already dreading going back to work ...anyone else?

[nicksi27]

Hi ladies, im due to go back to work the first week of december and am already dreading it. I enjoy my job but after being off since the beginning of april ive got used to it. Charlie is 21 weeks now and everyday i love being a mummy even more. I cant imagine leaving him He will be with my mum or OH each day so i know he will be well looked after but its eating me up. Ill be away from him 8:30-4:30 each mon - fri but if i can afford it, i might try and go down to four days. Me and OH both work and dont qualify for any benefits even though we dont earn lots so theres no way i could only do part time. Im worried he will wonder where i am (although realistically he probably wont).

Anyone else felt the same?x

 

[schnoogles]

I dreaded going back, I had panic attacks and broke down on numerous occasions. But now I'm back, like you Monday to Friday, it's amazing how quickly you get used to it. Don't get me wrong, I miss my little guy, but he's happy and that helps. Enjoy your last month, don't waste it cry and and fretting like I did xx

 

[nicksi27]

I dreaded going back, I had panic attacks and broke down on numerous occasions. But now I'm back, like you Monday to Friday, it's amazing how quickly you get used to it. Don't get me wrong, I miss my little guy, but he's happy and that helps. Enjoy your last month, don't waste it cry and and fretting like I did xx

thank you i know ill get used to it, im just such a worrier. People seem shocked when i say im going back full time and then i feel sorta guilty that i cant afford to go back part time like most of my friends have ....stupid i know. xx

 

[BellaBoo0512]

I was dreading going back too but I was off sick for 4 months prior to maternity leave so I've been off for 12 months all together and a lot has happened in the last 12 months. In the end I made the decision to resign and I'm going back to college in January. I will miss my old job but I've also moved whilst being on maternity leave and it would take me almost 3 hours to get there and 3 hours to get back. 6 hours travelling a day with a baby just isn't practical.

 

[AnneD]

I have to go back in a few weeks and I'm dreading it. My baby will have to go to daycare five days a week, full time. I hate having to go back but I don't have a choice. It's not fair. A year isn't long enough.

 

[shanny]

its rough just when the hard bits are over and you can reaaly enjoy time with them you have to go back

 

[mrs c f]

I go back first week in dec too. I feel sick about it sometimes!! I'm in discussions with my boss to return 4 days a week as I work 9-5.30 which I've had to fight for but is looking likely. Only issue is my husband was moved from his position gotten months to a higher paid roll and told the job would be his and just last week they have moved him back to his old department. He is a team leader but paid less in his old department which now means I may have to go back full time! I'm so gutted. I can't imagine only seeing Aoife for an hour or so four nights a week.

 

[detterose]

I went back to work once Hunter turned 5 months old. I only work Wednesdays and Fridays currently and he goes to daycare those days. He loves it and personally, I am glad I started him in daycare young before he started to realise mummy goes away. So far we don't have any tears at drop off and he loves being there and being around all the other babies. I miss him loads but I also enjoy having some adult interaction as well. Soon I will be going up to 3 days a week, as we just couldn't afford me only working 2 days, I'm a bit sad about that, as I was enjoying just 2 days a week but in the end it is for the best for our family.

Once you are back, you will feel better and at least you know LO is in good hands x

 

[petite ping]

Don't fret too much. It's the first day that is the hardest but once you get there it will not be as bad as you think.
Hard as it is to say, it is better to go when they are not too old as they don't really miss you that much and are happy to potter about. On the other hand, the happy face they make when you come home will brighten your day no end. A few more months down the line and your LO may not adjust as well.

 

[Lavendel]

me too..
even though i quit my job shortly before getting pregnant and going with one salary only is tight. over here is normal for a mother to go back to work after 4 weeks after delivery. i could have never done that. my LO is 6 months now and not planning to even start looking before january 2014. people looks weird at me cos i dont work but my LO goes first.
besides, i am a nursery school teacher and it really hurts me too much to look after other babies and leaving my own to someone else (and i dont get benefits for childcare, so i would literally have to give my entire paycheck to the other lady who looks after my LO..)
half the world seems to go back to work...guilt and panic will stop at some point i guess..

 

[jogami]

It is a very cruel and unnecessary emotion we put ourselves through with the worry of leaving them. When DS started daycare I felt rotten, guilty and I just hated being away from him. I cried for weeks on end. But every day I'd fetch him he'd be fine and happy and he'd give me the best smile. We feel guilty and we miss them but it does get easier and soon the routine will do you and LO good. The guilt we feel is also strange as we are working for our families! Putting things into perspective and reflecting on whats best for your situation helps a lot! Also, its nerves of going back that makes it extra difficult. So much changes in a year or few months even! Once you get back into the swing of things it will be like normal - just with a baby thrown into the mix! I wish I could be at home with my babies, but it would mean financial suicide for us. It does get easier with the next baby. I cried first day with my girls but it was much easier the second time around. We adjust, and so do they.

 

[ThunderPearls]

I am due to go back in january and am dreading it! Though I have enquired about a degree course which I should start part time this month so may have to put LO in the creche while im there and im so nervous :'( hes so small but im better off studying now than trying to find a job in january due to the income drop if I end up on JSA its so heartwrenching the thought of leaving him!

 

[Katerz]

I go back on Tuesday two months earlier than I anticipated as we are really struggling on smp and hubby's wages, also not entitled to benefits. I'm not looking forward to it one bit, my saving grace is that i will do Monday - Wednesday 8:30 -5 so I still get 4days with LO.

I AM looking forward to seeing all my work friends in my team though as they are a lovely bunch.