Anyone else off sex?

[AngelofTroy]

So I'm 14 weeks in, and we haven't had sex once. All the articles I read say sex drive ramps up in the second trimestre but I'm just not feeling it at all. Please tell me I'm not the only one. This lack of drive is unusual for me.

 

[lovemybubba]

You're deffo not the only one. It's starting to come back to me a little now, I'm 17 weeks today. But most of the time I'm too tired X

 

[lexey_7]

I'm still not feeling it at all!

We've done it a handful of times since I found out but then about 13 weeks it gave me thrush so that put me off more because I was sore for ages.

We're averaging about once a month but even then I don't fancy it have to force myself. I feel uncomfy whatever position I'm in and can't bring myself to want to do other things for him!

Hoping it gets better I'm worrying that when he's here it will be worse and I'll never do it again

 

[rebeccalouise]

I've gone off sex completely since getting pregnant.. I do it for DH's sake, but I don't enjoy it at all. Everything is so sensitive down there, but not in a good way! I also find there's not one position I'm actually comfortable with now I'm so big. I feel like I upset DH because he thinks he's the problem, but it's not that at all. X

 

[linz85]

I'm totally off it which I feel is crap especially for my OH who tried to encourage me any way he can only to get told no lol. I can't stand the thought of it tbf and since having a bleed at 12 weeks, it scares the hell out of me.

 

[Tesh23]

I cannot stand for my husband to be near me since I've been pregnant. I am happy as I am and I don't feel sorry for him either lol.

 

[laila 44]

Same here. Zero interest. I'd rather cut my finger off to be honest.

 

[Kitteh_Kat]

I was the same until about week 16, then it just vroom'ed up suddenly. I'm having sex dreams every night too.

 

[Qmama79]

Low drive fr me too! Maybe once a week now & totally gentle & slow. It's hard to relax these days...

 

[Marumi]

My Sex drive is pretty much like before pregnancy. Every day is a bit much but every three days isn't bad.

 

[hotpinklily84]

Sorry to hear your going through this. I'm no frisky cat but maybe you should try manually stimulating your clitoris and see if that wakes you up. Sometimes you might not be in the mood till you take matter into your hands; if you feel yourself getting aroused then you know you are ready to start being intimate with your OH. Your lady parts have increased blood flow so your orgasms are more intense and it wont take you long to reach your peak. Maybe he can give you oral to get you going.
Maybe try giving him oral while you stimulate your clitoris;this works for me and hubby enjoys it too. I wish my orgasms are as intense as they are now then when I'm not pregnant.
I would talk to you husband see how he feels about the lack of sex; it's important to know how he feels because he cares how you feel more then the act of sex.
I'm usually not in the mood but do it anyways and once we get started I'm on cloud nine.

 

[jinxii]

I'm not off it exactly, but my nausea still hasn't gone away and every time I get at all aroused, I puke. Not exactly attractive!

 

[missbabes]

Another one here who just doesn't get the urge during pregnancy. We did it once last time after 30 weeks and I felt like a beached whale. I do feel bad for Hubby though, so going to attempt it soon, maybe as a christmas treat and hopefully I won't feel totally useless at it.

 

[SaraVO]

I haven't been into it the last few weeks. But I'm making plans in that direction. My husband told me a month ago that it's up to me. But I worry once I get big big. It will be too awkward. Strangely enough I feel even more intimate with him with not a lot. He has so much more touching, massages, he rubs my belly and I have started falling asleep propped up on him. I'm not feeling like it's missing missing. But, I don't think I would ever hear him complain so for him it might be the most frustrating foreplay of his life. He will never actually say so. I think it's in that caveman book.

 

[Boo44]

I don't dare because I keep having brown discharge and don't want to make it any worse

 

[emma4g63]

Yea can totally relate...
Wen my nausua was bad i couldnt face it..now it
S like every few days but thats only for his sake ..
Id be happy jus goin without !!
Lol

 

[lovemybubba]

I can tell you one thing that really gets my drive going again (for like 1 or 2 days haha) is my OH saying "not tonight, I'm tired" to me!
I'm like "urrrh nope, I need it more now"
I don't know why!

 

[medic76097]

Zero sex drive. I've been like that with my last two too. I think through those pregnancies we maybe had sex twice. Lol. Hence getting pregnant again right away twice now. Making up for lost time.

 

[Itsychik]

I haven't had a sex drive ever since I got pregnant with my first baby... more than 5 years ago.

And when pregnant or breastfeeding it's literally non-existent.

I feel bad for DH, and he thinks it sucks too, but I try to point out how lucky he is to have me in all the other ways (like, how I'm an awesome cook!). He doesn't complain (much) but I know he wishes things were different.

 

[kelz86]

same here no interest since 16weeks spd doesnt help it but im lucky oh v understanding i was same wiv dd oh was counting the 6weeks after she was born down lol