Almost 44 final ttc journey -- buddies needed : )

[AngelUK]

Good luck

 

[CaliDreaming]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Mitchnorm. But it sounds like you have exciting things in store for the future now that you're moving on.

Sophie, I am so very excited for you now that you'll probably be going the donor egg route. Technology is just so amazing and I'm so happy you have this option available to you.

 

[mitchnorm]

Thanks all....we are very very lucky to have our one little girl...I realise that now

Sophie...really hope the donor egg route works for you x x x


And good luck everyone else x

 

[TTC74]

I'm so sorry for your loss mitchnorm.

Good luck with your appointment, Sophie!

 

[Jenny Bean]

Good luck with your decision Sophie and with the house stuff Cali.

Here after another miscarriage at 9 weeks at christmas...we have decided to stop ttc. 5 miscarriages with no explanation (likely poor egg quality) and I have had enough. We have our gorgeous daughter who is 5 this month and the age gap doesnto appeal to me. Plus I am 44 in May....investing my time and energy in her.....getting some 'life back ' and retraining in my career instead. Big changes here xxxx

I know what you mean, after suffering a MC last May and my husband deciding now that we are not in a good place to try for another baby, I too am trying to be grateful for my little miracle as well and try to get back into my life as you so well put it. I am curious what you are retraining for?

 

[mitchnorm]

Jenny bean. I currently have quite a high powered and high paid job ...full time...though I'm lucky my employers let's me condense hours so I get Fridays at home. Since daughter started school last September I have found myself wanting to be around more for her...especially as she's going to be our only one. So I continue with my job and am starting a reflexology course in June...currently studying the anatomy and physiology module.... with the plan to practice it and do it as a career but if it doesn't work out then I belive it's a good life skills to have

I am looking for more part time marketing roles to supplement the reflexology aspect until I can do full-time but that's proving challenging ha ha

 

[mimi4]

mitchnorm- great idea, keep my fingers crossed

 

[CaliDreaming]

That is a really exciting career change Mitchnorm! I know you can make this work. What a pleasant departure from the corporate rat race!

I can also identify with wanting to spend more time with your kids as they get older. I really underestimated how much work kids are as they get older. I assumed once my eldest child got to school that things would get a lot easier. But it seems that while the physical care taking tasks have gone way down, she takes up ever-increasing demands on our time and mental energy. It will be great if you can work out your career so you can devote more time to your daughter!

 

[Sophie2015]

After our required counseling session Friday we have decided not to pursue IVF using donor eggs.
After our failed IVF/embryo losses in December I really thought I was finally at a place where I was okay. But this decision to quit TTC has rekindled my grief. I feel overwhelmed with it. I have no one to tell. No real friends left after years of losses and my husband is struggling to the point I cannot confide or take comfort in him. Needed to share this somewhere so I chose here.

 

[AngelUK]

I am so sorry for your grief. If you can get to a good place again in your life moving away from ttc, then this is the right path for you. I am sorry you had to suffer so to come this decision. Many many

 

[heatherjckm]

Hey there ladies, I am brand new to this site, so please forgive any newbie mistakes... saw this thread and wanted to join!

DH and I are TTC #2. My son is 15 months and we have ben trying for 12 to have a second. I am 41 years young, DH is 37.

I got married at 39, my son came a month later. I was told it was near impossible to get pregnant without ART ( based on AMH and FSH) yet there was my little man, a total miracle.

Are there any success stories you all could share with me or send me links to? It's been a hard couple of weeks.

TIA

 

[TTC74]

Hey there ladies, I am brand new to this site, so please forgive any newbie mistakes... saw this thread and wanted to join!

DH and I are TTC #2. My son is 15 months and we have ben trying for 12 to have a second. I am 41 years young, DH is 37.

I got married at 39, my son came a month later. I was told it was near impossible to get pregnant without ART ( based on AMH and FSH) yet there was my little man, a total miracle.

