Any Scottish April 2013 babies out there??

[lj2245]

Did you ever find out how much it was to hire?

 

[Kaybee]

A week day would be better for me as Dave probably wont need the car and he should be around for Kaiden. I could do a weekend day with a bit of notice and organisation

 

[lj2245]

Alex has literally just fallen asleep for the first time since 6am and I was about to take a nap and Shaun's school have phoned. He's got the sickness and diarrhea bug that's doing the rounds. I need to go and get him. What's betting me and Alex get it too. Just what I need lol.

 

[bbymc]

No. I'll phone up today if I get a chance.

I was just about to walk out the door, looked on our Calender and realised our docs appt was at 10am!! I made two appts, the other one is on a different day at half 2. I got them mixed up god knows when I'll get an appt for lewis now!

 

[Kaybee]

Oh no Laura. Its awful. When Kaiden got it I got it about 48 hours after and Dave not long after me. Thankfully Dylan didnt get it so hopefully Alex can avoid it too...and you & Stephen.

Emma did you manage to get another appt? I waited in last Thurs for the HV but think it must be this Thurs as she never appeared

 

[bbymc]

Aw no Laura! Fingers crossed only Shaun gets it!

Got another appt but not til late next week. Gutted!

 

[bbymc]

Another long and hellish night for us last night!

I really wish lewis would just get better so that I can find out what's normal for him. It could be the cold making him cry and throw up so much but it could also be colic or reflux. He is more choked up than ever before at the moment. I cant sleep cos im convinced he stops breathing briefly occasionally

I'm really upset though cos when im on my own with lewis and hes highly distressed, he looks to suck to calm himself down. He doesn't do it with ryan. Partly cos he is rarely that bad at the times when ryan is there. Anyway, after all else fails, he will calm down with a dummy and after hours and hours of seeing him exhausted and us both getting more distressed, its a welcome break for us both. Well after 6.5 hours yesterday he eventually dropped off with the dummy. Ryan came home 2 mins later when all was calm and preceeded to argue with me saying he doesn't want lewis to have a dummy and he doesnt care what the circumstances are, he doesn't want me to ever give him one (despite saying it was ok for the last 3 weeks). I don't really want to give him a dummy either but when its been hours, we're both stressed and exhausted, if it works, I will. But ryan doesnt care and is expecting me to carry on for hours more if ot means not using the dummy! He has no concept of how hard this is for me and it appears from what hes said, that he doesn't care how hard it is or the affect its having on both Lewis and I's wellbeing, as long ad no dummy gets used! He doesn't realise that when I resort to the dummy its because I cant take it anymore.

 

[Kaybee]

emma. Thats not what you need. I am quite sure if you left Lewis with Ryan for a couple of hours when Lewis is bad that he would change his mind about the dummy. Lewis will fuss more for you cause he will smell the milk

I think the MW that discharged me from hospital said something about dummys now being suggested as a good thing at night

Not sure what to suggest but if it were me and I thought the dummy was helping then I would be sticking to my guns and using it. Hopefully once Lewis is feeling better he might not even want it.

 

[bbymc]

Well that's what I want to do. But then, if ryan did something with lewis that I wad strongly against, I'd be really upset. I guess thats how matter of fact he sees it. Hes never had to deal with the extremes that I have though and I think because of that he either thinks im exaggerating or just doesnt understand how hard it is. He's made me feel so unsupported! Surely giving a dummy for a few minutes as a last resort is better than me continuing on for hours each time and making myself ill. Thats whats likely to happen! I've told him that too, and he still says no dummy.

 

[Kaybee]

Why is he so against the use of a dummy?

 

[arlene]

Aww Laura, hope the boys are okay and you don't pick up Shaun's bug!!

Emma, why is he so against it? What's his reasoning? I said to John that I'd rather not give James a dummy if we can help it as I see my nephew at the age of 4 still using his! However, at 19 days old, James gets a dummy! We mostly use it to get him to drop off to sleep or to soothe him in the car so he nods off. He doesn't always need it but sometimes it helps. Maybe try and make sure Ryan is there the next time Lewis kicks off so he can see how stressful it is for you?

