Anyone feel as though you have gained anything..

[moomoo]

Okay..When im feeling down i have trouble getting out of bed in the mornings...i struggle to look at pregnant people, and i'm generally horrified by the experience i've had..if i could go back and change it all for the good, i would.

But i do think from what i have been through, i feel as though it has made me grow up, appreciate life, and also i feel as though if i can get through this then nothing can stop me! On a more physical note, i now know what labour contractions are like, and if i can get through all that pain with nothing at the end of it...i can certainly do it when i finally have a baby to push out!!

Xx

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

i grew balls. i hardened to everything and everyone. nobody dares bulls*it me anymore coz i became a very aware person.
After one its dented me, 2 its cut deep, 3 was mentally scaring, 4 killed me. now im made of steel.

 

[coccyx]

Made me a stronger person. Have been pregnant 13 times and thankfully 4 went on to be viable pregnancies. I do get cross when i see women smoking and trying to diet when pregnant!! I also know a lot about miscarriage!!!!!!

 

[Rumpskin]

I am glad that some positives have come out of your miscarriages and that it has made you strongers ladies.

I do have moments of sorrow when I think at Christmas, I would have been half way through my pregnancy. The pain when it happened is still very much so with me.

I have hardened up but do not feel strong yet x

 

[Wishfull]

Hey ladies
Its a funny thing that we all feel we have al become a little stronger. Maybe its because noone in this world should have to ever lose a baby and its so traumatic the whole experince. From start to finish. Though im not truly ever sure if there will be a finish. Though id say i do value people and things in my life so much more and i have a totally different outlook. There is days when i struggle, really struggle to get out of bed. And also with christmas coming up is getting a little harder again. Not looking forward to xmas at all.
Take Care ladies.
xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[DaisyDuke]

I hope soon i will get to the point where it has made me stronger, but right now it just makes me feel angry bitter and twisted, non are nice qualities

 

[Wishfull]

I hope soon i will get to the point where it has made me stronger, but right now it just makes me feel angry bitter and twisted, non are nice qualities

Its a terrible little secret that most of us will have for a while were we have such hatefull thoughts an feel bitter to people who have done nothing wrong. I can hardly look at one of our family members with out wanting to cry. Plus in my head i say terrible things mostly that its not fair.

Take care sweetie.

 

[Loo]

It's given me a different outlook. Sorted out my priorities a bit.

x

 

[tillymum]

It has definately made me stronger, I've never been ill in my life apart from heavy colds etc so this has shown a side to me that I wasn't aware of. I don't take things for granted anymore, i'm more cynical and I have an even greater longing to be a mum than I ever thought possible.

I'm now worried sick I'll have problems carrying full term, and I'm angry at myself for putting TTc of until this yr, when time is running out as I'm not 36.

I'm worried I'll miscarry again, but next time I know what to expect and I know I'll get through it, as so many of you ladies have shown me that life goes on and we all survive.

I'm a survivor and I've learned that it's good to focus on the positives when moving forward (I hope)!

 

[tillymum]

Oh I forgot to add .... one thing I've gained that I didn't want ...is Weight!!!

 

[Jessa]

I absolutely feel that I gained something from my miscarriage in August. It was the first time that my husband and I had been pregnant and afterwards, as I was going through the physical and emotional pain, I saw a side of him that I had never seen before. He became an even more caring, compassionate, and supportive person than he was before. Our miscarriage experience brought us closer together, which I think is helping us to grow as a couple and prepare for the baby that I'm carrying now. I would never go back and change what happened before. Every experience in your life combines to make you into the person that you are -- and I love the person that I am.

 

[JASMAK]

Made me appreciate what I have (two children). Not that I didn't appreciate them, but, you know, I really know how lucky I am to have two children. Here I am at 2+ years TTC with three m/c. I can't imagine being in this situation WITHOUT kids-and many couples are.

 

[misstrouble]

It has made me realise how precious and wonderful my two children are, and how lucky and fortunate we are to have them. It has also made me realise what an awful thing it is to happen to any woman. Before it happened to me I did not realise how painful emotionaly and physicaly it really is, and now if anyone ever says to me that they have experienced a m/c I will have more time and compassion for them. x

 

[haaza123]

Its made me alot stronger too. I was one of those people who kept to themselves. Nowadays i tend to speak out my mind, not the best quality to have. I dont let people mess me about anymore or other people. But it has also made me slightly emotional. Actually maybe very emotional which i never used to be. Its made me look at life differently, mostly in a negative way. And it definately has made me become more closer to my dh even though we were very close before. I APPRECIATE HIM ALOT MORE Too.

xxx

 

[charliesmom]

I now know that my main goal in life is to have a big family with my wonderful husband. Before my m/cs, I was still young and focused on selfish entertainments.

I also know for sure that I will put career second to family, and most likely work only part time when I finally get to have my babies.

 

[KKSARAH]

I just think it has made me realise how precious life is and how special the ones we love and care about are.

Life is pretty crap at the moment, still very very raw and well I cant really put it into words how I feel but with the support and love from OH I feel stronger and just looking forward to when I will one day get to hold our baby in our arms.

There must be light at the end, thats whats coming me from going insane

 

[Drazic<3]

Its made me very aware and afraid of my body, and made me realise just how fragile is. you cant take anything for granted because you never know how long it will last.

And its made me long for a LO even more than i thought possible.

 

[honeybunch2k7]

It made me more sympathetic.

 

[rachjim98]

I have learned to not take anything for granted.

Having already had 2 great kids I felt this pregnancy would just go the same way (easy). Had the mind set of here we go again, well I was wrong. I appreciate my family more. I have always loved them with everything I am but now just looking at them and getting that hug or kiss melts me more then it ever did.

 

[Snowball]

I think before my losses I was quite a selfish person. I didn't go out of my way to help people because I couldn't relate to people who had been through a traumatic time iykwim?

Since losing our little boy it's made me realise how precious life is. I now know exactly what I want in life and not to let anything get in the way of my love for my children. I have obviously always love them unconditionally but I never realised just how lucky I was to have them.

I've matured as a person and now I know that if we ever get blessed with another baby then I will die a very very happy woman.