Anyone else go through this?

[tamithomas]

I can't be the only person that feels like the world knows when AF shows up. It never fails, each AF either a BFP announcement is made or someone decides it's "I'm greatful to be a parent" day and blast it all over facebook. Today it was a friend who posted a picture/meme of "A mom is the greatest job in the world" with 4 pictures in it, 3 with growing bump and last with holding the baby. I broke down seeing it.

Another decided posting, I kid you not, 78 pictures of their kid in one album called Decemeber (she does this every month, 90% of the pictures look the same lol)

CD1 for me, bring on 2013!

 

[xxshellsxx]

i know the feeling only too well!

i've had to 'hide' friends who constantly post updates/pics of their kids and those annoying 'share if your a mum' pictures.

I use my FB for networking for my hobby so can't delete it, other wise i would!

xx

 

[tamithomas]

Yea I deleted a friend because all she posted was literally "like/share if you love your child" and her statuses were filled with nothing but "my little angel is sleeping right now, I love you (enter name here)" posts and nothing else. I don't mind those who post it once in a while, it just seems like they decide to post it on the days AF show up lol.

 

[xxshellsxx]

Yep! It's always the bad days i notice them more!

I broke down at work on thursday, 2 of my colleagues were leaving, and 1 is PG, unplanned and conceived on her wedding night in September! The conversation then moved on how it feels to be PG and how amazing it is. I have another colleague who is in the same boat as me, and only i know about her the rest all know about my struggles. I broke down and managed to pass it off as upset about them leaving, she shot me a knowing glance when i came back in and we engaged in our own conversation and eventually turned it back to work.

People just don't realise how difficult and upsetting it is to have to listen to these stories and smile! x

 

[tamithomas]

Especially when the topic pops up and you have aboslutely no way out it or you hear it being talked about from people who weren't even financially nor mentally prepared to conceive (happened with two different friends). I had a friend that I opened up to about TTC andi nfertility and told me she understand because had an abortion Then went on to tell me it'll surely happen after I put on some weigh. Like what? haha I just have a very fast metabolism and my bmi is 18.5 smack dab in the healthy zone. Some people really talk out of their behinds.

 

[xxshellsxx]

oh they sure do! lol

Some people are well meaning but really have no clue how hurtful things they say can be!

 

[Miss_Awesome]

It sounds like we might be friends with some of the same (inconsiderate/rude/annoying/obnoxious/fill-in-the-blank) people!

Every time AF gets me, I feel sad or angry, but Mother's Day was the absolute worst for me. My "best friend" (who's now became a pain since getting pregnant with her second child) and I were on the exact same cycle schedule. We both tested at 8 DPO at her insistence. I knew it was too early and of course got a BFN. Then, at 13DPO, on Mother's Day, we tested again--yet again at her insistence. She said she wasn't going to tell me her results until I told her mine. I had a feeling hers was a BFP.

Well, I got a BFN and that's when she told me she got her BFP. I was pretty devastated and texted her "congratulations" through tears. I'm happy at least that she lives in another state so I don't have to see her and this was how we were corresponding. Well, later in the day, my test had developed one of those dreaded evap lines. I told her I was retesting and while this test was developing (another negative), I got AF. I think that was the second worst day of the year for me. The first being a friend who cheats non-stop on her significant other and got pregnant, never telling the boyfriend he's potentially not the dad.

Ugh.. sorry for rambling. I just wanted to add that I know exactly how it feels to get AF month after month and resent people on Facebook with their "mother's are the best people in the universe" posts. Those are the worst.

 

[tamithomas]

It's no problem, ramble on. We all need a place to vent our frustrations. My friend was horrible, I kid you not. Even while pregnant it's all she posted about and even afterwards. Nothing else I mean zilch of any other content. Infertile or not it's annoying to everyone all around.

 

[jellybeanxx]

Those Mum Memes on Facebook are the worst, you're a Mother, we get it!! Arrrgh.

 

[Miss_Awesome]

It's no problem, ramble on. We all need a place to vent our frustrations. My friend was horrible, I kid you not. Even while pregnant it's all she posted about and even afterwards. Nothing else I mean zilch of any other content. Infertile or not it's annoying to everyone all around.

Oh, that's so annoying! I have a friend who got pregnant "the first time" she slept with her boyfriend. From the moment she found out, she was posting up a storm all over FB. She posted her positive test, every symptom & complaint, and every news story she could dig up of terrible parents. Her reasoning was now that she was an "almost-parent" she had every right to say who should and should not be able to reproduce. She still does this only posts about a million pictures of her kid doing the exact same thing in every picture.

