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my mum was strict when I was younger (not exactly old now) but it didn't stop me going out drinking/smoking/having sex at 13/14shock: ergh, I sound great!) but some of my friends had the most lax parents and they never did anything I did, a parent can only do so much
I do agree that these people should be at home though!
You remind me of me, but i was 15 not 13/14 when i had sex lol! but i was drinking, smoking and doing drugs since around 14 which is bad and i do regret it and would never go back there. My parents were just normal, relaxed when I was and strict when I got out of hand. IMO with my parents they route I went down wasnt there faults at all, but my own. I fell into the wrong group of friends but soon after finishing school with crap results (was predicted A* in everything in year 7, by the time it was year 10 I was predicted C/D) I realised i fucked up and I changed so much. I managed to get a job and get a place in college and from then on everything was great, settled down with OH and now I have a gorgeous baby girl. Not planned but wouldnt change that! In a way I am glad I went through a bad patch whilst I was younger because I was still young and my parents had more control than they would if i was 18/19 at the time, i also had teachers around me trying to help me aswell. One of which did and I am so thankful she walked into my life!
What Im trying to say is you can only influence someones actions as much as they will let you. Each person is free to choose whichever life they decide to, as parents we can only try to sway them the right way. (unless you lock them in the cupboard under the stairs like harry potter(joke))
I was 14 lol & that was my point you can't physically control children 24 hours a day, some parents might no even know, they could say their in such and such place (not condoning it at all btw)
They've planned more here tonight
