Any solo mum's out there?

Discussion in 'Assisted Conception' started by K.N, Aug 31, 2013.

  1. Rainbobby18

    Rainbobby18 Well-Known Member

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    First insem for cycle #2 was on Sunday at cd6 I got an ealier start this cycle so we shall see
     
  2. Rags

    Rags Mother of 1 boy

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    Waw Rainbow, that's a very early start this cycle! Good luck to you.
     
  3. Rainbobby18

    Rainbobby18 Well-Known Member

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    Rags- thank you. I didn't get any insems during the week cause I was sick and work but O is gonna be over the weekend so it could go either way :shrugs:
     
  4. Rags

    Rags Mother of 1 boy

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    It's always worth giving it a go, especially if you've been ill as it can effect things.Hope it all went smoothly and I'll be sending you the best of luck and loads of baby dust.
     
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    Rainbobby18 Well-Known Member

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    Thank you Rags. I don't think this is my cycle :( I got a new job and my donor went on vacation. Oh well. How about you?
     
  6. fairytales87

    fairytales87 Me&Science=Baby#1

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    Just checking in to see if anybody is still around and how everyone's getting on
    ❤️xx
     
  7. Rags

    Rags Mother of 1 boy

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    Hi Fairytales, I'm still about but not very active. It's been a really disastrous summer for my family and I pop on sometimes to see what nice things are happening with everyone else for a distraction.

    So how have things been with you?
     
  8. fairytales87

    fairytales87 Me&Science=Baby#1

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    Oh I'm sorry to hear that feel free to message anytime if you want to chat
    Hopefully things get better for you❤️
    I've been poorly for almost a year now so lots of tests etc
    and I spend a lot of time in my bed as I'm very tired all the time
    but there's lots of ppl worse than me so I passed the time by following some blogs and watching more TV than ever before lol
    I have a little nosey through here every so often to see what everyone's up to would be lovely to hear how everyone's getting on all the LOs will be getting big now!!!
    💗xx
     
  9. darkriver

    darkriver Well-Known Member

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    Hello everyone,
    Long time no see. I havent updated in almost a year but I thought I would let you know that I lost the girls after my period of complex mental health.

    They have been adopted by a family. I am slowly seeing the wood through the trees. I start proper therapy in September.

    I dont feel my journey is over though as all through the process of losing the girls I was told I wasnt a bad mum just an unwell one. I start private therapy in a couple of weeks and will work though my recovery. I would like to be a mum again in the future but want to get better first.
     
  10. Rags

    Rags Mother of 1 boy

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    Darkriver, I am so sorry to hear your year has been so awful, I can't begin to imagine how amazingly courageous you have had to be to get through everything you have and be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel now. I'm so pleased to hear you are beginning therapy shortly, I very much hope it helps your recovery and allows you move forward into a wonderful future. I'l be thinking about you and sending you my best wishes and warmest thought always. :hugs::hugs::hugs:
     
  11. indigowarrior

    indigowarrior New Member

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    This Darkriver under a new profile. My old one held to many bad memories. I would like to still follow this thread.
     
  12. Rags

    Rags Mother of 1 boy

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    Indigowarrior, it gives me great pleasure to be the first to welcome you to this thread:kiss::kiss::hugs: I'm glad you still want to keep up with us all and we will look forward to hearing from you as all of our journeys continue.
     
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    Thank you so much Rags. Appreciate it. Wishing my life away but guess I have to take the very slow path.
     
  14. K.N

    K.N Well-Known Member

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    Indigowarrior. You are so brave for everything you have been through. Sometimes the roads are very bumpy and slow. And even miserable. One day at a time is a good way to think. Tomorrow is always a new day. I hope you are being kind to yourself and keeping well xxx
     
  15. K.N

    K.N Well-Known Member

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    I haven't posted in ageessss. But I do pop in and have a quick read often!! Things have been really hard with Emelia-Michelle. She is my everything. But she has been such a sick little girl. Reflux. Allergies. Recurring infections failure to grow. All sorts.. So we are waiting on an appointment where they may consider early tonsil removal as she is having apnoia episodes. And also grommets to release some of the pressure. She is dairy, soy, gluten free. And also allergic to some fruits etc. Her fontanel closed super early, and her head hasn't grown since she was 3 months old. She is now nearly 7 months which can put pressure on her brain and daycare are now worried she is presenting signs of cerebral palsy. Which I don't know a lot about. But will talk to the paeditrician when we next see her. Doesn't rain does it?? It pours... I love her soooo much. But gosh. This is not what I imagined her life would be like! :( :(
     
  16. fairytales87

    fairytales87 Me&Science=Baby#1

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    Oh KN what a tough road you and LO have had.
    She has a fantastic mumma so I'm sure she will do just great no matter what challenges life gives her💗xx
     
  17. Keebs

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    Hi everyone, doesn't look like this thread is particularly active any more but I'm going to post any way as I need a sounding board for my own thoughts.