Are there any success stories you all could share with me or send me links to? It's been a hard couple of weeks.

TIA

I just had my baby at 42 on Valentine's Day. I TTC for 2.5 years with an almost nonexistent ANH of .023. I tried a medicated IUI cycle with no success. Ultimately, with the aid of lots of supplements, I fell pregnant naturally! Feel free to PM me or to hop over to my parenting journal (link in signature) if you'd like to chat!

 

[heatherjckm]

Thank you so much! I will check out your link!

 

[Driving280]

I am a few months from 44 but just got a bfp naturally. Would be my third if all goes well...

 

[CaliDreaming]

heatherjckm--so sorry you find yourself here on this thread. But the good news for you is that you were able to get pregnant instantly just a little over two years ago, so it's safe to say that your fertility potential probably hasn't changed all that much since that time. The big drop off in fertility for women happens at around 35 and after that there are only gradual declines. Are you and dh taking supplements?

Also, since you started trying very shortly after giving birth, it could be that your body just needs a few extra months to get back in the swing of things.

Driving280--Congratulations!! Hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months! Had you been trying long? I will probably be in your age range if we decide to try for a third.

 

[TTC74]

Driving- that's super encouraging! DH and I have decided to NTNP from here on out. We don't expect another blessing but have decided that we would be fools to question god's will at this point!

 

[CaliDreaming]

After our required counseling session Friday we have decided not to pursue IVF using donor eggs.
After our failed IVF/embryo losses in December I really thought I was finally at a place where I was okay. But this decision to quit TTC has rekindled my grief. I feel overwhelmed with it. I have no one to tell. No real friends left after years of losses and my husband is struggling to the point I cannot confide or take comfort in him. Needed to share this somewhere so I chose here.

OMG Sophie I'm so sorry I missed your last post! I can't imagine what you are going through right now.

 

[Sophie2015]

After our required counseling session Friday we have decided not to pursue IVF using donor eggs.
After our failed IVF/embryo losses in December I really thought I was finally at a place where I was okay. But this decision to quit TTC has rekindled my grief. I feel overwhelmed with it. I have no one to tell. No real friends left after years of losses and my husband is struggling to the point I cannot confide or take comfort in him. Needed to share this somewhere so I chose here.

OMG Sophie I'm so sorry I missed your last post! I can't imagine what you are going through right now.

Hi Cali. I'm still pretty sad. It's odd because before we decided to pursue DE IVF I thought I was ok. I guess maybe my subconscious still had the idea that I might still have a child. To add to that, we had decided to adopt a puppy. We lost my cat of 11.5 years to cancer we didn't know she had. Her loss was sandwiched between mc #4 & #5. Anyway, we decided to adopt a puppy. Saw her numerous times from 4-6 weeks. Bought all the stuff and it's all set up in our house. But at the last minute we decided not to get her. We've never had a dog let alone a puppy and we got cold feet. But now I'm missing her and grieving that loss too.
I have nothing to mother. I don't think I'll ever have anything to mother. And most days are so mundane that the future seems pretty bleak.
I so appreciate all you ladies caring about a total stranger and her baby woes.

 

[AngelUK]

Your baby woes resonate deeply with the ladies on here cause we have felt it too and can imagine and empathise how deep your grief must be at having to let go of the hope of being a mother. I am sending you so so many and I hope light and brightness will reenter your life in the very near future!

 

[CaliDreaming]

Oh dear you have been through so much loss in the past few months it's a wonder how you're functioning at all. Yes I can imagine how after you decided not to pursue DE IVF how that would make it all seem so real and so final. The loss of your dear cat and the puppy you were going to adopt are hard enough by themselves but on top of the miscarriages and infertility--I just can't imagine.

I think of you often and how unfair life is. The pain is going to be with you for the rest of your life but I hope in time you find a way to deal with it and manage to be happy in spite of it. That will take quite a bit of time and it will be hard...but I know you are strong and will get through it in the end.

Are you in therapy at all?