Anyone have a good relationship with the father?

[Sadness_78]

Hi - my OH and I are really struggling and it is entirely likely we will go our separate ways. I'm so scared of the impact this will have on our little boy (he's 2). He adores his Daddy and he is a great father, just that there are issues between us I don't think can be resolved (see my thread in home life & relationships for info if you're curious).

I just could really do with hearing some happy endings. I know he will want to be as involved as possible, he will see LO as much as he can and I would do all I could to enable that. Is it crazy to think we might be able to do things like first day of school as a family, day out to the zoo altogether? Would this be too confusing for LO or would it be good for him to see us a united force, even though we're not together?

I feel awful right now

 

[Crumbsx]

I don't have a happy story for you, however I think it's great what your doing I don't know your situation or anything, but as long as your both committed to your son and making sure he has the consistent involvement of both the mother and father, then I can't see a problem.

You just both need to get past the problems you both have had whilst together, and think of your son I don't think it would be confusing for your son, I think it would benefit him to see you both as a united force. You may not have been able to continue a relationship, but you can continue to be a family unit for your son - that's great!

However just as a warning, remember that at some point your both going to get new partners, do you think that would impact anything? Like would either one of your new partners be okay with yous playing happy families etc?

Good luck I think it's great that your seeing past your and FOBs differences for your son.

 

[Sadness_78]

The issue of other partners did cross my mind. Tbh I'm not interested in anything other than my little boy right now, and if a potential partner came along he would have to accept that LO comes first or he can get lost!

 

[Crumbsx]

That's a good attitude to have
Would your sons father have the same attitude?
Because you both need to be on the same wavelength

 

[Laura2919]

Well all things were going ok between us and then he started lying and it changed everything. To be honest we haven't really argued in ages because I am just at a point where I cant even be bothered to argue with him.

It all depends on you though, do you think you can keep it civil?