Any Scottish April 2013 babies out there??

[bbymc]

Awww karen

My advice would be to do what you feel is right and dont worry about your job. Easy for me to say I know but I reckon if you do that you won't regret it. If you do what you feel pressured to do then you might. I think you should go through your HR dept rather than your boss if you can. Maybe rearrange the meeting until you can get someone to go with you for support? And as evidence incase he tries to pressure you.

Pressures from your boss are no fun . that's why I went on mat leave so early. I really feel for you! You can't lose your job over it tho. Thats illegal.

 

[lj2245]

Ill go with you if I'm allowed aye. They won't take the p out of you while I'm there lol.

 

[Kaybee]

Its just so difficult when you are there face to face. I am better at sticking up for others than myself.

thanks for the advice girls. I don't want to ask anyone in the office to come in with me as I don't want it to be awkward for them. I'd ask my mum but she would probably say that she agrees with him or something. I'd take dave but he'd probably give my notice in for me Laura thanks for the offer but I'd rather meet up with you again under happier circumstances. Which reminds me we need to get that organised.

 

[lj2245]

Don't go alone. You'll be fed to the wolves. Take dave, surely it's a good thing if he does that? You can be a SAHM

 

[Kaybee]

I will just go on my own, well with dylan too and see what happens. I will just say what i can manage and its up to him then i guess. Part of me thinks agree to the 25 hours and get another job before then or just say i will stay off until march. The only reason i was going back at 39 weeks is my WTC will stop after that and I wont be classed as working..although i dont think its actually that much i get. Will check later and that might help make up my mind.

 

[Kaybee]

Oh crap, i was forgetting i wont get smp after 39 weeks either.

 

[lj2245]

Won't you get full housing benefit and council tax benefit though? You may be better off financially. Speak to a benefits adviser!

 

[Kaybee]

I dont know if i would right away though. Would they not see it as giving up a job and i would need to wait 6 months or something.

I will have a look around online.

 

[bbymc]

Watch that, my uncle was being made to work ridiculous hours so he quit. Then he didn't get any benefits cos he chose to leave. Xx

 

[bbymc]

I forgot to say, Ryan told me he was gona be home late from work the other day and when I asked why he said, with a huge grin, ' oh, I've just gotta do something.' Lol. I didn't probe but I think he was going to get a ring lol

 

[lj2245]

Its happening!!!! Eek!!! How exciting

Karen, I think it's 6 weeks but check with a benefits adviser because its maybe different when you have kids and its technically constructive dismissal.

 

[Kaybee]

Thank you so much for your support yesterday, it really helped.

So went in to see my boss this morning, and will admit to feeling quite nervous especially when he starts yapping on about how much they are looking forward to me coming back and basically how fab I am anyway, i said i couldnt complete the form for flexible working as really i only put 20 hours per week as thats the least i thought they would agree to and was actually thinking of taking the full year. He was really good and said he totally understood and could we meet in the middle by starting back 6 jan doing 25 hours per week for five weeks to get jan out the way and then i can do 20 hours per week until mid march. We can try it out and if its not working for me we can review it at the time. He filled the form in for me and i took it away to have a think about. So glad its over. Now just need to keep FX dave gets a FT job soon and i can help them out with Jan and then be a SAHM with a wee job in next or something

 

[Kaybee]

Eeeeeee how exciting emma. Wonder when he will do it?

 

[bbymc]

Aw Karen that's great. You must be so relieved! Sounds like it went way better than you thought as well! Now you can relax and enjoy the time off with the boys!!

All this talk of work makes me nervous about my work. It's ages before I'm thinking about going back, but I really don't want to go back at all. I feel sick thinking about it!

I think I will have 53 days holiday to take which is about 10 weeks. So I'm thinking, if I go back, then take all my hols, I'll only have to work 2 weeks (hopefully p/t) in order to cover the minimum 3 months I'm obliged to go back for so I don't need to pay back the maternity pay they gave me. After that I'll still need to work, but not there. It's either that or continue to work there so I get mat pay for the next baby. :-/ I dunno what's best!

I dunno when he's gona propose. Whenever it is though, it'll be far from a surprise lol x

 

[arlene]

Karen I'm glad everything went so well with your boss today! At least better than you expected anyway. I think half the time we think things will be worse than they are and that's what's so stressful!!

Emma hopefully Ryan will propose soon! Do you guys have anything coming up that he might use to propose?

Jappacakes seems to be going really well Laura! Xx

 

[bbymc]

We have nothing planned. But we will have been together for 6 years on 1st September so it might be then. Who knows.

I've already emailed the place we want to get married to see what dates they have left lol x

 

[lj2245]

haha, brilliant! When are you hoping for?

 

[bbymc]

Not sure. Probs dec. jan. or Feb. depends if we can realistically get it all sorted by then lol x

 

[Kaybee]

You are going to have it all organised just waiting on the formality of getting the proposal what will you dress lewis in?

 

[bbymc]

Definitely a kilt. I reckon the whole thing will be very scottish. Wouldn't dress him in anythin else. Plus, that would be super cute lol.

We've had loads planned for about 2 years lol. Just can't do anything without the proposal lol x