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I had a BFP on 25th October, told immediate family only (OH's parents/siblings +partners & my parents/siblings). SIL announced she was pregnant too - I/we was happy for her. It was early days but unsure of how far along we both were. But somehow MIL put SIL at 5-6 weeks despite her CB digi said 1-2 meaning no more than 4 weeks.
Anyway me and OH went for a scan on 29th which turned out I was 6+1 with a heartbeat. She decided to announce her pregnancy on FB a week later at what she thought was around 8-9 weeks (misinformed/calculated). Then MIL was asking me when me and OH were going to make it public - I said not yet for 2 reasons: (1) Not wanting to until around 12 weeks as it's the low 'danger zone' and (2) Not wanting to steal SIL's limelight. She was okay with that.
She had a scan yesterday but it put her back at 6 weeks maximum (which does actually fall right with her dates) and has some complications. I had a scan today which put me forward 3 days so I'm 9+3. I didn't take the scan photo round to MIL's simply because of SIL's current state which she understood so I sent a pic via FB messenger. I sent a pic to my family via messenger too and they asked for permission to announce on FB as things were looking up. I agreed to it as long as they didn't tag me or OH (so it doesn't go on our wall) for the sake and respect of SIL - so they went along with it.
Anyway, I got a message from MIL stating how it should be me and OH announcing it on FB not them and I said I gave them permission. She then put a FB status up saying she was "confused" and "feeling really f*cked off". I explained I don't want to put it on my FB because of SIL, it isn't what she wants to be seeing, it'll make her more upset and I'm respecting that. It isn't my fault my family are excited but if it wasn't for SIL's problem we would actually announce it today but instead we're waiting until she's sorted and fine with the situation. I even told MIL she can put it up if she wishes but that's her doing with emotional effect and not mine. But she blanked me from then on.
So yeah, am I wrong for letting my family put it on FB?
Anyway me and OH went for a scan on 29th which turned out I was 6+1 with a heartbeat. She decided to announce her pregnancy on FB a week later at what she thought was around 8-9 weeks (misinformed/calculated). Then MIL was asking me when me and OH were going to make it public - I said not yet for 2 reasons: (1) Not wanting to until around 12 weeks as it's the low 'danger zone' and (2) Not wanting to steal SIL's limelight. She was okay with that.
She had a scan yesterday but it put her back at 6 weeks maximum (which does actually fall right with her dates) and has some complications. I had a scan today which put me forward 3 days so I'm 9+3. I didn't take the scan photo round to MIL's simply because of SIL's current state which she understood so I sent a pic via FB messenger. I sent a pic to my family via messenger too and they asked for permission to announce on FB as things were looking up. I agreed to it as long as they didn't tag me or OH (so it doesn't go on our wall) for the sake and respect of SIL - so they went along with it.
Anyway, I got a message from MIL stating how it should be me and OH announcing it on FB not them and I said I gave them permission. She then put a FB status up saying she was "confused" and "feeling really f*cked off". I explained I don't want to put it on my FB because of SIL, it isn't what she wants to be seeing, it'll make her more upset and I'm respecting that. It isn't my fault my family are excited but if it wasn't for SIL's problem we would actually announce it today but instead we're waiting until she's sorted and fine with the situation. I even told MIL she can put it up if she wishes but that's her doing with emotional effect and not mine. But she blanked me from then on.
So yeah, am I wrong for letting my family put it on FB?