KatBar
~Lucky mumma of 2 boys + girl on the way~
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As the title suggests our eldest son, whose is turning 4 next month, still poops his pants.
He was a late bloomer with potty training in general and didn't start using the toilet for wee's until he was just over 3 years old (so he has been using the toilet for weeing, and wearing undies, for just over 10 months now). He needed a LOT of encouragement to get that started, but overall it wasn't too bad.
Poops on the other hand..... disastrous!
We have tried EVERYTHING!!!!!! Rewards (even ridiculously huge/generous ones) don't work. Positive encouragement doesn't work. Threats and punishment most certainly don't work, and in fact make it almost worse.
We've even tried the peer-pressure route with telling him (truthfully) that all his friends poop on the toilet and not in their pants, but he simply doesn't seem to care.
Now the kicker in this, is that he DOES actually poop on the toilet, but he will always soil his undies first (& never tell us or ask us to go to the toilet).
Basically everyday, we will smell poop, check his undies and sure enough he will have a poop stain (or very small poop), we will then make him go to the toilet to do a proper poop - which generally speaking he does with minimal to no fuss. This happens every single day, and we have endless piles of soiled undewear to clean.
His poops are not hard in the slightlest - in fact, (TMI) he leans more to the softer side of things. So it's definitely not a constipation problem.
Anyway, I'm very interested to hear from other parents that have had similar issues... Most my friends with kids same age (or in some cases, younger) have found the toilet training much more straight forward.
He was a late bloomer with potty training in general and didn't start using the toilet for wee's until he was just over 3 years old (so he has been using the toilet for weeing, and wearing undies, for just over 10 months now). He needed a LOT of encouragement to get that started, but overall it wasn't too bad.
Poops on the other hand..... disastrous!
We have tried EVERYTHING!!!!!! Rewards (even ridiculously huge/generous ones) don't work. Positive encouragement doesn't work. Threats and punishment most certainly don't work, and in fact make it almost worse.
We've even tried the peer-pressure route with telling him (truthfully) that all his friends poop on the toilet and not in their pants, but he simply doesn't seem to care.
Now the kicker in this, is that he DOES actually poop on the toilet, but he will always soil his undies first (& never tell us or ask us to go to the toilet).
Basically everyday, we will smell poop, check his undies and sure enough he will have a poop stain (or very small poop), we will then make him go to the toilet to do a proper poop - which generally speaking he does with minimal to no fuss. This happens every single day, and we have endless piles of soiled undewear to clean.
His poops are not hard in the slightlest - in fact, (TMI) he leans more to the softer side of things. So it's definitely not a constipation problem.
Anyway, I'm very interested to hear from other parents that have had similar issues... Most my friends with kids same age (or in some cases, younger) have found the toilet training much more straight forward.