Anyone had 2 missed miscarriages in a row?

[Chimpette]

I just found out yesterday that i've had my 2nd MMC in a row, my 1st one was in December, which we found out about the day before xmas eve... what a great xmas we had...!

They said I should try and wait for the baby to pass naturally as I had a D & C In Jan and they are worried about scaring my cervix. So I'm waiting 10 days and then going back. I just started spotting today, although in Dec I started spotting and then bleeding, I bled on xmas eve, day, boxing day and the day after went for a scan on NYE and nothing had come out which is why we had the D&C. Hopefully that won't happen this time... fingers crossed!

We've also decided to give my body a rest for 6 months and hopefully 3rd time will the be the charm!

xx

 

[bethyb]

Aww hun.. I had a eprc procedure on my first and with my second it happened at home. I hope you have lots of support honey. thinking of u xx

 

[Kessa]

Hi there,
I was recently made redunandant from my job, at which point i found out i was pregnant. My partner & i where over the moon, we had been planning to start a family.. Everything was fine and i experienced no problems. I went for my fisrt scan only too be told my baby had no heart beat i was 10weeks but they said my baby had died at 8, this was so heartbreaking, i was so exicted by the thought of bring a mom, then for this to happen, it was alot to deal with. This happened in beginning of march 2010 & for the next couple of months i just felt empty & lonely although my partner was by my side. We decided to try again & in july 2010 i found out i was pregnant again. This time round i didnt want to get to over exicted because of my previous miscarrige, so my partner & i didnt make any plans or even talk about it too much. I worried everyday but tried not to get stressed out. We went for our 1st early scan & we got to see our babys heartbeat, i was over joyed to see our baby was doing well..we were then sent for another scan a couple of weeks later & i prayed that our baby would be ok & everything was going well again, but the nurse came back to tell us that our baby had passed away, again having no heart beat. I had no signs again that anything was wrong, & i dont understand why this keeps happening.
The docs say they wont investigate until the 3rd misacarrige which i feel is wrong, im so worried it will keep happening. As much as my partner is there for me i dont feel he understands. I feel like iv failed again, lonely & empty. There isnt anything anyone can say unless they been through this themeselves. I want to try again but im scared this will keep happening..
It doesnt feel fair, and no one can give me answers...i have to keep telling myself My angels we're called by god for greater purpose..

 

[susywoosy]

I am so sorry to hear of your losses. I'm in same position as you. I had my first m/c July 1st of this year. Didnt get a chance to see baby on scan or anything as we lost the baby at 6 and half weeks into the pregnancy. We were hurt and lost at the time but when I realised I was ovulating 3 weeks after the m/c, we decided to try again.

We assumed the 1st m/c was just bad luck, that it couldnt possibly happen again and so got PG again without even having a period. I was so shocked that i got PG again so soon but we were happy that I was PG and like you tried to stay positive but decided not to get too excited and just take things as they come.

I had arranged an early scan and assumed given I had made it to 9-10 weeks pregnant that everything would be okay. Anyway the day of the early scan, after being so excited about seeing our wee bean for the first time, I'd started bleeding lightly and having a few cramps but tried to remain positive.

By the time I'd gotten to EPAU for early scan, the cramps had increased and I knew it wasn't looking good. As I had predicted, the scan showed baby had died at 7 weeks and I was miscarrying again.

Fortunately for me, the nurses etc were great and I'm attending hospital on Monday for some tests to see if they can locate a problem. They are running some blood work and said that although this would normally happen after 3 m/c's, they were happy to offer me these tests bcos I had, had 2 m/c's in a row.

I lost my 2nd angel just over 2 weeks ago and I'm praying the tests reveal somethng easily remedied so as we can try again next year. I feel its too soon for us to try in the next few months as I want to recover physically and emotionally before we TTC. I think May/June next year might be right for us but if the tests reveal nothing, then I'm not sure I could take the risk again.

I do want a baby so much so maybe in time the opportunity to have a healthy pregnancy and a beautiful baby at the end of it will totally out weigh the fear of another m/c.

