Anyone else dog-tired of it all???

[Emmi]

Anyone else just had enough of everything???? Just want to stand in the street and scream???

I will enjoy my husband and do sexy things with him just for the sake of it (need to dig out that baby doll underwear thing I bought when I was as size 10 and squeeze myself back into it!!!) and throw away the OPK's etc ........but then wonder surely it can only make sense to bd when you ovulate so timing is imperative so I have to drag him in the bedroom caveman style even when he is not in the mood

That every person possible out there including the neighbours dog is pregnant

That every person out there that has children sees that it's their duty to tell me what I should and should not be doing and that I should just accept that some people are just not meant to have children Seriously - I just want to scream and swear at them to just shut up!!!!!! They smugly tell me that I will be fill my life with other rewarding things.....errrrr like what?????Fishing, knitting, pottery!!!! Oh yes - cos that will fill the pain of not being a mummy.

Just relax and it will happen - if I hear that one more time - I will turn into a Linda Blaire exorcist type, my head will spin and I will puke green splurge!!!

That it's important to take supplements and pills etc and going a tad overboard that I am starting to rattle when I walk

That I have pondered over baby names for years and that we have chosen the ones we love yet the pain of waiting for that baba just all gets a bit too much

I will not touch a drop of alcohol and will spend every social occasion/wedding/hen-night stone cold sober as everyone else is spinning on their heads, laughing and slurring their words and telling me that they love me!!!

With the money that I have spent on IVF, OPK, pregnancy tests, supplements etc I could've travelled the world 5 star for 10 years

Gawd - I am so dog tired of it all that I am going totally loopy!!! Anyone else????

 

[Loup89]

100% with you on that one. I can't stand the 'I know how you feel' when the other person has been trying for 3/4 months with no success! Urghh if only they did know!
How long have you been trying?

 

[Emmi]

It's unbearable isn't it.....Everyone knows best except us. We have been trying for 18 months which may not seem long but I am nearly 43( married at 41) .......We have no fertility issues apart from age - hubby's swimmers were a bit all over the place but they have got better with diet etc.....

We have just had our first IVF fail and I have cried for England yet that still hasn't stopped folk from giving their crappy advice!! I just want people to understand that's all!!!

 

[DAISYPRENCESS]

I thinks all of us. Just keep hoping .

 

[Loup89]

Sometimes it's nice to come on here just to know you're not alone!
I'm 24 and have been trying with my husband for almost 4 years, I get told constantly that it will happen, to relax because I'm young and have plenty of time. It doesn't help one bit. Just know you're not alone, nothing anybody says can make us feel better but just try and think of all the good things you have, it helps me get through the hard times

 

[Emmi]

Sometimes it's nice to come on here just to know you're not alone!
I'm 24 and have been trying with my husband for almost 4 years, I get told constantly that it will happen, to relax because I'm young and have plenty of time. It doesn't help one bit. Just know you're not alone, nothing anybody says can make us feel better but just try and think of all the good things you have, it helps me get through the hard times

Totally agree - I have to sit and count my blessings to get me out the big black hole of doom and gloom I am in sometimes. I think when you remember what you do have then it brings home that all good things do come to you - I didn't meet hubby until I was 40 so I can vouch that life is full of wonderful surprises!!!!

 

[VRTTC]

Hi Emmi,

I totally understand your feelings. I too have a list of baby girl and boy names and have a favorite from each category. Sometimes it looks like I will never get to realize that wish

People keep telling me too to relax and it will happen - stay happy, eat healthy and think positive. And it is soooo hard to do just that!!

I have irregular/almost absent periods since last few years and my RE thinks I have DOR so medically, my chances are very less. But still, I am not yet ready to accept that this is going to be our lives.

Those who get pregnant easily have no idea of how complicated this whole thing is - how many tests and meds one has to go through to make this a possibility. And even then there is no guarantee.

And then I come across stories of women who were in similar situations or almost similar situations and did get pregnant and that gives me hope and keeps me going. So here's to HOPE - wish you tons of

 

[Emmi]

Hi there - I do try and remain optimistic but then I read something about everything and anything depleting at my age and I just want to bury my head in chocolate. But like you say - you read and hear of things all the time and we have to keep the faith that it will be our turn next.

Yep - people that get pregnant easily really don't have a clue.....It's all so difficult for them to understand the stress, heartache and frustration.

But - it ain't over till it's over!! Wishing you all good things too

 

[Myshelsong]

YES!!!!

I cried the other night while trying to have sex with my husband because this has made me CRAZY! I just want all of this to be over it is so horrible the feeling every single month of hopeful desperation and then crushing disappointment.

Just wanted to say – I totally feel you. I have even started pottery, not kidding.
Good luck on your journey.

 

[Emmi]

You do wonder sometimes if it's possible for a human to cry so much.....I wondered if I could be in the Guinness Book of Records with my tears but I guess we are all trudging along the same ole journey.....

Total hugs to you because it's all so hard - I am constantly screaming 'why' to the heavens - the stress and desperation of it all is enough to drive anyone crazy.

That made me smile about the pottery - well I could cope with that it's just the way people think that any old hobby will get rid of this horrific empty feeling......Wish that they would just understand

Good luck to you too

 

[wannabemummyb]

Yep definately get it! Dh and i used to have a great sex life, couldn't get enough of each other, nearly four years ttc mean it has somehow become more about trying to get that bfp with a sticky bean.

to you

 

[Emmi]

No matter how I pretend that bedroom dancing is because we are just so in love/naughty or whatever......am kidding myself - am always hoping that it's gonna be the time that it finally works......

Tiring huh

 

[DAISYPRENCESS]

I love my husband sooooo much and bding makes me so happy but when I O I think: "This might be the moment". I just can't help it.

 

[Emmi]

I think it's just natural - you just can't forget about it!