 

[Lady E]

I think the way you feel is perfectly natural. When I was trying for my little boy (I have PCOS and my hubby has low sperm count and low motility sperm and we were told we needed IVF) I deleted everyone on facebook who was pregnant or gushing about their babies. I knew they weren't doing anything wrong as such, but I just couldn't put myself through the torture of seeing it all the time. Now I have my little boy, I am occasionally guilty of gushing a bit, but because I struggled to get him I feel so grateful and I am always aware of the need to be a bit sensitive just in case. I have one friend who I have had to put in the acquaintances group so she doesn't show up in my newsfeed as I have never known it possible to go on about one baby sooooo much, it is ridiculous and just annoying! We are thinking about trying for a second soon, and as it will probably be a long road for us again I just know certain things will start to get to me again. The other day 2 friends announced they were pregnant with their second babies and neither were properly trying yet, and it made me feel really inadequate that something others find so easy is so hard for me! Hang in there, I promise when you get your much longed for baby everything seems right with the world again xxx

 

[tamithomas]

I think the way you feel is perfectly natural. When I was trying for my little boy (I have PCOS and my hubby has low sperm count and low motility sperm and we were told we needed IVF) I deleted everyone on facebook who was pregnant or gushing about their babies. I knew they weren't doing anything wrong as such, but I just couldn't put myself through the torture of seeing it all the time. Now I have my little boy, I am occasionally guilty of gushing a bit, but because I struggled to get him I feel so grateful and I am always aware of the need to be a bit sensitive just in case. I have one friend who I have had to put in the acquaintances group so she doesn't show up in my newsfeed as I have never known it possible to go on about one baby sooooo much, it is ridiculous and just annoying! We are thinking about trying for a second soon, and as it will probably be a long road for us again I just know certain things will start to get to me again. The other day 2 friends announced they were pregnant with their second babies and neither were properly trying yet, and it made me feel really inadequate that something others find so easy is so hard for me! Hang in there, I promise when you get your much longed for baby everything seems right with the world again xxx

Congrats on your little boy I'm not one of those that since I'm struggling no one is allowed to post about theirs. Heck I know if I get a BFP a few pictures will come up here and there. It's the ones that consume their whole feed of nothing but that area of life. Or the ones who act like they're the only parent in the world and no one could possibly understand them lol. You're right though, once I get my LO one day it won't feel like such a drag on facebook but I promise myself never to be one of those types.. I think once you've been down the infertility road it never leaves you even after a success. Knowing how it's like on the other end, consideration plays a big key in your life because I'm sure all of us have that one friend on our facebook that is struggling but no one knows about it. I think that's what fertile people who go on posting binges don't understand. Again congrats on your LO, always great to hear good endings to such hard roads

 

[Lady E]

Thank you, and you are right - although the pain goes away once you get your baby, you always remember how you felt and how others may be feeling. I have a friend who isn't even in a relationship but finds people like you mention upsetting as it makes her feel inadequate for not having children or being in a position to try. Unfortunately people who never have to struggle can just be so clueless. I had a very good friend who I never see now as I just couldn't believe all the thoughtless comments she would make. My favourite was when she was trying for her second baby, she didn't conceive in her first month like she did with her first and because I was pregnant by then thought it was acceptable after 3 months ttc to say she knew just how I felt?!?!?! Unbelievable! Anyway I hope Christmas was good and wishing you so much luck for the new year x

 

[tawanamood]

I recently had a friend post non stop anti-abortion pictures on Facebook and some were extremely graphic all because her family told her the best thing to do was abort her son (he's now 4 years old) since she was a broke, irresponsible drug addicted teen when she became pregnant. I guess she's still angry over their suggestion. It's sad because in the four years that she's been a mother she hasn't worked one day and her baby's father told her to go to hell the moment the plus sign popped up on the pregnancy test.

She also posts, "I'm the world's greatest mom," pics on her fb page all day and last I heard she's on her 4th boyfriend this year. Good grief.

All in all the unsubscribe button on Facebook has been a life saver for me.

 

[tamithomas]

All in all the unsubscribe button on Facebook has been a life saver for me.

Amen to that! I've deleted quite a few over the past few years due to such type of annoyances. Although your friend sounds like the classic case that would be on Jerry Springer or the Maury Show

Plus... anti abortion pictures on facebook? Does she really think they belong on there? After all facebook is supposed to be about life updates, not push for your personal agendas. I get annoyed with posts that push their persons views imo weather it's abortion pro or against, politics, religion ect. Politics being the worst, there should be a rule against facebook allowing that stuff on there. All I've seen it do is create drama and people pushing their own beliefs on each other. I have yet to find one single political post that had a positive outcome from it.

 

[HearMyPrayers]

I agree! My DH and I share a facebook account, he is on it 99% of the time, me I avoid it at all cost. I have cousins that insist on posting pictures of their kids, sleeping, eating, pooping, watching tv, STANDING STARING AT NOTHING HALF THE TIME with stupid captions like "my little girl is so smart she is taking a poop!" "my little princess is such a big girl she went peepee in the potty!" Like I seriously want to say to these people is it mandatory that you lose all sense of "adult talk" when you have a baby! I have another cousin that has 4 kids under 4. And everyday she is posting something about her kids, what they say what they do its like you have 4 kids under 4 how the heck do you have the time to even open a computer let alone write paragraph after paragraph of the latest and greatest that your "little princesses" are doing! They are overindulged people thats all!

