lauraemily17
Mummy to 2 boys
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Yesterday I found out I'm having a second little boy, my final baby so I will never ever have my imagined little girl. The one that's been in my head since I was a little girl.
Honestly I am devastated. I've cried a lot about it in the last 24 hours. In being so upset at the feeling of loss I feel so incredibly guilty to my baby boy.
I've read through a lot of posts on here and can relate to all of them. The feeling of disappointment, hurt, shame at feeling that way.
I had 2 miscarriages prior to conceiving DS1 and it took 1 year to conceive him & also almost a year to conceive this one. I should therefore be over the moon that I have a second healthy child but the loss of my daughter over shadows it. I also now can't help but think that my 2 angels are 2 little girls that my body rejected, bringing back a lot of the feelings of loss I had back then.
My biggest fear is that I wont bond with DS2, it terrifies me, it really does. Reading through the threads though has given me some reassurance from those who say they have.
Prior to finding out this one was a boy I was feeling really connected and bonded but now I feel totally disconnected. As DH wasn't with me at the scan and the gender is based on what I saw not what I was told we're having a private gender scan at the weekend (I am 100% sure it was boy bits, when you've seen them before, you know!) I'm hoping as it's private and we get some 3d time it'll help me rebond with my newest little boy.
There's no real point to this post. Just wanted to put out there how I'm feeling I guess. Thanks for reading
Honestly I am devastated. I've cried a lot about it in the last 24 hours. In being so upset at the feeling of loss I feel so incredibly guilty to my baby boy.
I've read through a lot of posts on here and can relate to all of them. The feeling of disappointment, hurt, shame at feeling that way.
I had 2 miscarriages prior to conceiving DS1 and it took 1 year to conceive him & also almost a year to conceive this one. I should therefore be over the moon that I have a second healthy child but the loss of my daughter over shadows it. I also now can't help but think that my 2 angels are 2 little girls that my body rejected, bringing back a lot of the feelings of loss I had back then.
My biggest fear is that I wont bond with DS2, it terrifies me, it really does. Reading through the threads though has given me some reassurance from those who say they have.
Prior to finding out this one was a boy I was feeling really connected and bonded but now I feel totally disconnected. As DH wasn't with me at the scan and the gender is based on what I saw not what I was told we're having a private gender scan at the weekend (I am 100% sure it was boy bits, when you've seen them before, you know!) I'm hoping as it's private and we get some 3d time it'll help me rebond with my newest little boy.
There's no real point to this post. Just wanted to put out there how I'm feeling I guess. Thanks for reading