I would persist with trying to get tests done and I hope you get sme answers soon xxx

 

[franks17]

hey sorry to hear you've misscarried !!

me and my partner decided to try for another baby and i fell pregnant pretty much straight away!!
i miscarried i was 5 weeks gone, i started to bleed and by the time i had my scan the next day all of it had come away naturally!!! i was devestated !! my son is just over 2 and not a baby anymore so i really wanted another baby to fill a gap then a month on from the misscarriage (4 weeks) i found i was pregnant again !! went to the hospital monday and they told me my baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks im 10 weeks today ive just started to bleed im booked in to have the mini op to remove the baby tomorrow im very very gutted i no how you feel to have had 2 miscarriages in a row i am wondering if i ill ever have another baby and was the loses my fault !!

 

[lauraperrysan]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have suffered 5 miscarriages in a row after already having had one successful pregnancy. All my miscarriages were put down to bad luck. I'm now sat here feeding my 3 week old baby who was our 6th time lucky. Try not to convince yourself something is wrong, I made that assumption and it was soul destroying yet reassuring when they couldn't find a cause. Good luck ttc a sticky bean. It might be a bumpy journey to get there but it's worth all the heartache. Hugs and sticky dust to you Xx

 

[stranger]

I have no other children. I had two this year 9 months apart from each other. I have started some testing my obgyn says its very common to have 2 then go on and carry a healthy baby. Im young age 20.

Im so sorry for your loses and I pray you have a healthy preg next!

 

[bethyb]

Oh girls Im so sorry your hurting, I had two miscarriages and two positive pregnancy tests that didnt come to anything - baby obv didnt embed and my period came as usual (I was so desperate and getting pregnant at this point I became a little obsessed with pregnancy tests..
I still think theres stigma around miscarriage and I know even know I find it pretty hard to talk about it unless like u girlies u have been through it too, people are genuinely sorry but I felt they couldnt relate to me at all.. I managed to keep hold of my next preganacy and I have beautiful bouncing scarlett now and Im so glad I carried on, all my tests came back clear and I dont know why I lost my angels.
I just tell myself they werent going to be healthy babies and god made the decision to let them go before they suffered, who knows what the reasons are but if u think u can take the chance to try again then id tell you too as Scarlett wouldnt be here now if id have given up. Sending big loves to u all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[jfp_87]

Im so sorry for your loss. I have just went through my first miscarriage and I feel awful, so I can only imagine how your hurting. Just know it isnt your fault and that there is nothing you can do. If god has blessed you with one healthy baby, and you keep trying I am sure he will bless you with another. GL and Babydust to you. Stay strong!

 

[baby2loss]

Hiya,
I have never posted on these sites.
In Jan 09 I discovered I was pregnant, and I was scared but so excited. I never would have expected to be on of those people to lose their baby, but I did. 1 week before my dating scan, I started to bleed, within 24 hours, I passed the baby, I was the only one to see my baby, and it was so disturbing, that poor little thing no more.

I had been trying ever since, and discovered I was pregnant again in Aug 10, I was scared but soo excited, all the docs told me it probably wouldn't end in miscarriage again. Low and behold I got to 11 weeks 1 day, and my worst fear dark brown clots, then nothing for a day, then I started to bleed, I went to the hospital and they confirmed the baby had died 2 weeks earlier at 9 weeks. What I do not understand is I had a scan at 6 weeks 5 days they found a heart beat, again at 8 weeks 5 days everything seemed fine, the thought that 2 day or so later my baby died, and I had been walking round with a dead baby for 2 weeks. I ended up having a bad bleed, and was rushed in to hospital where they used forceps to remove the baby - they have said they will run tests on the foetus.

the nurses all say it doesn't mean it will happen again, but as I have no kids it feels as though I will never be a mum. Im not coping too well, and can't see past anything but tryin to conceive for so long, and miscarriage everytime. Can anyone offer advice, I really need some.

Thanks

 

[Lucia]

I had two missed miscarriages in a row (both within a year). I am now on pregnancy #3 and hoping for the best....I know how hard it is to lose one after another and how badly it makes you feel about yourself....You just have to believe that it will happen and keep faith. That's the only thing keeping me going really.

