Any teens TTC?

[Ella]

I still will never understand people giving women who look/are young and pregnant dirty looks in the street! But hey, their narrow-mindedness is their loss at the end of the day.

I have no issue with 18+ (even 17+ if like others say, they are in stable relationship and have the means to support the child) TTC.
xx

 

[Angelface]

Aww hun! I'm not saying you should move out and stop relying on your mum the second you get pregnant! Especially if that pregnancy was an accident! I do believe that you shouldn't intentionally get pregnant if you are still living at home, and intend to depend on your mother after having the baby, too.

I'm still living at home, and i planned my baby...

 

[Arcanegirl]

Just to clarify 18+ TTC is fine on BnB, its just the under 18s that we dont really support/promote

 

[Sarahkka]

I'm a bit late to the discussion, but I'm really glad to have read this thread.
To be honest, I was quite shocked that there were teens with TTC on their avatars when I was first exploring Baby and Bump. I understood the supportive mentality of BnB, but I was really surprised that this might be part of that support.
Wobbles and Stir Crazy, I am really glad that you clarified that for me. I think you are right on about setting an age limit for TTC.
I know age is just a number, but I'm absolutely pissing myself that I'm going to have a baby in about 3 months, and I'm 32 with 7 years post-secondary education, world travelling, partner of 10 years and good jobs. I have all the supports we are theoretically supposed to have and I'm freaked out. I cannot imagine the stress of impending parenthood without financial and emotional support. We have so many amazing stories on this forum of really brave women making do when they found themselves accidentally pregnant, but all of them share that it's not easy. I guess I just wonder, why put yourself in such a tough situation if you don't have to?

 

[Ella]

Sarahkka, I think what you have to take into consideration is that people feel ready to have children at different times. You could have all the degrees and money in the world and still find parenthood daunting.

Obviously being financially and emotionally supported is a huge weight off your mind, as it were; but I don't think you can assume there are no teenagers ready to become parents.
xx

 

[sparkswillfly]

You may feel ready at 16 but there is no possible way you could be ready. You havent had time to grow up for a start. An 18/19 may have lived on their own for 2/3 years and worked during that time and built up a stable relationship. But at 16 you havent had time to do those things. You may want a baby but your not ready for one. You may not want to do other things like go to university or go travelling and you would rather have a family. But to just dive straight in at 16 is silly because it does its only going to be a positive thing to wait 3 or 4 years. And whats 3 years in the grand scheme of things. I was in a long term relationship from 14-17 and I thought I would spend the rest of my life with this person and I was happy and I thought that one day we would settle down together. But it didnt work out like that he ended up beating me and raping me one evening and no one could have predicted that. Thats an extreme example and obviously isnt going to happen to anyone on here but what Im trying to say is between the ages of 16-20 is when people grow up themselves and change so much. What you might want at 16, might not be what you want at 18.

 

[Lissa&&bump]

Im 19, 26weeks pregnant... was 18 when i first concieved! couldn`t be happier! sooo excited

 

[Wobbles]

I'm locking this thread.

We don't support under 18's TTC fullstop not open for debate no discussion not really worried if they feel they are ready or not - WE, BabyandBump do not will not support or encourage it.

This is teen pregnancy ...support for those girls who have found themselves pregnant at a younger age.