Hi everyone
I haven't posted for a while as I have been waiting to get closer to the TTC time but recently our circumstances have not panned out the way we thought and we may have to wait another year before we TTC Although I kind of saw this coming, as we thought we would be financially better off at this point, it still came as a tal shock to me when we sat down and my husband quite bluntly said that we would have no chance of having a baby next year and may even be another year or more before we could afford for me to be on maternity leave. This affected me a lot more than I thought it would to the point where I am now on anti-depressants (for other reasons as well, but mainly this)! Now, all our friends seem to be breaking the happy news that they are pregnant, and it makes me even more sad does anyone else feel the same? 😓
I get jealous sometimes, especially when I see people who aren't as "together" having kids, like people who have never worked, who live at home, who are having there 4th kid at my age, been together for like a month before conception etc... I don't judge them for it but I wish I had that "nerve" like to jump into what I want rather than tick loads of boxes. It will be fine in the end Our time will come, doesn't help when people act like being jealous is a sin and that we are horrible for feeling it and we are being mean to the ones that are pregnant, it's actually normal to be jealous of someone who has something you desperately want.
Just remember our time will come and soon and when it does we will be glad we waited for whatever reasons!
There's got to be another word to use when your feeling this way...
There's got to be another word to use when your feeling this way...
Jealousy isn't a bad word, it's not like we are crazy jealous , a little jealousy isn't my idea as unhealthy, I think it is actually kinda normal. But if jealousy is all you feel then I think yeah it's unhealthy, I'm sure we are all healthy jealous, maybe a different word for it would stop the stigma, babyurge? When you feel the urge to have a baby when you see announcements etc?
I have been WTC fro a very long time. 10+ years. I have always said I wanted to be married first. I know it's not a necessary prerequisite, but it would make me more comfortable if my relationship were secure in marriage. Anyway, I made the very blunt decision that 2015 would be my year. The BF and I just recently adopted a dog together as well as purchased our first home. His very close friends are both married and have children. His bestfriend and wife stole the name I mentioned I wanted to name my daughter. His brother's girlfriend became pregnant earlier this year and they stole our name for a boy. I was extremely upset and broke out into tears at the baby shower and had to leave. I want to be a mother and have a family so bad. Every pregnancy announcement becomes harder and harder to be excited about. I totally feel your pain. 2015 is my year!