    I have two gorgeous girls from the same donor and yet have never felt like my family was complete. Initially I ruled out trying for a third due to finances but have had a rethink lately following some restructuring at work.

    So, contacted my donor to see if he was able to help. Yes, no worries.... Then drops a casual suggestion to try "naturally" due to its success. Totally inappropriate as I have always been very clear that AI is the only option.

    My view on donors who do this is unfit for print, but essentially I view them as predators taking advantage of vulnerable women. Gutted and so angry, although I'm certain he will donate AI I now worry he's done this to others, perhaps insinuating was what worked when he helped me.

    Soured the whole arrangement for me. For the sake of the children i do feel it's better they all have the same donor but feel almost violated at the thought of using him now.

    Not sure if Im over reacting or not .
     
  18. Rags

    Rags Mother of 1 boy

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    Oh Keebs, I'm sorry to hear that things have been soured for you with this one comment, please don't be. It may actually be that he's miss read your relationship somewhat. I'm not saying that makes it any better but he's possibly not being predatory (benefit of the doubt). I'm not sure how many insemination's it took for your other two wonderful girls, is it possible he's thinking it could work first time???
    I watched a documentary recently about donors and a few of them on the programme mentioned that they'd never suggest/offer 'natural' and that people should be weary of anyone who does.

    Would you look for a different donor? I only have one Ds but I did try for a second. I used frozen sperm from a clinic and when I was trying for the 2nd I was told my son's donor had withdrawn consent for any more of his stock to be used so I decided to go with a different donor as who the other genetic material came from wasn't something I was bothered about.
     
  19. Keebs

    Keebs Well-Known Member

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    Hi Rags, how are you? I hope life is on the up again after your disaterous summer.

    I've heard a few people mention that documentary, must try and find it online.

    Doubt my donor has miss read anything, suspect he is taking a punt on getting lucky... although I am no oil painting lol, don't think that matters to some men however.

    I would consider another donor but the thought of weeding through all the sleeze again doesn't appeal, plus lost time etc. Honestly couldn't give two hoots about genetic heritage myself, but I do worry it may affect the girls later in life. Maybe I'm more anal than I like to think, but it just seems neater to have all the same 8-[

    Anyway, have decided to go ahead for now. Completing my family will absolutely be worth it.

    Can I ask when you told your son how he came to be? My eldest is aware we are different to other families but hasn't yet asked about why so is still clueless. Have been waiting for her to broach the subject but at this rate she may be old and grey before she knows!

    KN - Congratulations on your beautiful baby girl. Sounds like it's been a tough start, we all want to protect our children from hurt and pain. Must be such a challenge watching your child go through so much, but I bet you guys are such a strong team. Together you can face anything :hugs:

    Indigowarrior - warmest wishes on your road to recovery xx

    fairytales87 - sounds like a super tough year for you too, hope your tests were helpful.

    Honestly. I am blown away by the postive attitudes shown by everyone on this thread, puts my little rant into prespective. Remember why I loved this thread so much before. xxx
     
  20. Rags

    Rags Mother of 1 boy

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    Hi Keebs, I wouldn't want to be having to rake through profiles if your previous is still willing, good luck. My 3 nieces have two different fathers between them, it hasn't made any difference to the way the relate to each other but I think it would be different if it were donors and maybe one was happy to be traced later in life and the other wasn't.

    My Ds has always been very curious about the human body and babies - he was only 2 and a half when he first asked how a baby gets into a women's tummy, I told him two seeds bump together and each has half the information needed to make a baby, a couple of weeks later he came back and asked where the seeds come from. I explained that one of the seeds is inside the women from when she is made and that the other comes from a man - I took this as my chance to let him know that most of the time the man is there and becomes the babies father but that there are some very generous men who know that some women need help to make a baby and they leave some of their seeds at clinics for Dr's to give those women. Everything progressed from there and by the time he was 3 he knew it all and we were introducing the proper names for everything. He is 8 now and will quite happily ask me questions. He has decided to tell his big cousins (I explained that this was his story and he could say, or not say, to anyone he wants, but that he has to understand that once he tell someone he has no control over who they tell. He knows anything I know about the donor - height, weight, hair colour, eye colour - and he knows that if he want's to he can find out his name and stuff when he's older. He knows why I decided to have him this way, how many tries I had and how much they cost me, he is a very, very curious wee boy.
     

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