Anyone feel as though you have gained anything..

[bellazucca]

I absolutely feel that I gained something from my miscarriage in August. It was the first time that my husband and I had been pregnant and afterwards, as I was going through the physical and emotional pain, I saw a side of him that I had never seen before. He became an even more caring, compassionate, and supportive person than he was before. Our miscarriage experience brought us closer together, which I think is helping us to grow as a couple and prepare for the baby that I'm carrying now. I would never go back and change what happened before. Every experience in your life combines to make you into the person that you are -- and I love the person that I am.

You have such a great outlook on the situation. I never thought of it in this light. I have been bitter, angry, sad, jealous, but in the grand scheme of things, it has created a bond between me and my dh that we never had before this. Thank you for posting this. I think everyone who has suffered a loss can find comfort in your words.

 

[jo_79]

For the 1st 6 months after hollie died i withdrew and hated everything in life i couldnt be there for my daughter who was almost 4 at the time and i kept pushing her away from me and i ended up drinking all the time pushing people away who were trying to help me. I realised i had to pull myself together for the sake of chloe and that she was having a hard time trying to figure out what happened to her sister. Almost 3 years on and i feel im a lot stronger now & ive realised that the worst thing possible that could happen to a mother had happened and ive come through the other side and looking to the future now and feeling very lucky to have the little girl i have.

 

[Jessa]

I absolutely feel that I gained something from my miscarriage in August. It was the first time that my husband and I had been pregnant and afterwards, as I was going through the physical and emotional pain, I saw a side of him that I had never seen before. He became an even more caring, compassionate, and supportive person than he was before. Our miscarriage experience brought us closer together, which I think is helping us to grow as a couple and prepare for the baby that I'm carrying now. I would never go back and change what happened before. Every experience in your life combines to make you into the person that you are -- and I love the person that I am.

You have such a great outlook on the situation. I never thought of it in this light. I have been bitter, angry, sad, jealous, but in the grand scheme of things, it has created a bond between me and my dh that we never had before this. Thank you for posting this. I think everyone who has suffered a loss can find comfort in your words.

Thank you for your nice comments. I'm so glad that you found comfort in my words because so many times on here I've found comfort in other's words myself. A miscarriage is something that I never, ever envisioned in my future - something that I never even thought about. However, it has made me a better person. I definitely don't wish to have another one - I'm not sure I could handle it (although I'm sure I'd find a way). Eventually you work your way through the pain and come out on the other side. You may never forget, but I find that I'm moving on.

 

[m_t_rose]

It gave me perspective. Perspective that I don't think I would have ever had without experiencing a m/c for myself. My mother told me that she once had a mmc and I always thought it wasn't a big deal because it wasn't a "real" baby yet she had never met it how much could she want it. After experiencing a m/c myself I now know that you don't become a mother when your baby is born you become a mother the first time you see the positive pregnancy test. Even within a few short days of finding out I was pregnant I already had hope dreams and aspirations for my baby. You already begin to imaging what the look like and what they will grow up to be. You dream about you baby, spend a lot of time thinking about your baby, and spend time talking about your baby and all your pregnancy symptoms. I never understood how anyone could love someone they had never met until I experienced it myself. I never understood how someone could grieve for a person they never knew or how someone could long so strongly for something that they only had for a short time. My baby was loved from the moment I knew it was there and I still love my angel.

 

[Wishfull]

It gave me perspective. Perspective that I don't think I would have ever had without experiencing a m/c for myself. My mother told me that she once had a mmc and I always thought it wasn't a big deal because it wasn't a "real" baby yet she had never met it how much could she want it. After experiencing a m/c myself I now know that you don't become a mother when your baby is born you become a mother the first time you see the positive pregnancy test. Even within a few short days of finding out I was pregnant I already had hope dreams and aspirations for my baby. You already begin to imaging what the look like and what they will grow up to be. You dream about you baby, spend a lot of time thinking about your baby, and spend time talking about your baby and all your pregnancy symptoms. I never understood how anyone could love someone they had never met until I experienced it myself. I never understood how someone could grieve for a person they never knew or how someone could long so strongly for something that they only had for a short time. My baby was loved from the moment I knew it was there and I still love my angel.

Thats lovely sweetie. Its true. Its amazing how you can love someone you never met. How your heart aches for them with every breath. And the impact they leave on your life. I too find that i have a different out look now. I love everyone in my life and im trying to make the most of my life. Its still very hard to move on with such a heavy heart. But its getting easyer.

All my love to you wonderful strong lovely ladies.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[becky77]

yes i really appreciate my darling boys so much more i thank god every night that i have them, i did not realise what a miracle they were until this happened.

also i have become harder and less tolerant of people who make a fuss over pathetic thinks , my friend started to cry the other day cos her fan belt broke on her car and it made me so angry and i thought if thats the worst thing that can happen then get a life, not sure if i like that side of me though.


to all of you who have suffered a loss .

 

[bellazucca]

yes i really appreciate my darling boys so much more i thank god every night that i have them, i did not realise what a miracle they were until this happened.

also i have become harder and less tolerant of people who make a fuss over pathetic thinks , my friend started to cry the other day cos her fan belt broke on her car and it made me so angry and i thought if thats the worst thing that can happen then get a life, not sure if i like that side of me though.


to all of you who have suffered a loss .

Thanks Becky!