Big hugs to everyone in this thread
I hate to hear that people feel a failure for not having a "natural" birth. Everyone is different and our bodies cope very differently with birth, god made us all shapes and sizes so nobodys birth experience will be the same. NOBODY who has ever given birth should feel like a failure, whether you had a vaginal delivery, forceps, ceasearen or whether you delivered at 23 weeks or full term! We grew a baby (or babies!) for goodness sake, that is a remarkable achievement in itself!
I had a very traumatic labour, nothing like I had imagined labour to be...I was going for the completely natural birth, maybe a bit of gas and air, concentrating on my breathing etc. It didn't happen at all like that though and I spent months going over the labour in my head (parts that I could remember!) and how I was a failure for that and for not being able to breastfeed
I feel completely differently about it now and if I need assistance with my next delivery, then so be it! I have a healthy, happy daughter, which is more than I could ever have hoped for