We ended up co-sleeping again last night. John's been sending me to bed at 9pm for a couple of hours so I'm not as tired and James just didn't settle at all. Sat up til 1.30am with him then took him to bed, managed to fob him off getting up until 5. He's still pretty congested though I know I'm lucky in that it's only a stuffy nose we're dealing with rather than colic and reflux like you ladies! Xx

 

[lj2245]

I can understand why he doesn't want him to have a dummy, I was adamant that I didn't want Shaun to have one (it lasted about 5 minutes) and if he's not seeing how distressed Lewis is then it's easier for him to stick to his guns. It is recommended that babies over 4 weeks old have a dummy at night though, as it reduces the risk of SIDS. It should be somewhere in the leaflet the midwife would have given you about SIDS. You could try winning him over with that? I weaned Shaun off his at a year old and it wasn't too bad, he was just fussy for a night or 2.

We got 5 hours sleep last night, which was amazing after him being awake from 9am until 10:30pm. He's still spewing as much though.

Emma, do you want some Infant Gaviscon to see if that settles Lewis? It worked wonders on Alex for the first week or so. I reckon your doctor will just give him that anyway, it's always the first thing they prescribe when Reflux is suspected.

Are you doing the nights on your own now John is back at work? It doesn't matter the reason, being up for hours in the night is difficult!

 

[arlene]

Yeah, like I say, john is letting me sleep from 9-12 which is making things easier. He's going to help at the weekends with him though and he's not said anything against bringing him into bed with us which I thought he would. I looked up co-sleeping safely and make sure the covers aren't too far up etc, he's just worried about me rolling over and squishing him lol. Xx

 

[lj2245]

Yeah I was worried about that too when I did it but I found I was very aware of him being there, even when I was sleeping deeply. I sleep on the couch now with Alex in his moses basket, on a Tomy Sleepcurve mattress, on top of the coffee table, tilted even further on a cushion. I pull the coffee table over next to the couch and it's just like he's lying next to me.

 

[arlene]

We were doing that while john was off so at least one of us got a good nights sleep. John's told me to get sleep when I can today but I feel bad cos I know there's stuff needs done around the house. The livingroom badly needs hoovered cos when Moby goes out for a pee he comes in with half a bush attached to him!! Xx

 

[lj2245]

Ugh yeah...my house is badly in need of a going over. I can't put Alex down long enough to do anything!! Definitely sleep if you can though, the housework can wait

 

[Kaybee]

Yay for 5 hours sleep. I feel for you girls, and your babies going through such a hard time. I had a terrible time with Kaiden so really do sympathise. all round. I can't believe my luck with Dylan. Twice this week he has slept 6ish hours and it was a bonus when he did it last night cause K STTN too dont hate me

Just had to collect K early from nursery as he fell and cut the back of his head. He is fine but wanting to go back outside and run around and they like to be cautious with head bumps/cuts. So he is home now asking for lunch already

We are due the HV today. Hopefully she didnt get that tummy bug after her last visit. How is Shaun today Laura?

And girls if you get a chance to sleep DO IT. The housework can wait.

 

[bbymc]

Ryan didnt have a dummy when he was wee so he thinks unnecessary, and unnatural. Simple as that! I spoke to him again (probably helped that I was in floods of tears), he's now saying I can use it as a last resort. Thank god!

Laura I'd love some gaviscon but don't you need it for alex? Congrats on the 5 hours. Bet you feel like a new woman! How's shaun feeling today?

Arlene that's great john lets you sleep. It will make a huge difference to you. Ryan's syarted taking lewis on the days he doesn't start til 4 so I can sleep between feeds. Stops me feeling so zombie like! I'd definitely sleep while you can. Housework can wait. My house is a tip!

Karen, thats fab your getting 6 hours! Long may it continue

 

[lj2245]

He's acting really strange. He's being cheeky and grumpy and its not like him. He's feeling left out because Alex is glued to me 24/7 and I'm not sure what to do. I've been reassuring him and have been doing stuff with him every chance I get, plus Stephen has been taking him golfing. My dad bought him loads of garden toys so he can have his wee pals over to play too, so he's not lonely. He says he hates that Stephen, Alex and I share a room and he's on his own. I've been in the living room so we've let him sleep in with Stephen but I don't want us getting into bad habits.

 

[lj2245]

I get it on repeat prescription so can get as much as I need. Ill post you some to do you until your docs appt if you send me your address. I could have brought some to you but I'm on my way to Livingston and only have one sachet with me