laura109
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Hello i am really annoyed and awake at midnight feeling to wiund up to sleep. I have spent the last 10 days praising my toddler for using the potty. In 10 days shes really learnt to get to it for wees and now has mastered number 2s in the last 4 days. Literally so proud of her and i dont even have to remind her. Shes had accidents only if i try her in pants or clothes. So i will continue to let her have her bottoms off with the nice weather at home and let her keep it up until shes ready to learn to pull her underwear down.
Making sure we keep it up i took her potty to my mums to visit for the day. Same thing trousers off and just a top on. My mum praised her when she used it. A couple of days later today i went back to visit while dad was there and again took the potty and took her jeans and nappy off when we got there. I could see my dad was not comfortable with her being naked. I told him she always uses the potty she wont do anything unless she cant see where it is. But then i heard him raise his voice at her when i was in the kitchen. He told her to leave the cushions alone. I shouted her to come to mummy and my mum asked him what she did and he said shes sitting allover the cushions and people need to use them. Basically saying her bum was not allowed naked on the cushions. Her lip was shivering and she looked really sad as her little face came into the kitchen. I was so angry at him for upsetting her and i was shocked that he didn't understand that she needs to be able to not have nappies on until i can help her understand to tell me first and so she can master the skill of not weeing because theres something on her bottom. Its a gradual learning curve.
I told my sister expecting her to agree upsetting her and making me put a nappy back on was not the best reaction but she said she saw his point of view. My mum said he used to be like it with is as toddlers too but now i feel like i dont want to bother with any of them. If my daughter has an accident i dont want her being shouted at. Shes 2 years old and i really expected my family to help her and praise her. I feel like until shes fully potty trained now i cant take her to visit. Do you think these reactions are fair? I am genuinely hurt for the first time about someone upsetting my daughter. Even when we got home she said grandad doesn't like her potty.
Making sure we keep it up i took her potty to my mums to visit for the day. Same thing trousers off and just a top on. My mum praised her when she used it. A couple of days later today i went back to visit while dad was there and again took the potty and took her jeans and nappy off when we got there. I could see my dad was not comfortable with her being naked. I told him she always uses the potty she wont do anything unless she cant see where it is. But then i heard him raise his voice at her when i was in the kitchen. He told her to leave the cushions alone. I shouted her to come to mummy and my mum asked him what she did and he said shes sitting allover the cushions and people need to use them. Basically saying her bum was not allowed naked on the cushions. Her lip was shivering and she looked really sad as her little face came into the kitchen. I was so angry at him for upsetting her and i was shocked that he didn't understand that she needs to be able to not have nappies on until i can help her understand to tell me first and so she can master the skill of not weeing because theres something on her bottom. Its a gradual learning curve.
I told my sister expecting her to agree upsetting her and making me put a nappy back on was not the best reaction but she said she saw his point of view. My mum said he used to be like it with is as toddlers too but now i feel like i dont want to bother with any of them. If my daughter has an accident i dont want her being shouted at. Shes 2 years old and i really expected my family to help her and praise her. I feel like until shes fully potty trained now i cant take her to visit. Do you think these reactions are fair? I am genuinely hurt for the first time about someone upsetting my daughter. Even when we got home she said grandad doesn't like her potty.