Anyone 37 and TTC after a miscarriage?

[Deethehippy]

Hi Sarah
I took EPO to increase the amount and quality of my CM (which in theory makes it easier for the swimmers to swim well) It definately helped increase mine :0)
Doseage etc needs to be checked though and i dont think you take it after when you ovulate in case it causes uterine contractions.
It seemed to help me get my BFP. This cycle i tried Agnus Castus which also increased my CM bigtime so hoping that helps me again.

 

[tweety pie]

Hi everyone i am new on here i am 39 and lost my much wanted daughter lily may in jan. I had to have a d and c 5 wks ago and since then we have been trying i am so desperate to be a mum as we have no children i just carn't seem to think about anything else it is driving me crazy

 

[Deethehippy]

I am so sorry for your loss Tweety Pie - glad you can join us here and hopefully the future will turn out better for you

Have you had an AF since the D&C?

 

[brownstag]

Have any of you ladies with recurrent miscarriage been tested for high levels of natural killer cells?
I am 40, and had 4 miscarriages before having my son, who is now 2. I went private to Mr Shehata in the UK, who specialises in recurrent miscarriage. I did have high levels and when I conceived my Osk was put on steroids for the first trimester, and all went well. This is not something you can be tested for on the NHS and it's quite cutting-edge treatment.
It wasn't cheap, but at least in my mind it answered the question of why this kept happening to me when the NHS specialist couldn't find anything wrong with me.
Baby dust to you all. x

 

[BeachChica]

Brownstag - I have not really been tested for anything yet (other than the usual stuff). I just had my 3rd MC this month on the 13th. I have my post-D&C follow-up tomorrow. My doctor sent away the tissue for testing so I hope to have some answers soon. I will also now start seeing a specialist who will do some additional testing and manage my TTC going forward (due to the multiple MC's).

 

[brownstag]

I'm not sure if this treatment is available in the US, so you might like to ask what tests they will do.
Here's a page from Mr S's website which explains about natural killer cells, though you may find the rest of the site and the info about other causes of interest.
https://www.miscarriageclinic.co.uk/causes2.html#2
He also told me to take 25 micrograms vitamin D3 (which dampens down the immune reaction) prenatally and during pregnancy.
xx

 

[madmax]

Hi ladies, I shall be brief!
I'm just 37 DH 34, had mc in dec 2008 (accidental pregnancy!) had 2nd mc which was a mmc on my birthday 25th April.
Had three scans one at 6w 4d, 8w 4d and 10 weeks all fine!
Then a day b4 I was to reach 12 weeks, bleeding (very slight)
Took them 3 days to scan me, to find out no hb.
I have no children with DH but a 15 year old DS and 5 yr old DD.
They will not send me for test until I have had 3 mcs.
Paid privately to see Mr Tom Farrell who was lovely, basically said he could take loads of money off me in tests but he truly believes we have been unlucky!
I am not convinced however, so I am paying for private testing for APS, as I just know something isn't right!
I suffer migraines and headaches quite alot, so well for peace of mind I think it's worth the money.
I will be TTC again, I find myself very torn, thinking, oh god can I really go thru that again?
I guess so many of you ladies that have suffered mc's feel the same way?
It's just thinking am I strong enough to deal with it again?
Oh god this was going to be brief!!!!!!!lol
I kind of have a bit of a sixth sense? I said to DH the day we found out I was pg, we'll never have a baby together you know. He told me I was a bit mental and don't worry about it until it happens. WELL IT DID HAPPEN AGAIN!
I have really struggled not to be so angry with him!
I am sorry very sorry for your losses and my not so brief intro!!!!!

 

[Natsby]

Yup,me too. 38 and two mc so far, hoping I won´t have to go through all that again and that the next one sticks.

 

[claired1974]

Hi there,

I have come across this website tonight and feel slightly better that there are other women like me TTC. It seems everywhere I turn there is another celebrity pregnant !
I have a little girl, shes 2 1/2 years old and I would love for her to have a brother /sister close to her age although this is looking less and less likely .

My husband (younger than me 29)and I have been ttc since Sept 2010, I got pregnant quite quickly but unfortunately I mc Christmas Eve while on holidays in UK at my inlaws.... I was devastated and had to put on a brave face for eveyone as nobody new.
We have now been trying since Jan again and I feel like that there is no hope, my husband doesnt get as upset as I do and I think its getting to me that my due date is approaching 13th July and it seems I have made any progress.

My question is how do you stay positive and try not to get too stressed? I feel my biological clock is ticking and im running out of time?
At what stage do you go to the doctor to get things investigated?

Is there anything else I could be doing?

 

[madmax]

Hi there, think I am the same age as you and have had 2 mcs one in 2008 and one in 2011. I would put in a call to you gp. My checked my out after I had been trying for 6 months. Found I was fine.
It is hard to stay positive but trust me you have plenty of time left yet!
Have you got a cbfm? Loads of women here swear by them!
Good luck and I am sorry for your loss.

 

[BeachChica]

Hello to the new additions - madmax, natsby, claired1974
To answer your questions, I just had MMC #3 about 2 weeks ago. Although I did not want to go through another again, I think they prefer that you have 3 MC before they send you for additional testing. Unfortunately it seems that MC's are very common and even multiple ones. I have my first specialist appointment booked for June 9th so I hope to start getting some answers!

claired1974 - have you tried tracking your BBT? DH and I have been TTC since 2009, it took a year before I my doctor finally suggested BBT tracking. Since I started that I got pregnant 3 times, two of them in the 2nd month of tracking. Its amazing to see what your body is up to!!! If you decide to start tracking I printed a blank chart from the Baby Center website and just picked up a BBT thermometer from my local pharmacy. Good luck!!

 

[sarahincanada]

Hello to the new additions - madmax, natsby, claired1974
To answer your questions, I just had MMC #3 about 2 weeks ago. Although I did not want to go through another again, I think they prefer that you have 3 MC before they send you for additional testing. Unfortunately it seems that MC's are very common and even multiple ones. I have my first specialist appointment booked for June 9th so I hope to start getting some answers!

claired1974 - have you tried tracking your BBT? DH and I have been TTC since 2009, it took a year before I my doctor finally suggested BBT tracking. Since I started that I got pregnant 3 times, two of them in the 2nd month of tracking. Its amazing to see what your body is up to!!! If you decide to start tracking I printed a blank chart from the Baby Center website and just picked up a BBT thermometer from my local pharmacy. Good luck!!

very sorry to hear about your losses my mum had about 4 MC's before I was born so please never give up hope

Im interested how BBT helped you get a BFP, because I find that tracking BBT alone doesnt help, as it only shows ovulation AFTER you have ovulated and then its usually too late. I use ov tests to know my LH surge so I can BD before, and then BBT to confirm ovulation. So I was just curious what you did.

 

[BeachChica]

Charting my BBT I find I pay more attention to my CM in the days leading up to OV. In addition, right before I OV my temp takes a large dip down and then it spikes up after OV. See this sample chart below:

https://www.babycenter.com/0_sample-bbt-chart_7252.bc

After OV your temp will also be higher then before OV for the rest of the month. I have also seen my implantation dip by tracking. Of course when AF arrives and when I MC'd I noticed a large drop in temp also.
After tracking for a couple months you will see the pattern so you can prepare. I start to do the BD in the days leading up to this dip and when I notice the EW CM. When I see the dip down I know I have to do the BD that day for sure. When I have gotten a BFP it was interesting to look back at the chart and see when we did the BD etc.

Here is the blank chart that I use if anyone is interested in tracking.

https://www.babycenter.com/0_blank-bbt-chart_7069.bc

Good luck and let me know how you do!