Almost 11mnth Old - Not Sleeping - Please help

[rubywoo77]

Hi,

Another sleep query/problem. I am hoping you wonderful ladies will be able to shed some light for me.

My daughter is almost 11 months old. From about 5 months old she started to sleep through the night regularly (give a night here or there) and about 6/7 months she would go to bed from 7pm to 6/7am no probs.

Her routine has always been the same, last small meal at 5pm, bath at 6pm, then quiet time, lullabies and stories, then a bottle feed and I would put her in her cot awake and she would drift off to sleep with the lullaby thingie playing.

For the last 2 months, she wont sleep at nights, if she is put down in her cot as soon as she sees me walking away the crying starts, she will fall asleep if held or rocked. Once she is asleep she will wake up after a few hours and not settle or wake up really crying hard. This normally happens at 11pm/midnight and we end up bringing her into our bed at which point she falls asleep straight away and will stay that way til morning.

I am really at a loss as to what to try, is it something I am doing wrong?, she has cut a tooth 2 months ago and I can see another one coming through, but if it is teething why does she fall asleep if rocked or fall asleep as soon as she is in our bed?

any suggestions, tips, gratefully received.

x

 

[moomin_troll]

zane has always been a terrible sleeper, i started co sleeping with him at a early age just so i could sleep, then from 6 months he went into his own cot.

zane from about 6-7 months has had his last bottle in bed as he was able to hold it, and id check on him to make sure he was ok with it and that would help him go to sleep better then when hes wake at night hed have another bottle or a dummy.

from 12 months he wouldnt take a dummy so hed have another bottle of milk or water.

i tried just putting zane back to bed when he would wake up with nothing but that never worked with him, i also tried crying it out but he wouldnt give up.

sorry i cant give u anymore "advice" then that, good luck i no how awful it is x

 

[polaris]

Sounds like maybe a bit of separation anxiety since she settles when she's with you. I've no advice because we haven't hit that stage yet!

ETA - have you tried sitting in the room with her while she falls asleep but without picking her up or rocking her? If it is separation anxiety then that might reassure her a bit. But it would be important to phase it out once she got used to falling asleep without being held as you don't want to be stuck sitting in the room with her on a long term basis.

 

[rubywoo77]

Sounds like maybe a bit of separation anxiety since she settles when she's with you. I've no advice because we haven't hit that stage yet!

ETA - have you tried sitting in the room with her while she falls asleep but without picking her up or rocking her? If it is separation anxiety then that might reassure her a bit. But it would be important to phase it out once she got used to falling asleep without being held as you don't want to be stuck sitting in the room with her on a long term basis.

Hi,

thanks for replying, I thought it might be seperation anxiety so I have tried sitting in her room , not picking her up but patting her when she is in her cot but all she does is sit up and want to play then. I tried that for a few weeks.

I should also mention that at the moment I am giving her a bath then feeding her in her room which is cool and darkened, and she tends to fall asleep during the feed in my lap - I then place her in the cot but she wakes up a few hours later or if I am really unlucky within minutes of me leaving her room.

I can't sleep if she is in the bed with us, because me and hubby have her inbetween us and she gets the biggest portion of the bed with me and him teetering on the edges, also I can't relax if she is in bed with us because I am always concerned that we might crush her etc etc

 

[polaris]

If she is falling asleep feeding then that might be the problem. When she wakes up, she is no longer where she was when she fell asleep, so she cries and won't go back to sleep. It would probably help if she was going into the cot awake and falling asleep by herself.

I used sleepsense with my LO, it is a method of teaching babies to self-settle, there is a support thread over in Groups section if you are interested in learning more.

https://www.babyandbump.com/bnb-groups/290931-sleep-sense-support-group.html

 

[jade02]

my daughter is exactly the same she slept through from 3 months and eventually she would go to bed awake and fall asleep by herself but just recenty she will not go bed on her own she screams and screams and screams and panics when we leave the room i have just noticed she is cutting her back teeth but i think the problem with my daughter is the as soon as the sun shines through her window at 6 in the morn she is awake and also that it doesnt go dark till about 9 so she still thinks its play time when its bed time maybe this could be the case im going to invest in blackout curtains really hope this helps and may help you too

 

[Sherileigh]

My son was like that before, they just get used to you putting them to sleep and when they wake to find themselve alone in their crib they freak and feel they need you to help them get back to sleep. We did CIO, but there are other ways to help your baby learn to self settle. Basically she needs to fall asleep by herself, so when she wakes up, she knows she can get herself back to sleep. It's worked amazingly for us!
Good luck!