Thats my little rant!

 

[xxshellsxx]

Some prime examples of status/picture updates on my news feed today just in the last 2 hours:

"My little princess sitting watching emmerdale [UK TV show]' eating my spring rolls i just cooked myself " - with a picture! (posted by daddy)

"Eating daddys veg spring roll xx" - with another picture (posted by mummy)

"7 months old today xx" - with a picture

"My babies all bathed & ready for bed xx" -with a picture

"one week and i will find out when the baby is actually due and if it is more then 1 !" - she announced her pregnancy at just 5 weeks gone!

And i have the most annoying ones hidden!!

 

[Miss_Awesome]

LOL, you ladies are cracking me up. I keep reading though what your FB friends post and shaking my head in agreement. I guess I'm not the only one who knows ridiculous people. I always say if the parent posts that their kid made a poop in the potty that day, the kid is probably going to hate them when their old enough to know the world knew the first time they used a toilet.

It's not cute, it's disgusting. For the sake of humanity, keep some things sacred. Or at least private! Same goes when they think it's just adorable and the world MUST see their child eat mashed potatoes or squishy vegetables. Yes, because when I think "cute" it's your Homer Simpson-looking bald child with smashed vegetable goo all over their face with a toothless grin. That's dripping with sarcasm in case anyone missed it.

Ugh! And the women who act like Mother of the Year, but go out and party all the time.. yeah right, gimme a break. It's like they forget that even though all of our lives are virtually online nowadays, some people actually know them in real life. Instead of being a walking sperm bank with a drinking problem, they should probably rush home and care for the child they just HAD to have despite being jobless, broke, and "never wanted kids anyways."

Excuse my bitterness. I'm dealing with a friend who doesn't know her child's father but pinned down some guy to raise it and the guy constantly brags about how "awesome" his sperm must be to have made such a "beautiful little princess." Gag me! At least until a DNA test confirms his "awesome" sperm. Ugh.

 

[tawanamood]

All in all the unsubscribe button on Facebook has been a life saver for me.

Amen to that! I've deleted quite a few over the past few years due to such type of annoyances. Although your friend sounds like the classic case that would be on Jerry Springer or the Maury Show

Plus... anti abortion pictures on facebook? Does she really think they belong on there? After all facebook is supposed to be about life updates, not push for your personal agendas. I get annoyed with posts that push their persons views imo weather it's abortion pro or against, politics, religion ect. Politics being the worst, there should be a rule against facebook allowing that stuff on there. All I've seen it do is create drama and people pushing their own beliefs on each other. I have yet to find one single political post that had a positive outcome from it.

LOL!!! Half the people on my friends list belong on daytime talk shows.

No, political posts only serve to bring out the ugliness in people. This particular friend started posting abortion pics in the summer then became habitual about it during the elections (I'm in the States) saying, "vote this way if you choose LIFE!" Absolutely ridiculous and immature. I almost deleted her, but figured she was just super passionate because of her own life story.

I agree with you; personal agendas don't belong on social media. It's disruptive and alienating.

 

[tamithomas]

LOL, you ladies are cracking me up. I keep reading though what your FB friends post and shaking my head in agreement. I guess I'm not the only one who knows ridiculous people. I always say if the parent posts that their kid made a poop in the potty that day, the kid is probably going to hate them when their old enough to know the world knew the first time they used a toilet.

It's not cute, it's disgusting. For the sake of humanity, keep some things sacred. Or at least private! Same goes when they think it's just adorable and the world MUST see their child eat mashed potatoes or squishy vegetables. Yes, because when I think "cute" it's your Homer Simpson-looking bald child with smashed vegetable goo all over their face with a toothless grin. That's dripping with sarcasm in case anyone missed it.

Ugh! And the women who act like Mother of the Year, but go out and party all the time.. yeah right, gimme a break. It's like they forget that even though all of our lives are virtually online nowadays, some people actually know them in real life. Instead of being a walking sperm bank with a drinking problem, they should probably rush home and care for the child they just HAD to have despite being jobless, broke, and "never wanted kids anyways."

Excuse my bitterness. I'm dealing with a friend who doesn't know her child's father but pinned down some guy to raise it and the guy constantly brags about how "awesome" his sperm must be to have made such a "beautiful little princess." Gag me! At least until a DNA test confirms his "awesome" sperm. Ugh.

You should check out https://www.stfuparentsblog.com/ it's a blog related to oversharing including you guessed it, pooping subjects. Some mothers even go as far as to post pictures of their kids on the training potty! unreal. But there's a good laugh to be made on that website with the captions B makes to them. No worries, she blocks out faces and names on there so there's no shaming involved. But it's nuts what some new mothers will post on facebook. No discression anymore.

Some women go as far as to post crowning pictures on facebook. Something usually people turn on the discovery channel or youtube for, not facebook LOL