthday went.
Up until this point I've been really sympathetic to their needs ( probably too much so) but this has really angered me!
Is she pg again?! I really do wonder!!

 

[aimze]

Dream that is awful, she has actually asked for them back?! That is beyond a joke, I feel angered for you! As you say, the are baby boys to see when he's older!!

It does make you wonder about her being pregnant!

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks Aimze,
I'm livid! Lol. I spoke to my mom who didn't help as she played devils advocate n suggested maybe it's because they miss him and want something of his.... Yeah thanks mom! Lol
I just think it's a huge cheek, they are for baby boy, not them. I just think it's selfish!

 

[LolaM]

Hope you hear soon rainy!!
Hope everyone is well someone seems to have the stolen the sun here today, it's all misty and miserable this morning!!
Things our end are good, we have baby sensory at lunchtime and then little mans sw is visiting at 4.30... Right at dinner time for him, oh well! Lol
I've just been downloading the cutest songs for littlie! A while ago I found a version of twinkle twinkle that I loved by the Gigglebellies on YouTube, it's super cute! I popped them into iTunes today and found loads more so I've downloaded their version of ' you are my sunshine' as I sing that all the time there's also a cute goodnight song! Dh will laugh at me but they make me well up, so lovely!

you are my sunshine is baby boys fav song too and it does make me weep a bit, but then, so do a lot of things, im a sap!
that is totally lame to ask for the stuff back, but in the OPPOSITE direction, our baby boys BM send him back from a visit in size 6 shoes and another, yes ANOOOTHER 2t outfit. Why does she not know what size he wears????

 

[Lolly1985]

It's horrible that birth parents still have a certain claim to our babies. They don't but it feels like they do. And while they'll always be important in our little ones story we are mummy and daddy now. Small things suddenly became big things because it's a reminder we didn't give birth to our children, and honestly, you really do forget. It's extremely cheeky and almost like a power trip to exert a claim over our little ones. We got a present from little pink's birth mum for Christmas, when she was 13 months. It was age 24 month pyjamas. Sigh.