Anyone else now trying again STRAIGHT after a mc? NTNP?

[Mrs.W]

mrs.w - yer wud have been december! maybe we spoke in first tri



how do you know if you havea soft cervix tho???? do you literally (TMI IM SORRY) stick a finger up??? sorrryyyyyy!! Thats sooooo crude! sorry

Thanks for asking that, I have always wondered quite how you do it, I think my fingers would be too short

 

[Clobo]

Ha ha, sometimes especially when its high you do have to have a good old rummage

Its so hard, ive aways wanted children, spent 10 years with one guy who didnt want kids and then we split up, I met Ben and get married, finally ready to have kids and we have lots of trouble, its soul destroying ... watching all my friends get pregnant and have their babies and im still trying.

Dont belittle what you are feeling though, you may already have one baby but I bet you want your second just as much

So have you had a scan to confirm mc and not ectopic?? I really hope things are over with quickly and you can move on, i think its important to try not to dwell on these things, nothing can take our angels away from us but trying again is the best medicine.

xxxx

 

[firsttimer1]

yes i was wondering whether uve had a scan to ensure it wasnt ectopic mrs w?

cloey - thanks for the info on cervix, i felt silly asking but glad i did. An thanks for guessing cd21 too. wud i count first day of MC bleeding as cd1? so im cd12 i think? this is all assuming my cycles are still the same i know! think we will just do it every other heehee... i can think of worse things!

It will happen for you and ben this is GOING to be my first baby..... roll on a BFP!

 

[Mrs.W]

I always thought I'd have started a family earlier, our first LO was born 10 years after I first met DH, the delay was mainly due to my studies and the fact that I still felt too young. Now I'm 29 and I know that isn't old in the grand scheme of things, but I thought my children would be at school when I was this age. Have you been trying long? I had the scans yesterday which didn't look ectopic they just couldn't understand why my HCG was still over 6000 when I had no pregnancy left on the scan, but this morning they are happy my levels are decreasing, so not ectopic.

This is a lovely thread xx

 

[firsttimer1]

oh im glad it sounds like its not ectopic hun

well we only tried for a month and got lucky Im 28 and my soon to be DH is 26 and weve only just felt ready. as i sd, my pals are only just all starting to think about families too - i guess we were all concentrating on careers. I always planned to have 1st baby around now... but iv always wanted the second straight away so cloe in age! Now im just hoping for one LO to be born healthy and happy

ive just realised - if i OV around cycle day 21.... thats in 8 days time - the day (friday 20th) i go on my HEN DOOOOOO!!!!!!! so im defo going to have to bd alot the two days before LOL - and after. Although my hen do is the frid AND the sat boohoo. but all of this is just guessing anyway! lol

 

[Clobo]

Hi Kas

Yes get now just in case, im counting my first day of main bleed as cd 1 but i wouldnt expect this cycle to be a normal one, if you can keep up the every other day then go for it!! However you sound like you have a busy one with hen do and wedding, why not try and put TTC to the back of your mind and concentrate on the other things, you want to make sure you enjoy them!! How exciting, do you have everything sorted, dress etc??

Mrs W (whats your first name??) yes im so glad its not ectopic, thats the reason i had my scan early originally to make sure it wasnt ectopic. I guess your levels were just high but its good they are coming down now and you will soon be bacl to normal.

Im 33 in September and never wanted to be an older mum, plus id like two kids so want to get on with it!!! Ive felt ready for so long I just need it to happen now.

Right, i have to go to bed now, im knackered ... night night ladies, catch you tomorrow its been lovely chatting with you xxx

 

[firsttimer1]

OH CLOEY DONT YOU WORRY - im defo enjoying all the wedding planning! Butim so organised that its pretty much done heehee But yer we will just bed every other night and hope for the best when we return from honeymoon

im off to zzzzzz too so goodnight to you both, chat soon!! xxxx

 

[Clobo]

Morning :wave:

I'm staying home today, woke up feeling totally knackered and bit dizzy, sicjyy, headachey, think it's just everything caught up with me so I'm going to rest and not risk a cold or infection.

Ooh hopefully you'll have a honeymoon baby!!! Where are you going?? I'd love to get married again, I was very organised too and loved it!

Hope everyone is ok today? I'm going to have a nice steamy bath when ben has gone to work!

Xxx

 

[Mrs.W]

Hi Clobo, I hope you feel better soon, good idea to avoid colds etc

This morning was the first time I've woken up and not had to "remember" what was going on, so I feel good today. I'm hoping my bleeding is starting to finish now so we can get on with it. I asked DH how he would feel about BDing every other day this month ( TMI but that is NOT the sort of thing I normally suggest!) and he says we can aim for that, which will be good in case my cycle is a bit random this month.

