Am I the only person never to have had a BFP??

[Conina]

Hello you lovely ladies

I hope you're all well.

Thanks for the messages, there's quite a few of us who are still waiting for our first BFP.

Unfortunately, I'm not sure if I'm ever going to see one. We had our approintment this morning and the results were not good.

We'd both been apprehensive before the appointment, as the Dr called us three days after my husband had deposited his SA sample. Once we had sat down he said he wanted to tell us in person and there was no way to sugar-coat it. Basically, there were no sperm in my husband's sample. Not a single one. We sat there complete shock. I think we'd got it into our heads that maybe my bloods were off or he'd have a low sperm count, but we didn't see that one coming.

He's going to refer us to a FS for the Azoospermia, but also mentioned adoption or a sperm donor as options, so he's not filling me with a lot of confidence that this is something we can overcome.

My day has been a mixed bag of crying and googling (and munching on chocolate). It's now a case of waiting and eventually more tests.

Bless my DH, all he keeps saying is "it's not fair to you, you should find someone who can give you children" which makes me love him even more than I thought I possibly could.

In the meantime, I send you all BIG and tonnes of and will keep everything crossed that you will all get you BFPs very, VERY soon.

Tootles,

Charlotte xx

Oh I'm so sorry Charlotte But as the other girls have said, maybe sperm donation would be an option? Your DH sounds so lovely - he'll make a great dad even if he's not the "father"

 

[Macwooly]

Charlotte so sorry

 

[SabrinaKat]

TigerLily,

It can be really frustrating (and your DH sounds lovely!), but at least now, you have the facts and can make some decisions, rather than put both of you through the worry and frustration every month.

Hopefully, perhaps your DH has a friend or family member he can talk to? When I had an m/c a few years ago (and we're ttc for the last year or so), it helped that my DH had a friend whose own wife had had an m/c....

Best wishes for you both.

 

[Elodie]

So sorry Charlotte, that must have been really awful for both of you to hear.
Maybe just take a little bit of time to 'grieve' together (for want of a better word) and then think about the options and what you both want.
He sounds lovely and you both have eachother to get you through this challenging time.
Hugs
Elodie
x

 

[velo]

I've never had a BFP (nor has my DH ever gotten anyone pg) and we've been trying for almost a year. Our SA results came back good so still waiting on tests for me. (this week I see the specialist, yay)

It must be quite a shock to find out you have azoospermia. Hopefully there are still options for you. Ideally of course would be for them to find the cause and fix it. I've also read though that if there are no sperm in semen, it is still possible to extract directly from a testicle for IVF with ICSI. Hopefully your DH has the type of azoospermia where there are still sperm in the testicles, rather than a genetic absence of sperm.

 

[mandy1971]

Tigerlilly so sorry ti hear your news..
I've read that vitamin c supplements can increase sperm w
Quantity dramatically.. Why don't you search on bnb for posts and google it..
Love to you and your oh xxx