Anyone else want to be alone & feeling anti-social??

[kc1980]

I have noticed that I have less desire to chat or make small talk with people than usual. Normally, I am really chatty & social, but right now, I just want to be alone, or if I am with people, I am happy just to sit & listen to their conversations!

I just got back from a work lunch & I hardly said a word - I feel bad because I was with colleagues that I won't know very well. They probably think I am totally miserable! (And I made the mistake of ordering chocolate mousse for dessert and ate a few bites before realizing that I shouldn't be eating it. So they probably think I am a space cadet too )

Anyone else feeling like this?

 

[Sam9kids]

Me!

Ive always been like that with all of them. I just like staying in and hybernating!

Today is the first time ive been out in ages! x

 

[kermie219]

I feel exactly the same! I don't want to do anything outside the house really I don't want to talk to people and I certainly don't want to go "hang out" with them! It's weird I am not really sure why? Hopefully it goes away after our babies are born!

 

[Smiley Lou]

oh same same same !

If my friends suggest going out I actually start to think of how I can get out of it. I have no desire at the moment to socialise. At the same time though, I just want hubbie to come home after work and not go out, which isnt really fair and I think will end in tears.

Maybe its the weather too and January is a bit of a dead month .... ???? Hoping so.

 

[Jellyt]

I'm the same too, I keep making excuses so I don't have to see people. I just want to sit at home all day!

 

[May Mum2b]

me too!!! - i am so tired and feeling so rubbishy i just want to go home curl up in bed with my cat and sleep until Due day.

i'm a nurse and i am struggling with trying to be happy and make conversation with my patients when all i want to do is have a go at them for turning up to their appointment when they could have stayed at home and let me have ten mins to myself to browse this forum with a cup of tea or catch some ZZZZ's...

its a horrible feeling, hope it fades soon for us all and january has something to do with it!

x

 

[happygal]

im the same, i leave the house as little as possible at the mo, im quite happy to spend the day at home on my own. im so snappy at the min, its a good job i dont see many people coz i just cant be arsed being polite lol

 

[emsiee]

Me!!

I cant be arsed going out of the house anymore...

I dont want to go out on nights out anymore and avoid going out as much as possible. Im happy just to stay in and plus I work at home all day so absolutely no reason to go out during the week.

 

[SKATERBUN]

Hi, yes i felt a little bit like this. towards the end of my first trimesta when you annouce that you are pregnant I was telling everyone even the cleaner at work knows as I was so happy and proud.
A few weeks on into my second trimesta my body is really changing and Ive put on a bit of weight so cant wear most of my normal clothes now, I seem to be wearing the one pair of elasticate pants all the time and feel like a fat tramp!
I dont want to resort to the unfashionable maternity clothes yet. I just feel yuk this week and dont want to see anyone, i especially dont want to be at work, I feel grouchy one minute and tearful the next and my tummy keeps stretchinG!!! Just dont feel myself at the moment and want to hide from everyone till I get to this so called blooming phase!
((the main thing is, people will understand))

 

[saturn73]

I feel the same way, on top of being really cranky and irritable! It must be the pregnancy?! I am not the same person I normally am. I sort of hate myself today!

 

[surprisebaby]

yeah me too!! people keep inviting me to stuff and I just don't want to go at all. I just want to organise baby stuff!

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

I'm the same!! It's not so much people that bother me it's more the going out to see them that I can't be bothered with!!

I don't like it at all.. I used to be a really sociable person but now I'm like the grinch.. It's really weird actually because one of my fears is being forgotten about when the baby get's here and not having any one to talk to While at the moment it really wouldn't bother me if I spent a whole week without one person saying a word to me lol. Hope this passes though!!

xxx

 

[LesleyP]

Yeah I'm the same!!

I haven't really seen any of my 'friends' or been out socialising since I found out I was pregnant which was October!! I've only been around my OH, his Mum and my family when I visited them at Christmas.

Thing is, the longer I leave it I know it will just get harder to get back into the swing of things - but at the moment all I want to do is snuggle up with the boyfriend and watch TV lol

 

[Miss-Boo]

I feel exactly like this, I'm just happy being on my own at the moment. I'd prefer to stay in and eat choccy and watch a film with hubby than go out with friends.
they probaby think i'm being really boring and antisocial but I just don't want to talk to anyone!
I feel different with close family though, I don't mind being around them.

 

[stevie123]

me too!
so glad im not the only one who feels this way. for me it was because i was feeling too ill to go out, but now im slowly feeling better i still carnt be arsed to do anything. i work full time so any spare time i have i just want to spend in bed or infront of the tv!
one thing it has taught me though is its made me see who my real friends are. Those that are real friends have still been coming to visit me at my home, despite me making no effort to go see them in the past few months. those that arent real friends i now barely see or speak to,i.e they cant be bothered to come see me even though they know ive not been well.

 

[Shady_R]

Yep know this feeling very well. My oh calls me a hermit, but i have been like it for a really long time. I used to love going out, but one day i didnt feel like it and thats how i have been since. On the odd occasions i meet my friends in town for a cuppa and a good goss, but thats about it. Luckily my friends know what im like and are very good with me. I would sooner stay home in my jamas and sleep most of the time, when the kids are in bed or school that is lol. I thought mine would have passed but it hasn't yet. Maybe one day ill just snap out of it the same way it started.

 

[Katherine]

I have never been very social anyway... But yes, just want to spend time with my DH...

 

[newmummytobe]

i am so glad about this thread - i thought i was just being boring! i am the same though, dont want to go out at all and as someone else said, i am expecting partner to feel the same and he doesnt so that is causing arguments. i can imagine it is only going to get worse the more pregnant i get! oh well, i just keep thinking of the money i am saving!

 

[SKATERBUN]

May just be because its winter. I dont feel like going out much in the cold and wet anyway at this time of year. Its worse now i cant go out for a drink or do anything too active and like I said i feel pants as none of my trendy clothes fit me anymore, I feel like a slob in baggy jumpers and leggings!
I think as we are roughly the same point in our pregnancies, you may find that when you start blooming that come Spring you may find more energy and enthusiasm to discuss how excited you are about becoming a mum. Thats my theory anyway, it doesnt seem like much is happening with me at the moment as my body is just changing and emotionally im up and down, but i think thats just the down sides, theres bound to be plenty of up's about being pregnant

 

[Snugglekins]

Hi everyone, this is my first time on here & reading your posts has given me some comfort in as much that I now know that I'm not on my own... I'm so excited to be pregnant (17 weeks) and I go to work & seem really happy but then as soon as I get home, I just feel totally miserable & can't stand being in the same room as my bf, we have fallen out quite a lot recently but he hasn't really been supportive to be honest which has led to rows ( he knew that I had a midwife appointment today and when I got home, he never asked me how it went, I feel so sad. I actually heard my baby's heartbeat today too & that was the best feeling in the world! I couldn't wait to tell everyone at work when I got back but felt really deflated when my bf never even asked how it went when I got home that night. He just popped out so I started writing a text to him to tell him that I was upset because he hadn't asked how it went but he came home just as I was about to send it, he asked why I wasn't really talking to him so I said that I'd send him the text that id just written which should jog his memory and he said 'is it about the midwife!' Before i sent it! so he obviously remembered then! What's wrong with men?

I feel very homely at the minute too, I'm usually a real socialite lol! Love to go out & enjoy myself but I don't want to be around people getting hammered & I'm just sat there with my OJ, I always try to avoid going out (sad) I'm sure it's to do with the pregnancy but really worried about my relationship, sorry this is a long post but if anyone has any friendly advise, I'd really appreciate it )