 

[Mrs.W]

Clobo I just clicked on your FF link and wow that looks complex! Have you gone past OV this month? I can't work it out

 

[lintu]

I had a MMC back in jan and as soon as the post op bleeding stopped I went straight back to NTNP, good luck

 

[Mrs.W]

Thanks Lintu, GL if you are testing tomorrow as your ticker says

 

[ickle pand]

We're still NTNP at the moment but I'm getting the itch to start temping again although I might already O'd. I have PCOS too and my cycles are all over the place but I started taking agnus castus two months before I got pregnant, after reading about it on a PCOS support forum, and I'm convinced that's what made the difference. Hopefully we'll get a few BPF's this cycle, it always gives me hope to see others in the same situation as me, get pregnant.

 

[Clobo]

Hiya Mrs W

FF isnt too bad, you just put in all your data every day and it does the rest, if you look at my December 30, Round 2 Clomid you can see i had a pretty perfect cycle of temps, low to start, then a dip at ovulation and then higher because of the progesterone in the luteal phase. Then it drops when AF arrives.

Au Naturale cycle more complicated as i wasnt on clomid so though i ovulated, didnt but then did 10 days later, then got then mc. Ive learnt so much from doing it.

Ive just booked my first acupuncture appointment next wednesday too!! Bit nervous but quite excited, he specialises in infertility and says he has always got good results!!

Hi Lintu, yes good luck if you are testing tomorrow, sorry for your loss.

xxxx

 

[Clobo]

Hi amanda

PCOS is a pain in the **** isnt it, i havent temp otherwise i havent a clue whats going on, luckily i am seeing an FS though and am starting the clomid again from my next period. Hoping the acupuncture does the trick too, ive heard a lot of good things about it and he said its good to help prevent miscarriage too once you are pregnant.

Good luck with the Agnus Castus, its supposed to be natures clomid and do the same thing. I tried it for a while and it def helped regulate me.

Loving your attitude too xxx

 

[ickle pand]

Hiya Clobo

Yeah it's crap!! I'm like you - temping makes me feel so much more aware of what's happening in my body and makes me feel like I'm more in control. I recommend it to anyone and everyone who's TTC. I'm seeing a FS too and he's been really good. We're on the waiting list for IVF at the moment but we're hoping to get another natural BFP before then.

I've been thinking about acupuncture too. Let me know how you get on with it. I bought Pre-seed lube from Amazon which is supposed to help if you don't have a lot of EWCM but I haven't used it yet. I think I'll give it a go next cycle though.

Mrs W - with charting you can pin point your fertile period to about a week so that you only need to have baby making sex in that time, the rest of the month you can do it just for fun lol!!

 

[Clobo]

Wow, Amanda, how long do you have to wait for IVF?? Have you been trying for a long time?? Sounds like you are doing all of the right things so I really hope that you do get another soon.

Yes we get worn out every other day for such a long time so its good to know vaguely when you need to do it and when it can just be fun. It really does help.

So we are all just waiting on ovulation now then?? xxx

 

[ickle pand]

We've been trying for about three and a half years now, but since we got put on the waiting list for IVF I've been doing everything I can to try and avoid it lol! It's reassuring that we have that as a back up plan though. The only problem is that our place on the list is dependant on me losing weight so that's my plan for this summer. The IVF waiting list is about 18 months long in this area but it just depends on how long it takes people ahead of you to get pregnant I think.

I haven't been temping this cycle but I think I might start again tomorrow to get back in practice for next cycle. xxx

 

[Clobo]

Blimey chick, thats a long time, its good that you are on that list though. Yes id temp, its worth doing i think. Sounds like you have a busy summer then, i want to start swimming again. I was told that losing just 5% of your body weight can help kick start ovulation and i think it definitely helped for me.

xxx

 

[xxxjessxxx]

Hey ladies, I don't want to be rude and bump in but I was intrigued.
May 2nd I began bleeding, 3rd May had a scan and it was confirmed I lost the lil bean at 8w4days pregnant
I didn't feel ready to BD yet, until me and OH took a bath just 2 days after I began bleeding and got a bit carried away
Since then we have been BD about 3-4 times everyday. I feel very guilty about doing it so soon though, but it feels so right.
I usually check my cervix, and today at cd12 my cervix feels high open and soft? Could I be ovulating? I haven't had any EWCM, but could I be ovulating or is my cervix playing tricks? I'm NTNP at the moment, as I believe when it's supposed to happen it will. I just want a lil sticky bean again like we all do - I'm too impatient!! My friend miscarried at 6 weeks, then ovulated a week later so I know it can happen. But I don't know I just want this soo bad!! x x

Fx'd for everyone!