 

[baby2loss]

Hiya,

I hope all goes well for you this time, how far along are you?

Did you get all the statistics and it won't happen again thrown at you when it happened both times.

I am crossing everything for you, and hope all goes well

 

[mpepe32]

Hiya,
I have never posted on these sites.
In Jan 09 I discovered I was pregnant, and I was scared but so excited. I never would have expected to be on of those people to lose their baby, but I did. 1 week before my dating scan, I started to bleed, within 24 hours, I passed the baby, I was the only one to see my baby, and it was so disturbing, that poor little thing no more.

I had been trying ever since, and discovered I was pregnant again in Aug 10, I was scared but soo excited, all the docs told me it probably wouldn't end in miscarriage again. Low and behold I got to 11 weeks 1 day, and my worst fear dark brown clots, then nothing for a day, then I started to bleed, I went to the hospital and they confirmed the baby had died 2 weeks earlier at 9 weeks. What I do not understand is I had a scan at 6 weeks 5 days they found a heart beat, again at 8 weeks 5 days everything seemed fine, the thought that 2 day or so later my baby died, and I had been walking round with a dead baby for 2 weeks. I ended up having a bad bleed, and was rushed in to hospital where they used forceps to remove the baby - they have said they will run tests on the foetus.

the nurses all say it doesn't mean it will happen again, but as I have no kids it feels as though I will never be a mum. Im not coping too well, and can't see past anything but tryin to conceive for so long, and miscarriage everytime. Can anyone offer advice, I really need some.

Thanks

I am so sorry I really have no advice as I have just gone through my second m/c and am not coping really well either but I just wanted you to know you are not alone. I have no children yet either and wonder too if I'll ever have a successful pregnancy. Just try to keep your mind occupied and give yourself time to heal.

 

[baby2loss]

Hiya
Thanks for your comments.
Lets hope one day we are both on here giving other women hope. To say it can happen.
x

 

[Claire788]

Yup, my Lo was my 3rd time lucky rainbow baby! Only difference is, my gyne told me to take baby aspirin l! Voilà!

 

[baby2loss]

Hiya,
Thanks for the encouragement. The only thing I want to ask, did they tell you to take that because of blood tests they did on you. I asked several different nurses whilst I was in hospital, and they said don't take baby aspirin, I will speak to my doc when I go Tues, but I get the feeling they will say don't take it. Did your gyn tell you pro's and cons for taking it?

 

[bethyb]

I was told not to take it, think it varies but if ur concerened speak to ur doctor, i broke down on a few occasions at my local doctors and they were very good and helped put my mind at ease, my doctor says this is more common than u think although when it happens to you its very hard to comprehend and to take on board. Id say stay positive and life is a battle at times, dont give up just yet, xxxxxxxxxxxx
lucia congrats honey and goodluck, baby2loss welcome to bnb we all here if u need to talk about it x

 

[baby2loss]

Thnks bethyb
I hope 1 day in the near future I go on to have a healthy baby like you.
Did you take aspirin?
x

 

[cacahuete]

i guess i should also add to this post... i have just had my second mc in 8 months, and i too dont have any kids yet, they are bringing me back in in 6 weeks to take some bloods to see what my hormone levels are, and then hopefully we will try again, i have heard so many people go on about baby asprin, i think i am defnitily gonna look into it!

 

[baby2loss]

At least they have agreed to do some blood tests. I rang the doctor last week, and asked them over the phone, they said point blank no, until iv lost another. But I have an appt with a different doc tomorrow, so Il see what they say.
All I can say is the home ovulation tests i started 2 months before I conceived said I was ovulating but the doc said not, then the month after the home test said the same as the month before and I conceived, so maybe there is something with my hormones. I'm just scared it will take me over a year to get preg again, and then the same end result. I'm wondering whether to give it one more shot then give up, cos it doesn't look as tho its meant to be for me. Any other subject and I would just keep going, but I am so sensitive on this subject, the only thing really that can break me - other than that im ice queen haha