anybody else not wanting to tell people until 20 or so weeks??

[missmayhem]

am i on my own with wanting to keep my news to my self until later than usual?

 

[Eleanor ace]

We're debating whether to not tell people (other than friends that I'll see whilst pregnant and family) until LO is here, or I go into labour- just because I think it would be fun to put a status on FB saying "off to have a baby".

 

[firstymemommy]

I am not telling my parents or my friends until 16 weeks. I wanna look pregnant and I want awsome sonogram pictures

Its not horrible to wait, it can even be fun knowing something no oneelse knows!!

 

[I Love Lucy]

I don't think I would ever wait until 20 weeks to tell people but next time around we're waiting until at least 12 weeks to announce. We told our parents as soon as we found out and them knowing did nothing but stress me out and annoy me.

 

[nevernormal]

I had a friend who didn't tell me until around 20 weeks, and I was the first non-family person that she told. But... her pregnancy was also a surprise, she was in denial (not that she didn't want/love her baby... just wasn't sure she was ready yet!), and didn't even start telling family until probably 14-15 weeks. For her 2nd I found out around 16 weeks, and again was the first non-family member to find out.

I'd always thought I'd want to wait, and just relish my little secret. But after two years of struggling, I want to at least have some time of joy, celebration, and anticipation with family & close friends. So our immediate family knows and 3 friends. I've not had any losses, so I'm sure you're coming from a different place mentally and emotionally, but actually I started changing my mind after one of my BnB friends had a loss in January and was sad that the first news she was telling her mom was bad news.

However, I'm not going to publicly announce it at church or anything. I guess I'll have to tell work. Not planning to put anything on facebook but I know my mom and probably my SIL are chomping at the bit for the go ahead to let it out. So they'll do the announcing for me

 

[needanother1]

I am waiting as long as possible. We had a mc recently and just want to wait a bit. Surprisingly support wasnt that great from some family members. os we just decided to keep it underwraps.

 

[JustFluffy]

I am with you. I have told family and a few close friends and my direct manager just in case something goes wrong and I need time off but other than that I am ok with people finding out when they see my bigger belly! After 12 weeks or so I may tell a few more close friends but I am not going to make a gigantic announcement about it...

 

[weffi82]

If i thought i could get away wi it idd not tell people till baby wa ere but i show massively.

 

[Tigerlilies]

I had 3 MC before DD so I'm waiting to tell non-imediate family until we know the gender. As far as work goes, I couldn't care less telling some people I work with until its obvious. The only reason my immediate family knows now is because my BIL point blank asked me if we were pg yet and I didn't feel right lying.

 

[doggylover]

We told our families already (parents,brothers, sisters, SIL, BIL) as we are very close, and wanted their support just in case, but we aren't planning on telling anyone else unless we have to I.e. they ask outright or I am blatantly shoving past them with my bump. After our mc in January we just want to play it as safe as possible.

My cousins 6th b'day is the week of our 20 week scan, so we will see most of our family then, and that's when we will tell them as unlikely to actually see them before. With friends...I'm not that bothered tbh. That sounds awful but I'm not as close to my friends as I used to be, and none of them are "into" babies. They would be happy for us, as they know about my mc, but even still I'll keep it from them as long as possible.

My work colleagues will probably be the first to know!! Unavoidable of course!

 

[Tasha]

With Riley Rae only my husband, children, parents and siblings knew, right up until she was born (24+3). This time (or any that I get a sticky pregnancy) I wont tell anyone in RL except my husband until 20+ weeks, most likely 24+

 

[CLH_X3]

My last pregnancy I told family at 8 weeks, friend at 11/12 weeks and Facebook at 29 weeks!

With this pregnancy il probs tell family at 8-10 weeks ... Friend the same an proba the same with Facebook, depends how big I look this time round

 

[Aud]

We are waiting as long as possible. We were prego a few months back, and miscarried. Then, my husbands little brother and wife decided to get prego (after a year of saying they were going to wait a few years). I suppose our pregnancy made them want a baby and they were quick to announce their pregnancy at like 5 or 6 weeks. So, in light of their new found attention, we have decided to keep our new pregnancy on the downlow. We are about 4 weeks behind them and got pregnant the month after our miscarriage.


