yourstruly10
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Hello ladies.
OH and I are currently expecting our first baby together. I have two little girls age 3 and 2 from my previous marriage but he has taken them on as his own and calls them his daughters.
OH has 3 sisters and 1 brother. 2 of his sisters, his bother and his parents call the girls their nieces/grandchildren.
But a few days ago I found out his one sister who has 3 children of her own is raising her kids to believe that only people related by blood or marriage are family and that the girls and I are not family yet because we don't have a piece of signed paper. She also stated that she expected this new baby to get to be auntie and to be her niece or nephew.
Now OH and I had a long discussion in regards to this and do not think it is fair for her to pick and choose between our children which ones she wants to be aunty to and which ones she doesn't so we have told her if she wants to be aunty to one she is aunty to all. That my daughters are no less family then this new baby.
She is also hosting their family's Christmas this year and has stated its a family event making me feel a little unwelcome so the girls and I will not be going. My OH does not want to go but I have asked him to go as it is still his family and they love him and it wouldn't be fair to punish his whole family because of his one sister.
Now I fully respect her values and the way she wishes to raise her kids but I also need her to respect my feelings and understand I will not let her do anything to make my girls feel different or unwelcome.
We wrote this to her in a letter as she did not feel like talking and has yet to respond which is fine.
Now I guess I need to know if you guys think I am in the wrong or do I have the right to what we have asked of her? OH and I feel good about it and the rest of his family agrees yet I still feel somehow like I'm doing something wrong.
OH and I are currently expecting our first baby together. I have two little girls age 3 and 2 from my previous marriage but he has taken them on as his own and calls them his daughters.
OH has 3 sisters and 1 brother. 2 of his sisters, his bother and his parents call the girls their nieces/grandchildren.
But a few days ago I found out his one sister who has 3 children of her own is raising her kids to believe that only people related by blood or marriage are family and that the girls and I are not family yet because we don't have a piece of signed paper. She also stated that she expected this new baby to get to be auntie and to be her niece or nephew.
Now OH and I had a long discussion in regards to this and do not think it is fair for her to pick and choose between our children which ones she wants to be aunty to and which ones she doesn't so we have told her if she wants to be aunty to one she is aunty to all. That my daughters are no less family then this new baby.
She is also hosting their family's Christmas this year and has stated its a family event making me feel a little unwelcome so the girls and I will not be going. My OH does not want to go but I have asked him to go as it is still his family and they love him and it wouldn't be fair to punish his whole family because of his one sister.
Now I fully respect her values and the way she wishes to raise her kids but I also need her to respect my feelings and understand I will not let her do anything to make my girls feel different or unwelcome.
We wrote this to her in a letter as she did not feel like talking and has yet to respond which is fine.
Now I guess I need to know if you guys think I am in the wrong or do I have the right to what we have asked of her? OH and I feel good about it and the rest of his family agrees yet I still feel somehow like I'm doing something wrong.