Anyone been in this situation, is it do-able?

[Jem88]

Me and OH have been arguing on & off alot latley, he's just so selfish and i'm sick of his drinking and loads of other stuff, i just don't want to be with him anymore as he'll never change.

I went to the housing place this morning to see what they can do and they just asked if i had applied for housing which i did 4 weeks ago, and it can take 4-6 weeks for the application to be processed and they are behind by about 5 weeks - Didn't help at all really. My mum has said i can stay there but i've stayed overnight a few times when me and OH have had a row and me and LO have slept in my sisters bed and she's slept on the sofa and LO doesn't sleep well. (Obv this wouldn't work if i had to stay there a while as theres no room for me and LO as there's already 5 in a 4 bedroomed house (I shared with my youngest sister before moving out 4 year ago.)

I told OH i had been to the housing place this morning and they can't do anything, i don't want to be with him etc etc but i've to stay here until i find my own place. He didn't say anything and we haven't spoke all day.

I've no idea what's going to happen as OH isn't speaking he's just sat and played on his pc game all day. I have a blow up mattrass which i'll be sleeping on tonight in LOs room.

OHs parents live an hour & half away, i know his dad would come and pick him up but OH is refusing to go anywhere as "both our names are on the tenancy agreement and i can't kick him out." I know exactly why he won't go to his parents, they don't have the internet so he won't be-able to play his online pc games!)

Has anyone been in this situation where they've split up but are still living in the same house? x

 

[davidjoemum]

sorry to say but its not gonna working.you wont be calm and relaxed because u will be looking at his face everyday and you dont want LO to see you sad.can you save up for first rent and ask council for deposit scheme then apply for housing benefit it will be struggle at first but will get better and you find yourself in better mood everyday.

 

[Laura2919]

If you are voluntarily walking out they wont help you, he's got to kick you out. I'd tell him because you have LO he'll need to stay at his parents house while you find somewhere. I'd call CAB and see if they can help in any way with advice because they would be better than me. lol.

I hope you get something sorted soon.

 

[Flowerew]

I am in the exact same situation. He won't leave the house and I am not getting any help from the council because I have adequate housing! I have 2 kids and am 24 weeks pregnant and he only helps with them when he wants to. I understand totally what you're going through. Have you spoke to your landlord about ur tenancy? Maybe they can help?