Yes, I am a bit annoyed by it all. Especially since they are so immature, and think having a baby is for attention. They are the type that are posting every min of the experience on FB for attention. They even have my husbands mother at their home everyday cooking and cleaning for them. - its their first baby, they are 21 years old, and she has had NO MORNING SICKNESS or first trimester wowes.

Yes, I am petered. I have been on shots of progesterone, bedridden, sick as a dog, and with other kids in the house.

Ok- To anyone who reads this. Thank you for listening.

 

[doggylover]

Aud, I hear you on that one. I have a friend who thinks having a baby is the "next thing" and she is also doing it more for the look of the situation/attention than actually ever having wanted a baby. She told me she didn't want to "step on my toes" by telling people early but she can't wait. I told her to be my guest. Our families know and that's all we care about, other than having a healthy baby of course.

 

[angelmoma]

im with ya for as long as i can hide it not even my parents so i have no support other than my bestfriend nd my oh ...nd dnt wanna tell them sick of being judged and talked about after my lil angel died so not giving them anything to talk about when there out on a friday nite ..

 

[LauraAvasMum]

Only me baby's dad and the sky man know and on friend who's off to uni and I'm not announceing it not even to mum and dad oh and my 2 year old knows been to scan but she forgets x

 

[kirstabelle]

I wish I didn't have to tell people until at least 16 weeks! I would rather have had the NT scan, the blood work and everything come back normal before telling people. Twenty weeks would be ideal. I have told two of my friends, and my mum, and had to tell my boss at work because we had to fix my schedule because of my first trimester sickness etc. I pretty much don't want to tell anyone else, especially OH's parents because they will blab it to everyone and just generally be overwhelming. I know people have already guessed because I haven't been drinking and when we moved into our new place we got a few things for the baby's room like a rocker and a crib which are hard to hide lol (either because it was on sale, or came from a store we won't be able to visit again before the birth) and I'm sure they are already gossiping about it, but I figure if I don't actually confirm it then they're not going to be pestering me, so whatever. It has been a struggle to keep my husband from not telling this far so I know we are going to have to tell people soon. But, I would keep it a secret until I was as big as a house if it were up to me!

 

[Lilyen Snape]

me too i'm waiting. last time i just told my mother in law and she blabbed to everyone, even people i didnt even know. then i had a mc and when ever i have to go back everyone knows. now even the whole family. it was Christmas dinner last year and her sister started talking about it across the table as if it was her business to know how the operation went!!! After the mc my husband had to call everyone to tell them the bad news even though i only told her so she could help me hide it. I refused to talk to anyone and they just kept calling me after! His mother and his mothers mother! His grandmother even told me off for not talking to his mother!!! i know its nasty but she needs to move on or get out of my bushiness, she is 85 and i think i will feel relieved once it happens. My parents are all the way in Australia and even they dont know anything about it. I'm going to tell just my sister and that's it till as long as i can. i want to tell my parents but i guess its not fair if the others don know. Also France is the place were babies go to school the youngest. My MIl sent my husband to school at the age of 2 to get ready for the real thing. I m a stay at home wife. they told me that i have to do the same!!!
they can be apart of my life but not a part of my home. Its my only place to get away from them. Now we don't have a land lined phone since i missed placed in when we moved. Hmmmm i wonder where it is?

sorry for ranting i which i only had one mother in law not two!!!

 

[Sass827]

I wish I could keep in from my MIL until 20 weeks so we would know the sex. As of now were keeping it from all of DH's family until we get the results back from the 12 week tests. My parents and bf know now. One neighbor did find out by asking straight at me and I just couldn't flat out lie. Now she's up my rear end with a million texts every day driving me insane! I wish I just lied!

 

[Lilyen Snape]

aww poor you hun. im going to try and get my nursery theme and everything sorted before i tell MIL because shes so controlling. at lest if i have it already done then boo for her unwanted advice because they think they are right! she told me when i was talking about baby sleeping in little nap sacks now, not frilly lacy blankets! she was screaming at me that She raised three children and they were fine with layers of blankets and frills and pillows. Well i told her that maybe for her but not for the 6000 other babies that died the years she was raising hers, soo closed minded. Sometimes i wish i could take my eyes out of my head and roll them across the floor for real.