anybody else not do the whole 'santa' thing? *dilema pg3*

[Eternal]

I think i will do both, someone mentioned that the stocking was from santa, i like that idea, i dont like the fact that santa gives them gifts for nothing, i would rather than know that mummy and daddy bought them because they are loved. and stocking can be from santa.

Mind you mine will just be about 4 weeks old at christmas so wont be doing much either way this year!

 

[oOKayOo]

I dont do jesus or anything religious , as i dont beleive in it all. So we do santa

 

[Pyrrhic]

I don't think there is anything wrong with not having Santa

I'm a Protestant, and we go to service on Christmas Eve and Day, but we still have Santa.

Santa is based on Christianitys Patron Saint of Children, Saint Nicholas.

I think as long as Christmas doesn't become purely about Santa in a Christian home then it's ok to indulge a little.

 

[sophie c]

our family is the same as oOkayOo

 

[Zarababy1]

Were doing santa, i Loved Santa as a child made the whole christmas magical, i dunno i cant explain it, we're not religous people but i must say if someone just said too me "were not doing santa" id think pfffft WHY, but the way you describe it sounds lovely no less special than a christmas with santa! I suppose they it doesnt really last long enough anyway by the time they get too 5 or 6 theres other kids at school telling them its not real and then there disapointed!

 

[Hollys_Twinny]

I can quite honestly say that from the moment I found out that Santa wasn't real..christmas has never been the same since.

Kids grown up way too fast as it is. And my little man will have Santa in his life until I think he should know different!

I have nothing against anyone who decides against it but personally I think Santa rocks

 

[Tezzy]

ok.. just been to see my inlaws with the kids and now i have a dilema!!!

my MIL has booked a special treat for everybody (15 of us) to go on a steam train December 20th to see the welsh valleys in winter... included in the package is christmas dinner and a visit from.. you guessed it... SANTA!



going to speak to OH when he gets home.. i know he grew up with santa but he agreed with me that we wouldnt do it. *sigh* dunno what to do now!

 

[Serene123]

I didn't know anyone didn't do santa *naive* What about when they're at school and children are talking about Santa and they wonder why Santa doesn't visit them?

I agree your Christmas sounds lovely though and it should be how you want it to be. Will they even remember that they saw Santa this year, next year? Does that make sense?

 

[Tezzy]

my MIL has 'santa' stockings at hers for the kids but at this age they dont care who their presents are from. by the time they go to school theyll be old enough for me to explain everything to them.

its not like im making them grow up faster by saying theres no santa... and im certainly not saying its wrong to do the whole santa thing.. in fact it sounds really lovely and magical. its just whenever i think of doing it myself my stomach ties in a knot and i feel its wrong (for us as a family)

 

[brownhairedmom]

Do you know what...I think if you keep with the idea that its "Father Christmas" instead of "Santa", it might help. Or if you explained the whole origins of Santa to them. You could say that there used to be a very nice man who used to give presents to children because he liked to make people happy, and now we all give presents to remember him and to show people we want them to be happy too

I know over here, things are changing. I read an article last year that said in some places in the United States they aren't allowed to advertise Christmas trees as "Christmas" trees, but "Holiday" trees instead. The trend is sort of becoming that its a holiday to give and be with your family and that EVERYONE can celebrate the HOLIDAYS to make them happy and bring everyone closer together. It isn't about Santa at all and I really hope that Renah grows up realizing that as well. We don't do a lot of Santa things in this house. Its mostly gold, silver and red decorations everywhere, snowmen, snow flakes, etc. We don't go all out with Santa.

 

[Tezzy]

Do you know what...I think if you keep with the idea that its "Father Christmas" instead of "Santa", it might help. Or if you explained the whole origins of Santa to them. You could say that there used to be a very nice man who used to give presents to children because he liked to make people happy, and now we all give presents to remember him and to show people we want them to be happy too

I know over here, things are changing. I read an article last year that said in some places in the United States they aren't allowed to advertise Christmas trees as "Christmas" trees, but "Holiday" trees instead. The trend is sort of becoming that its a holiday to give and be with your family and that EVERYONE can celebrated the HOLIDAYS to make them happy and bring everyone closer together. It isn't about Santa at all and I really hope that Renah grows up realizing that as well. We don't do a lot of Santa things in this house. Its mostly gold, silver and red decorations everywhere, snowmen, snow flakes, etc. We don't go all out with Santa.

i would be more comfortable with that! (my stomach didnt go into a knot when i read it ) definetly something i would consider saying to my kids, thanks!

 

[brownhairedmom]

Have you seen the movie Fred Claus. Its kind of a stupid movie about Santa's brother with Vince Vaughn in it...he has a huge issue with his brother Nicholas because everyone liked him better...but at the beginning it shows him as Nicholas the boy growing up and how he used to give and everything. Its interesting and you could maybe draw some ideas from that.

 

[sophxx]

we did have santa at home! but not in a over the top way! we just had a tree then a nativity secene! we also went to church and knew about saint nicholas ect!
our christmas presents came from mum and dad and grandma not father christmas but we still though he delivered them! we never though we just got presents for the sake of it!
we also was taken to lapland as a child and it was the most amazing thing to see ever!
x

 

[Rachiebaby24]

I knew there was no santa from a young age......santa brought other kids bikes etc....santa brought us knickers! LOL.....plus my mum didnt let us sit on his knee eiither and i wont let Maley (just creeps me out).

When she is older, Santa will bring her one standard present....at the end of her bed with her stocking. Everything else is from mummy and daddy etc.

When she is old enough, she will be told Santa doesnt exist but i will explain about S Nicholas and what he represents.

I for one, do not belive in god as such but I want jesus and god in my house if thats makes sense as I want Maley to make her own choice about religion as i did (this includes other religions as well).

 

[mandaa1220]

I found this thread very interesting... I'm 19 and my entire life we have done Santa in my house and it was always such an extravagant thing. There were hundreds of presents under the tree just for me.

Once I got older and realized that Santa was in fact fake, I started to really respect my Mom more and more, for everything she did to make Christmas magical for me. I almost think I enjoyed Christmas more, knowing that my Mom loved me so much that we had this magical day... the best was spending all day with her after the family finally left!

This has really got me thinking about when I do become a parent, whether or not I will do Santa or how little he will be involved. Christmas should be about spending time with those you love and feeling how much they do in fact love you...

 

[bigbloomerz]

I was brought up as a Jehovahs Witness, I never had xmas at all, until the age of 22! I LOVE xmas now, this year will be my 3rd xmas, I still feel weird decorating a tree and putting decorations up, so this year I decided to make my own decorations and be a bit more traditional.
Next year we will have our baby and I wont be doing the religious aspect of xmas, and wont teach our child that santa comes down the chimney, xmas to me is a time for family to all get together and enjoy that time of year, warm snuggly evenings around the fire and lots of cake lol.

Just my opinion, but no I dont like the idea of my kids sitting on a random strangers knee in a shopping centre. xx

 

[amylw1]

but no I dont like the idea of my kids sitting on a random strangers knee in a shopping centre. xx

most shopping centers etc WONT allow kids to sit on santas lap = they have a seat next to his. plus all santas/elves/helpers are CRB checked.

 

[x-amy-x]

Depends what you make the definition of Santa clause?

My OH didn't have santa when he was younger his parents are christians. But he never missed out one bit. Not even at school with the other kids. Plus, most of his friends were kids from church anyway.

xxx

 

[taperjeangirl]

yep kids arent allowed to sit on santas knee anymore

 

[samylala]

i love xmas the decs everything but my patner hates it and dont beleve in any off it lol